Pregnancy - it sucks sometimes...ok most of the time

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
March 2, 2011 7:06pm CST
I was watching this movie last night titled "labor pains" something in it caught my attention, i like it minus the actress - lindsay lohan, she is another topic lol.. but something about the movie story that was frank and honest. It talked about pregnancy and how come women act as if it is the most wonderful thing in this world. I admit, i did not like most of it. I am being frank here especially to myself. lol and in that movie, it was frank, the women there openly said that too. Personally i hated my pregnancy because i was toooo bloated that i feel i was like a walking balloon. for all my 3 pregnancies it was like that, i got so big lol plus the hormones were like crazy. i would end up crying for no reasons at all. I also hated the farting part where at times we cannot control. It is just frustrating sometimes where women would act as if it is the greatest thing in the world..yes having the baby was great but the pregnancy journey was not... the only greatest thing i love was feeling my baby kick, that was the best but the part where you vomit, you get nausea, the part where you feel like your armpits are dark as hell was not great, the part where i felt like my feet were so big.. and oh one great part where it was great was when my bo*bs got so big hahaha but then afterwards it was not great when the baby came out and it was sore and lactating. that was not great too.. i am not saying that you should not get pregnant , but please some women do pretend it was the greatest thing! lets just be honest and say it was not...or in my part it was not..do some women agree with me? who does not?
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@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
Yes I agree, Its really hard to be pregnant especially in the first three months or first trimester of pregnancy where I could feel the hardest part of it like vomiting, dizziness, unexplainable cravings and being so lazy and sleepy all the time. When I was pregnant with my first child, I ended up vomiting till I reach my 9 months of pregnancy, it was really hard but its all worth it when I bring her into this world, no amount of words will explain my joy when I finally see her after 9 months of difficult pregnancy, finally I became a mother then. Right now, I am going to the same process once again for Im pregnant with my second child after 7 years of waiting. My tummy keeps on moving while Im typing and it gives me so much joy knowing that im gonna be a mother again soon. I could endure all the hardships and pain just for me to have another bundle of joy in my life... HAve a nice day ahead!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
yes but after all those hardship and hatred, we will still go through it again..i had it thrice! hahaha
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
Nice to hear that!
• Malaysia
3 Mar 11
Actually during all my three pregnancies, I don't recall having morning sickness, unexplainable cravings but the lazy and sleepy part, yep! The part that was terribly painful was childbirth! But the funny thing is, when they came into the world and you look at them, the pain seems worth it. You know what I mean? It's as though the pain was totally forgotten once you realized that you brought a life into this world. You treasure their childhood, your patience is tested during their teenage years and when they are grown, you wish they were kids again! Sigh!
• Canada
3 Mar 11
Am I the only one who actually enjoyed being pregnant? I remember it like it was yesterday even though it was 10 years ago. I had a bit of morning sickness, but it didn't last very long. I never had horrible cravings, just a few basic ones, like for sour cream and onion potato chips, but that was it. My pregnancy was uneventful. I loved the feeling of my son kicking me when he first started, I used to play games with him by pushing back on his foot when he'd kick. I did that for months. I never got very big, only gained about 20lbs, which wasn't too bad. Winter wasn't so bad, I didn't need much for maternity clothing. The only problem I had was going into preterm labor at 32 and a half weeks. It was not fun going into labor early, but I didn't even know it, except for the fact that my water had broken. It was 2 more days before I had my son, he weighed only 4lbs, but left the hospital after only 3 weeks, which surprised everyone, he was supposed to stay for at least 7 weeks they said. If I could do it again, I would, and I probably will in the next couple of years. I'm just hoping that it works out better than the last and I carry to term.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
then you are lucky kris! some women like you are indeed lucky.. mine was not as smooth as yours. hehehe..
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 11
i rise my hand that is the uncomfortable part in my life. looks like everything that i do is wrong. and everything that people surround me is wrong nothing seems be right and the worst is i can't make them right and don't know how
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
those were just the hormones ifa..mine were also horrible
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 11
i wonder if there is any doctor or any medicine or maybe any food which could make these hormones are normal just like when we used too. it feels like i am somebody else while in pregnancy.
@toniganzon (49868)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
I would like to be honest with you. I love being pregnant and i'm not pretending at all. I was very skinny since i could remember when and i was not sexy at all coz i feel like i don't have boobs or curvaceous body at all. I dreamed of being pregnant since i was in high school and yes i would dream of it all the time when i was sleeping. When i got pregnant i started to gain weight and believe me i was not overweight and in fact my doctor told me i was underweight. I never experienced morning sickness at all. The only sign that i was pregnant was my menstrual period didn't come and i was sleepy all the time. I was very active still going to law school at that time and never missed a single class at all. I was happy to gain some curves and when you look at me from behind you wouldn't think i'm pregnant! I was too excited to give birth and i agreed to have an induced labor and yes at that time the pain was terrible, but i was in pain only for three hours and at that time i wasn't feeling bad but more of excited of seeing my baby. I liked that kind of pain. I never asked for epidural and i was still walking till i can't bear it no more and i was rushed into the delivery room and then the baby came out. I was in the delivery room only for 30 minutes. God knows i want to get pregnant again because i love the feeling of being pregnant and it's no hush hush thing hahaha! I guess i'm just strange then!
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
wow!!! you are amazing then, i so hope i am like you.. but it is indeed different from every person toni, and wow you are one lucky lady and i also admire because you went to law school..that is like part of my dream too..but having 3 kids, its hard to juggle my time plus work..i hope i could.
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
3 Mar 11
I definitely agree with you on this one. I just gave birth to my daughter two weeks ago and I'm so relieved for my pregnancy to be over! It was my first and there certainly were some wonderful moments like getting to see her in the ultrasounds, hearing her heartbeat, the first few kicks, and precious moments like that which are irreplaceable. But, as a whole, being pregnant sucked. I didn't vomit a lot during my first trimester (thankfully), but I had nausea bad enough where I was laid up in bed at least a couple times a week because doing stuff made me dizzy and even more nauseous. I even had to quit my job at a restaurant because it got so bad that I couldn't go to work because as soon as I stepped in the back I hit the restroom running! Then the third trimester was even more awful because she started to drop at 32 weeks and the pelvic pain was unimaginable. Even just rolling over in bed was agony, let alone doing household chores and everything I needed to do because every step felt like my pelvis was slowly pulling apart. I actually told my grandmother that the best part of my pregnancy was my labor and it's sad but true! I actually had a good labor and it wasn't extremely painful, just very very long and when it was over I felt better than I had just about my entire pregnancy. No more hip pain or anything, either. :) It was amazing. Though, on the other hand, I know there are lots of people that really do enjoy their pregnancies. Some women have easy pregnancies, so that's easy enough to understand how it would be enjoyable, and some women just like that connection. I enjoyed the connection I had with my daughter during my third trimester, but to me nothing compares to having her in my arms looking at me and holding my finger. ^_^ When all is said and done, though, the pregnancy is certainly worth it in the end, as miserable as it may be sometimes. And it wasn't bad enough to keep me from having another one in several years. ;)
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
Yes i know what you mean, there are parts in the pregnancy period where you enjoy itm like those you mentioned, the kick and the heartbeat, those times were memorable but then there are times also that you hate it like nausea and being lazy and all the pelvic pain...and yes i was also relieved when i was in labor, atleast you go through that only for hours not whole 8 to 9 months hahaha and yes there are those who had easier ones..i bonded more when the kids are already out and alive and kicking and being able to tell me what they want.
@shaggin (36845)
• United States
3 Mar 11
With my first child I only gained 18 lbs and had an 8 lbs 3 oz baby. It was so painful I cant imagine if I gained a ton more weight how much pain I would have been in. Most of my pain came from horrible back pains from chronic utis. With my second child I gained 27 lbs. I felt like a blimp lol. It was just a difference of what I weighed when I started out because at the end of both of my pregnancies I weighed exactly 140 lbs. My daughter was 1 day over my due date and my son was 2 1/2 weeks early. I hated being pregnant. I couldnt sit how I wanted. I couldnt lay how I wanted. I felt nauseated. Oh there were just so mayn things I hated about it but then once the baby was born even when it was in my arms it was a very lonely feeling in my stomach not feeling all those kicks anymore.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
oh yes..i also hated being pregnant but i had it thrice!! but you are right there was a time where i felt that loneliness after i gave birth, its like your stomach felt lonely and empty but its weird because seeing you baby born also felt very overwhelming and very happy.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I wouldn't say it was great, but it wasn't terrible either. But then again I was one of the lucky ones that didn't get nauseous or throw up. I did have a bad experience when I was pregnant with my youngest. I woke up to some very painful leg cramps! It was some of the worst pain I've ever felt! Fortunately, it was only a one time thing. My only other complaint about pregnancy is the big belly. Don't get me wrong, I loved the fact that I had a baby growing inside of me, but trying to sleep during the later months became rather difficult. So difficult that I hated sleeping on my side for years! I've only recently started doing it again. I guess some women forget the downside when it comes to pregnancy. Or maybe they just don't want others to know the truth. Because if they did, they just might scare them into never wanting kids! LOL Happy mylotting!
@globaldoc (860)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
It is the thought of having the baby coming right out, the love for the baby that overpowers the hardships of pregnancy. This reminds me to go home since my neighbor's wife is pregnant, including their doberman. Gotta go home and hide...
@pastigger (618)
• United States
3 Mar 11
I didn't get morning sickness I would feel bad if I ate any sweets so no sweets for a while. I am glad to say that I made it the whole time without puking. I wasn't a happy pregnant woman the mood swings where many. She sat so low that I kept asking the doctor if she was going to fall out. She sat on my siatic never the hole time. Then she was born 11 weeks early and it was really scary. I don't miss being pregnant at all I love having her. I don't miss the three month stay in the hospital and with all those adventures I think she may be an only child. I really didn't feel her kick much until I was in the hospital she hated the fetal monitor I had to wear I thought she might just kick her way out. I was burning up my whole pregnancy It was winter and I had a body pillow between me and my husband and no blankets were allowed on my side. Right after delivery I was freezing, it was really strange.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
I enjoy my pregnancy from my first baby up to my second baby. I love to feel my baby moving inside my womb i feel like being a pregnant mother is the most happiest moment of being a mother. It resulted in many stretch marks but it's okay important is I took care of them and they are now exploring the world without any abnormalities and it's because of us mothers that we did our best to make them healthy and complete.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
For me it is so pity when it is time to go out so ouch.