children addicted on playing computer games

@shuley (369)
March 1, 2011 8:56pm CST
I have two sons and they are both in high school and each had a computer for them to make their research, assignments and projects at home or play games during holidays or no classes. But my problem is they don't study anymore or they don't make assignments, sometimes when I turn off their computer and the moment I sleep they open it again. I'm thinking to cut internet connections but I need it also. How about you, can you easily control your children in playing computer games?
7 responses
• Abbeville, Mississippi
2 Mar 11
well it is not just computer games. my little brother lives on play station or what ever hecan find to hook up to the t.v. at the time. he will not do not do anything like chores or homework. so i know how you feel about that.
@shuley (369)
3 Mar 11
Hello maryjane, yes really a big problem to me, they are boys their being male chauvinist in them, That I have to control also my anger because my hypertension will attack me. I always tell them "son please do your part ,study it's for your own good".
@honquoh (22)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
hello there! i think you should talk to them and be very strict with their use of computers specially if they have a lot of researches to do or if its their exam period. why not hide your AVR before you go to sleep? this is what my friend do with her younger brother who's also addicted to computer games.
@shuley (369)
3 Mar 11
Hello honqouh, you know when there is exam especially grading period exam they won't tell me, I will only know if their classmates post on facebook. That's why I'm hiding also the modem of internet its' smaller than the AVR. Really a big problem to me, sometimes I'm thinking much better no computer with its internet connection or how if it was never invented, then I won't have any problem {em}LOL{em}.
@sunny5u (2072)
• India
2 Mar 11
Hi shuley, i don't have kids but my cousin always sits in front of computer and start playing games, finally i have deleted all his favourite games from the system and then i changed internet password, it gave an end to the problem.
@shuley (369)
3 Mar 11
Hello sunny, hahaha, I can't delete their uploaded games and even if I can they will restore it, they know more on computer. But what I'm doing sometimes is to hide the modem of internet. I bring out if they will promise to study but days past they forgot their promises. I always told them "please study it's for your future".
@cebumd (65)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
I will share my brother's strategy since I do not have a children of my won. What he does is he has a single computer for the kids and there is just a schedule for their computer time everyday and on weekends that the kids should follow. He intentionally did not provide each of them a laptop to control their online and computer activities. So they will not only think of computers, he makes sure they have extracurricular activities or other hobbies so he enrolls the children in violin classes, art and dance class depending on their interest. That way, the children are occupied if they are not studying and they develop their personality and talents as well. From what I observe, it is effective.
@shuley (369)
2 Mar 11
Hello cebumd, before we had one unit of computer because they always fight especially time of the one playing is over and his game not yet finish so they will argue and then fight {em}LOL{em}, so we decided to buy another one but the problem again their studies, but I will continue advising them sometimes if I lost my temper and they won't listen I just unplug the computer. Thanks and happy mylotting to you.
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
I'm still single but I want to share my opinion. =) I also do play computer games. It is my way of releasing the stress I've gained from school works and stuff. In spite of that, I do not have any problem with my standing in school. It's just my outlet of the stressors accumulated on a certain day. The issue now is, I tend to be addicted with some computer games too. I eat supper late at night for I've played it straight for how many hours. I also experienced having no sleep for it's already time for school. Despite of that negative side, I was still able to comply what is expected of me in school. I guess, it also helps me in times of a more stressful situations in school like on days we were having our internship. There are a lot of sleepless nights and probably, I became used to it that I survive the throughout the years. It's not that I want you to tolerate your children from being addicted to computer games. Just talk to them on how it made you feel and tell them the reason why they have to be regulated. We know that not all computer games are of bad influence, some of which are of lessons as well but too much on something is not good at all.
@shuley (369)
2 Mar 11
Hello blosie, Yes I want them to play and not to put pressure on them it's just that they don't study their lessons anymore, the younger one I saw his class record and no projects/assignments recorded, makes me feel bad, I told him to study hard and computers are should be past time only. I just keep on advising them, hoping they will change their attitude. Thank you for your comment. I'm reading your comment to my eldest son {em}smile{em}.
2 Mar 11
No its not easy. I don't want to be strict on him. Or make him feel like prisoned. But even though he is responsible towards his studies. He hate's to get punished for not completing the assignment or homework. He is very responsible. I believe I am very lucky to have a child like this. But may be because I have molded him like that from his childhood.
@shuley (369)
2 Mar 11
Hi, I envy you my friend for having a child like him. Me, sometimes I lost my temper if they don't listen to me and not to stop playing I just automatically unplug the computer.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
I also have a cousin that is addicted in computer games. His mom was always stress on thinking what is the best way to discipline him. My auntie got an idea because his son was afraid to his dad, now her husband is the one that telling to their son to turn off the computer because its already late at night and because my cousin is afraid to his dad he really turn of the computer.