Friends ditching me

@chicko (86)
India
February 28, 2011 11:18am CST
Hello everyone, please help with this one urgently. I have had a couple of friends (all different groups, not the same group), ditching me... Its so bugging when we have planned up something, and I keep looking forward to it and all of a sudden just half an hour before meeting time, they call to say somethings come up and they cant make it (which I believe is a lie) They come up with nicely madeup stories at the last min ... How do I deal with such people? Should I also ditch them at the last minute the next time we plan to meet? So that they will know how it feels to be ditched like that. I mean if you are not interested in meeting, then why make a plan? and waste your time and mine too? I believe if u promise to meet, just make it anyhow.... Anyone can easily make out that you are lying about your reasons for not coming... How to deal with such friends who take you for granted, especially how to make them realise how they hurt me by ditching at the last min?
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2 responses
• United States
28 Feb 11
If they constantly do that to you, I wouldn't even bother with them at all anymore. I wouldn't even take the time to do the same thing to them to see how it makes them feel. I mean, it happens that people have to cancel last minute, but if this happens nearly every time you try to hang out with them, then I think something else is up. I would talk to whoever is constantly doing this to you and say how you feel. They might get defensive whether they are lying about it or not, though.
@chicko (86)
• India
28 Feb 11
Oh no they dont do it all the time. But once I really wanted to go out and chill out..so i aasked my friend. But my friend ditched. I planned with another pal next weekend and she ditched.. suddenly all my friends' relatives got sick! And next wknd i was supposed to visit a friend, it was all planned out and we were going out for dinner after that..but she called just half an hour b4 to inform she has to visit a sick relative!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Hi. chicko. Welcome to myLot! Are you sure that these friends aren't still going out to where you were supposed to be meeting them at. If they are doing this, that is very trifling! If not, then it is still wrong that they ditch you at the very last minute. I think that you should stop being their victim. Stop agreeing to go out with them the next time, that way you won't have to worry about getting stood up. Don't do the same thing that they have done to you. Two wrongs never make a right. Be better than that. You can confront them and tell them that you don't appreciate how they have been ditching you, especially at the very last minute. This is too much of an coincidence that something is always coming up when you have to go out together. I think that your friends are just lying to get out of hanging with you. If they don't want to hang out with you, they should just be honest with you, instead of leading you on constantly!~