My friend quit her job again...

February 27, 2011 10:43pm CST
I have my friend who can't seem to find satisfaction in every job that she have. She's been often jumping from one job to the other and often get depressed every time she lost her job. She told me that she's not happy with her job that's why she quit, which I think is not a good reason. It's not a good thing on quitting job as it could not be good record on her part, and she needs to be patient and understanding on every situation she have. What do you think? How often do you quit your job?
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
hi there. so far i haven't quit from the jobs i had before, since anyway they were just for a few months so i can't really say i was already tired of it. i only look for a job and work because i had so much vacant time during college. but now i have already graduated, but i cant work yet since i have not taken the board exams yet. but yeah i think it is possible for her to not be happy with her job. i also felt that when i was a tutoring a foreigner with her English Language in a sense that, i was in college but did not have enough money for myself. i had allowance but it was only enough for school and needs but i could not really buy things like my clothes and other things so i still continued it. i did not really get tired of it because it was not like a whole day class and anyway i am being paid :) hehe. so yeah i believe that if one loves his/her job, it wont be hard for him/her, if he enjoys it, then it wont feel like he/she really is working :)
28 Feb 11
I agree. One should really love his or her job to be happy. Another thing we should consider before quitting a job is an alternative job. Before leaving a job, one should have a back up plan. Its very difficult to be jobless nowadays.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hello there renzoray and ganza_lovers :) it is true that if we enjoy our work, we would always look forward to another day at work and just enjoy what we do. and yeah that is very correct, i used to not like and actually hate the course i took up in college but my mother forced me to do so, but later on i was starting to like it and then love it, although it was tiring and very hard, it is something that i would love to continue and pursue someday, but i just graduated 2 years ago and i still have to take my exams, hopefully i can pass so i can start looking for a job already. be safe and happy Mylotting :)
1 Mar 11
That's what we all want to have a job that we love and enjoy so at the end of the day, even though we are tired but we are still happy and looking forward on another day, simply because we are happy with it, we are happy with what we are doing and as you said, it feels like we are not working rather we are enjoying while being paid. There are other thing as well, sometimes you learn to like your job even though you didn't like it at first but if you give time for yourself to learn to accept it and be it part of your life, then sooner you will enjoy your job. That's what I think. Thanks for the comment
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
I guess she's still that lucky finding another job after the other. I also agree to most responses here that it's not good for here because in the long run she will face the consequences of it. She must learn first what kind of job she would prefer and not just apply and apply. Doing so will help her understand what she wants or what she needs about a job.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
If her purpose for landing a job is just because of the salary then process will continue to go on. What she needs is career fulfillment. How can she support her needs if she's always jumping from one job to another. Her financial status won't be stable that way but if she has to pursue her career then I guess she might not have much trouble about finances. I am not so sure about this but that's just what I have observed.
1 Mar 11
Yes, she needs to know what she really wants,,most of the time she applied for a job because she needs one and she's out of budget so needed to land a job than being broke and it gives her depression. Everybody here want's her to stick to her job and not jumping to another because as you said later on she will face the consequence of her actions. Which is not good. Thanks for the comment
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Feb 11
Hi Ganza, Welcome to Mylot. Your friend is lucky that she is able to continue to find jobs after quitting like that. Hopefully she is young and will soon find one that is suited for her. It really does not look good on your record to have a whole string of jobs that you start and quit early on and none that you've stuck with. If she doesn't change her pattern, soon she may find that no one is willing to hire her at all. Jabs are scarce and a lot of people looking and willing to take just about anything they can find.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Mar 11
Ya , some people just have to learn the hard way. She'll figure it out and in the meantime, she is lucky to have such a loving and caring friend as you.
1 Mar 11
Thank you for welcoming me on the site sid. Indeed she's very lucky as of the moment where she can have a job soon after she quit. That's what I see on her future and that's what I often told her that soon she will have a bad Karma, because of what she did to all her employers and other thing there are lots of people who want the job she have and but it's just given to her and she just throw it away. In due time she will realized and promised she will regret it, anyway, I am still here and do care for her. Thanks for the comment
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
A pleasant day ganza_lovers, There are a lot of reason why someone is quitting from a job. We cannot just make a judgment to those who always do their resignation, as maybe they have a valid intention in doing this. On the other hand, job hopping is not amiable to see in ones curriculum vitae, as, it will somehow connotes a not so good impression on applying a job.
1 Mar 11
Yes, of course we can't judge why other people keep on jumping from one job to another. It's their choice and its their life. And they have their own reasons, and that's part we find it hard to understand and that thing we can't seem to fathom. You're right it's not good in our record of employment and soon my friend will find it hard to land a job. Thanks for the comment
• United States
28 Feb 11
I think it depends on the situation that your friend is in. Does she make more money every time she quits and gets another job? If that is the case, then it's a stepping stone to better things and she should keep doing it until she's happy with the job she has. If that's not the case then you need to tell her to stay at one job for a certain amount of time until she is comfortable with it and does not quit. It's the best way to control that urge of hers to keep quitting. I've been at my job for 8 years and don't plan on ever quitting.
1 Mar 11
On my friend, too bad sometimes because the money that she earn while working on the previous job is just enough for her to use on applying for another job. She didn't have any extra money, and I told her what if you get sick and you didn't have extra money and she told me she's healthy.lol Yes, it's important for her to learn to stay on the job even for awhile as to make her able to save enough money before quitting as we didn't know what's the future ahead of us. Thanks for the comment
@aion06 (49)
• Mexico
28 Feb 11
Well, your frien should find something she like so she can stop quitong hehe. I never had this problem, im just 19 and worked for 3 different companies, my firs job was for FOX TV channel and worked as extra in the tv series, the secon was at selling some computer stuff and now i work as grafic desighner and really love my actual job!
1 Mar 11
Yes, she needs to find a job she really wants as soon as possible so she won't be keep on quitting her job. Good for you that you landed a job that you really love because that will give you contentment and happiness. Thanks for the comment
@aion06 (49)
• Mexico
1 Mar 11
Yea, im realy lucky for finding this job, and the best part i work at home just go to the offcice 1ce a week.
• India
28 Feb 11
This is my 4th company and my tenure has been good in all places I go. I stay upto 2.5 years in a place and when I actually get a more challenging offer I look for change. In my tenure, my first company I sticked on for a long time that is more than 5 years.
1 Mar 11
Good for you ganesh, you stick to your job longer, I just wish my friend did that on her job. That's what my friend often told me, she want a real challenging job, the not that will use her abilities and measure her talents. And she often told me when she got a job that it's what she wanted but give her a week or month and she will say, oh it's boring and I want to quit and there you go before I told her no, the next day she didn't have a job.lol Thanks for the comment
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
28 Feb 11
Hmmmm within few months i'm going to join in a company, i'm waiting for call letter but i think in order to fix to a job , one should have enough patience and they should try to enjoy in what ever field they are in. But earlier while studying i used to teach part-time tutions but after teaching the students for 1-2 yrs i used to have various reasons to get rid of them but i never felt bad because people used to love to be my students because i used to care them much and they secured really a very good score in my guidance but their parents always used to bargain the fee so finally i gave up at one time so that i can concentrate on my studies.........
1 Mar 11
Yes, I agree with you. One should learn to be patience and try to enjoy whatever kind of job they have. They will learn to love and enjoy if they give their self and time to learn and enjoy and accept the job that they have. They need to open their mind and heart on it. Unless you have other things that you are into it, like you, you want to focus into something that it's reasonable to quit. Thanks for the comment
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I guess it really depends on each person.. Some would quit right away without even testing their new job for a year or something, but there are some who just don't have the patience, and who just follows their heart. I don't see anything wrong with finding the perfect job for yourself, it may not look good on your resume, but you will feel better by doing to. And hopefully your friend will be able to find the perfect job for her.
1 Mar 11
Thank you. That's what I also hope for my friend. Yes, it's alright to quit your job and find a real job that you really want and enjoy because should be enjoy and living a job that really sucks and makes you depressed and sad is like putting your self in a grave. But one should learn as you mentioned to test and see and experience the job and if it's not really working then you can quit, than quitting before you know it. Thanks for the comment
@renzoray (59)
28 Feb 11
There are several factors which I think we should consider before quitting a job. One of which I think should be the sense of happiness. No matter how high paying your job is, you can never really be truly happy if you are not passionate with it. Start by thinking about your passion. Work with your passion, then happiness will follow.
1 Mar 11
You're right, having a job that you are passionate about will surely gives you happiness. But when it comes to my friend, I don't know what she's really passionate about, she does have lots of hobbies, well I think the problem with her is she didn't know what she really want and that's not good. But I will help her find out. Thanks for the comment
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 11
I think your friend has a problem in her character to work as an employee. I believe he should set up his own business so that he can have a better flexibility to manage his time or schedule. ha! ha! ha! I were the same as him too. I couldn't stay on the same company for the same job for too long. I found myself very uncomfortable to work for someone. Since I knew about my weakness, I had to start for my own. Never waste his time and start planning early for his own business now.
1 Mar 11
Ah, you are absolutely right. That's what I also think about her, that she have some issuer on her character or her attitudes towards other, she just can't seem to talk about it with me. Got a good idea, she should start her own business so she didn't have any problems dealing with other people and she can manage her own time and everything that she likes, too bad she didn't have a capital but I will talk about it to her. Thank you for the suggestion.
@Soochow (40)
• China
28 Feb 11
It is more and more common for people to job-hop because of their unsatisfaction in the job they land. Especially in today's society, the rat race really throws us into great despair and pressure.So think well before you make moves.
1 Mar 11
It could be in some situations and cases where it gives you lots of pressure, actually that's what my friends looking for, a kind of job that gives her lots of challenges and pressure to keeps her alive and kicking. Something that will give her challenge each day,as she didn't like a job that's more like a routine. But still it's important to think first before making any decisions. Thanks for the comment
• United States
28 Feb 11
I know what you mean. I had an ex that had a new job basically every time I talked to her. It was truly ridiculous. Her excuse? "I didn't like the people there" or "I wasn't confortable." I asked her if she was being harrassed by co-workers and whatnot, she told me no. I gave her a piece of mind several times. Why would you quit a job in this economy without having something else lined up? You need a plan in order to succeed - something that she didn't have, and thus, has yet to experience success. If you're only in a job a few days or weeks, you haven't even given yourself the time to get used to it and learn the position. Thankfully, we weren't together when she starting "working."
1 Mar 11
Ha..ha..ha.. Well I think they are on the same boat. Although when it comes to my friend she just told me that she get bored with her job, she likes challenges and she didn't like having a routine, which I think sometimes its part of the job. So I told her to find something that's challenging for her, but when she got one, she told me it's not enough. And I said, what's enough for you and she replied. "I don't know" wow! that's the worst thing. Didn't know what you really want. I think there are just people who can't seem to be satisfied and worst didn't know what they want in life. Thanks for the comment
• China
28 Feb 11
I only work half an year,my boss is a very kindful man.So I don't have this ider. Maybe someday,I may quit my job when i am boring with it .
1 Mar 11
It's good that you boss is so kind of you and of course your co-worker as well. For me one thing that one will keep her/his job is when she likes those person or let say she gets along with her office mates, in that way one will be happy and satisfied, although it's really different with my friend. And we have different preferences when it comes to job. Thanks for the comment
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
28 Feb 11
Well your friend needs some help with her depression and she also needs a reality check. With the economic situation of the world today it is crazy to quit your job period! I could understand if perhaps she felt in danger of her life or if there were something malicious going on but it sounds like she just does not want to work. It will look very bad on her record for quitting so many jobs. I hope you can get through to her.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Maybe your friend is still young and still lack self direction. Give her time and sooner she'll realize and start to come up with what she wants in life.
1 Mar 11
You're right, my friend is young she just graduated 2 years ago and wow I can't count on how many jobs she got in the past. And that's one thing that really makes me worried about her, on when she will realized and be serious with her life. She's very idealistic and want a dream job that's why she's always jumping and getting the job that she didn't like. Hey, life is not like that, where you can easily run away when things went wrong, you need to learn to face it. And that's why she can't be happy with her job. Thanks for the comment.
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
My sister is actually just like her. She jumps into one job to another having all sorts of reason. I gave her advises but of course she has her own decision on what she wants to do. The sad part though, she's old enough to earn her living but until she still ask for support from my parents because she's always having this problem of landing the job she likes. If she ask for your advises give her a sound one but let her find her way. After all it's her life and she should know where she is failing. Good luck
1 Mar 11
Ah, the same thing with my friend. That's what I told her that soon she will get older and don't have a good job, because she have this bad habit of jumping one job to another. And I don't want her to have regret in the future, as of now she didn't have a problem on getting a job because I know she's good, it's just that she didn't give importance on her job and didn't care with her employer as well. But that's her life and soon she will realized I hope not too late. Thanks for the comment
• United States
28 Feb 11
One should really try and find a job before quitting a job because one will never know when they will need the past employer again. For reference and or perhaps to return some day. Hopefully soon she will understand that it is important to develop a good work history record or she will find herself not finding any descent type of work later in life. I only quit once in my life but only because I was completely at my wits end and had already contact the employer prior to that one who agreed that I could use him as a reference and so it was not difficult to find a new job there after.
1 Mar 11
You're right, it's always best to have another job first before quitting, it's like having a reserve before you have nothing, as it's not easy going around and find a job that you really want, and job won't come running after you, especially when you are known to be a quitters. It needs a lot of sacrifice and patience and I hope that's the thing that friend will soon learn in life, because that's very important. Like you, I am hoping as well, that she will understand the importance of having a permanent job as she's not getting younger and lots of people who is younger and looking for a job, so competition is getting tough as the years go by. Thanks for the comment
@rettadou (58)
• China
1 Mar 11
i think your friend should find a job and work now,to tell a truth,i am going to quit my job, i am working in this cmpany 1 year now.i suddenly find that i am nor happy with my work.and i fell so tired with my job.
• United States
28 Feb 11
No, it doesn't look good on your resume to have multiple jobs and the reason for quitting them is because you quit because you're not happy. Employers start to look at you as a person who can not find SOMETHING to be happy about the job, so why should they take time out of their busy schedule to interview you, hire you, set you up in their payroll department and insurance (if the job supplies insurance) for you to find something you don't like about the job and then quit. Employers like to see lengthy employment times when they review your resume.
1 Mar 11
You're absolutely right. That's one of the most important thing they will consider in hiring a new employee, that's the length and the gap of the work that the person have on work experience. Although if one can make a reason out of it, something like really relevant then, it that way one could make it and got the job he/she wanted. Thanks for the comment.