Do u do what u tell people u will do.

@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
United States
March 3, 2011 10:07am CST
One of my pet peeves is people not doing what they say they will. It doesn't make any difference how big or how small. Just don't tell me u are going to do WHATEVER & not do it. I cooked supper sat. night for my preacher & his wife because her dad passed away. He called me mon.& said he was going to bring my dishes by & i haven't seen him yet. I don't need the dishes it's juct the idea HE SAID, grrrr. Does that bother u when people do that?i TRY my dead level best to always do what i say i will. Do u??
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
Next time don't bother to entertain his request if he is that sort of person who don't keep his words.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for responding, Zandi. I want have much faith in anything he tells me to be honest w/u. Happy weekend to u.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
3 Mar 11
Yes, I sure do. I try to make it a point to not say things unless I am going to do it. I learned a long time ago when I was younger when the adults made promises and always broke them that it hurt to have them broken. I made a solid promise to myself that I would never tell someone that I would do something then "not do it". I will not promise to do something then not do it. So now I will not say or promise to do anything unless to the best of my knowledge I know I can do it. If something happens and I can not do it at the given time. I will call and let it be known of a new time but this rarely happens.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
3 Mar 11
That's great u are like that. I wish everybody felt the way we do about this. The sad thing u know when some people say whatec=ver that they are not going o back it up.Thanks for responding.
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• United States
3 Mar 11
I agree. The thing is some people just don't like to say "no" to people or just don't know how to. It's much better to say "no" or to say I can not do that than to tell them that you "will" and let them down by saying you will than to let them down by saying "no". When will they realize this?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
I'd rather here no anytime as a lie. Hope u have a happy weekend.
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Mar 11
Really! Sometimes people just say anything they think will apease you and get you off their back and then they ignore you. I don't say I will do something unless I know I can do it. I try to always live by the golden rule and I wouldn't want someone to tell me something and then not follow through so I don't do it either.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good for u, i feel the same way. Thanks for responding. Hope u have a great weekend.
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@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Mar 11
Thanks. I think it is a good way to conduct ones self.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
5 Mar 11
I agree. Happy Sat. to u.
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@angel107 (311)
• Germany
4 Mar 11
He should have at least tell you that he could not make it for whatever reasons he has. Because making a person expect because you tell them that you will do something, is just disappointing. I hate it when people say something they would do and yet they would not.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for your response. I had rather people not say anything than lie to me. I don't understand why they think they have to comment one way or the other. Happy weekend to u.
@angel107 (311)
• Germany
4 Mar 11
thank you. i wish you a happy weekend to.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
5 Mar 11
Thanks, angel
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
I shall do whatever I promise to do. I shall always keep my words so that, I can build up my reputation and trust. My reputation and the trust from other people can help me a lot in the development of my career. Without a good reputation and trust, we are considered as cheaters. I don't think cheaters can get along with other people for long term.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
That is a great attitude to have. Hope u keep it always. Thanks for responding. Happy weekend to u.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 11
I always do my best to if I can't make it I will call the Person and let them know that I can not make it and will arrange another Day I hate having to wait in for People and then they do not turn up and they do not bother to contact you either I personally think it is rude
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good morning Gabs, i agree, it is very rude for people to not do what they tell u. This is one of my pet peeves from anybody. Some people seem to think they have to make a comment whether it's true or not. I'd rather they not say anything myself. Have a good one. hugs.
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
4 Mar 11
That bugs the fire out me, for someone to tell me they are going to do something and then don't. It can be something as simple as 'I'll call you back' and then they never do, or I'll be over in an hour, and never show up. I understand all too well that people get busy, things come up, etc. But it only takes less than a minute to call or text someone and let them know plans have changed. Like you if I say I'm going to do something or be somewhere, I do it. Part of it is just common courtesy.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for responding.Seems as if we feel the same way about this. It bugs me to. Doesn't matter how important or unimportant that it is just don't like for people to not follow thtough on what they tell me. Happy weekend to u.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Yes, I always try my best to do exactly what I say t hat I 'll do. However, sometimes I forget. For example, I told someone that I would give them part of a house plant when I divided it. The plan is now overflowing the pot. I have not re-potted it because I know that I need to take some of it to someone but cannot, for the life of me, remember to whom I promised it. Because of my poor memory, I try to give others some slack. I believe that the case you reported is different. He could have called, if he were not going to be able to get the dishes to you.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good morning, bellis, thanks for responding. Sounds like we have the same memory proble, don't u just hate that, lol. I was not & am not worried about the dishes. It was just the idea of this being twice he has told me something that he did not follow through on. I just expect people to keep their word. Have a great weekend.
@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
I think a person who never fails to do what he told he would is respectable and worthy of trust. No matter how small or great the task or that thing, whether it is a promise or not,when you said you would, you must do lest you lose your credibility and become a man without word of honor. Sometimes it is just too easy for some people to utter things but not taking the responsibility of fulfilling what they say. I don't give so much importance to the words of that kind of person and yes they are oftentimes bothersome so it is better to just take their words for granted the next time around and let them feel why.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
GOOD MORNING, VERY WELL PUT MY DEAR, Thanks. Thanks for reponding. Happy weekend to u.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
4 Mar 11
I do...and if for any reason I can't, I always inform. And that is exactly why it bothers me too when people do not do what they say. The least I would expect from them is to inform me that they can't (for whatever the reason). It shows consideration which many people seem to be lacking these days.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
How right u are. I feel the same way. Thanks for responding & happy weekend to u.
@margeryann (1853)
• United States
4 Mar 11
That is upsetting when people do that. It makes it hard to trust them.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for responding. I don't ever trust them after they do this. Have a good weekend.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
4 Mar 11
I do try to do what I say. If I'm not sure I can, I will say that too, and I will call if I can't. I agree, even if I don't have other plans and no place to go, that people who do that are really rude! What if I did? In fact, I tell them that if I'm not home, to leave them some certain place.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for responding, Elic. I feel as u do. Hope u have a great weekend.
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• United States
3 Mar 11
I always try to do what i say i will do no matter what because i dont want to look like a liar.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good for u. Thanks for responding & welcome to mylot. Hope u enjoy it as much as i do. Happy weekend to u.
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@stk40m (1119)
• Koeln, Germany
3 Mar 11
you are so right about this but yes, it happens sometimes that I say I will do something and then it turns out that I forgot it. I suppose it's Alzheimer at a very early stage LOL of course when it's something important I'll try to make sure I don't forget. But if someone wants me to read a very long text or so I may say: will do asap even when I know that I probably won't. Just want to be polite :D Cheers
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for responding. I would rather someone tell me the truth instead of being polite. U can pretty well tell when that's happening anyway. Have a good weekend.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
3 Mar 11
Not getting your dishes back is a minor annoyance, but expecting someone to show up and they don't is a bigger annoyance. It is understable that something may have come up, or something he planned had taken too long or whatever, but in that case a phone call stating he wouldn't make it as planned would be nice. Today I told my mom I might need her to babysit. When she called to make sure we were still on, I'd just found out I probably wouldn't need her after all. She was disappointed because she was looking forward to seeing the kids. I plan on making it up to her on Saturday by bringing all the kids over to visit.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good morning, the dishes are not important at all. It was just the 2nd time he had told me something & didn't follow through w/it.I admit that it really ticks me off when 'ANYBODY' tells me they will do something & don't. I could care less about the dishes. Hope u have a happy weekend. Know your mom will be glad to see the grands, they are really special.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
3 Mar 11
Same here...and I can't stand it when they say they are going to be by at a certain time then you wait...and wait. Either they don't show up like you said..or they come late like they have no respect for your time....
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
U hit the nail on the head, my sentiments exactly. Thanks for responding, Jill. Hope u have a happy weekend.
@bunnybon7 (37400)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Mar 11
oh my thats a hoot. a fibbing preacher. i do try my best and my son also is like you and think if you say something you are going to do you sure better. my problem is im wondering if im getting alzhiemers as hes always telling me i forgot this or that. but if i remind him of something, he will say he just has soooo much on his mind he cant remember to do it all.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good morning Bon, my sons do me the very same way. I really get aggravated when they do this. I don't like people saying i said things when i haven't, grrrr. Happy weekend to u.
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• United States
3 Mar 11
I hate to be lied to. and I always try to do what I say I will do. This past summer I was lied to by a company and I counted and made plans on their lie. I really should have known what they told me I could do I couldn't but I had asked special questions about it. I had purchased a membership for our family and they told me I could give the second card to my son in another state. So we all made plans to go, they even had reservations in for the weekend. When we called to confirm our plans they told me no it couldn't be done that way and wanted my son to lie and say he had moved back home. Well, that wasn't what we were told. I ended up buying my son and family their own membership so they could go anytime. At least I kept my promise in the end. He even told his wife that "mom said she would do it! She WILL do it!".... wow! What an example to live up to! I have had the situation like you talk about happen too. I cooked supper for a couple one time and they never came after they promised they would! That was very frustrating. I don't like left overs. Have a nice day!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for your response.I'm sure everyone has had situations where we have been lied to.
• Pakistan
3 Mar 11
I think I do not do the things for which I often tell people that I will do it. I think according to my own view whenever a friend give me any task I do it and If someone who I don't like or I don't concern him or her anymore I tell them to do the task but I don't do. LOL
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Thanks for responding. I try to always do what i tell people i will do. My word means alot to me. Have a good weekend.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
3 Mar 11
Hi. ANTIQUELADY. Yes, I get really mad when someone lies to me. I have been lied to so many of times. It is no fun at all. The preacher should be honest with you. If he can't bring the dishes, he could at least called and say that he can't bring them. Some people will get mad at a person when they can't do something for them that they promise. But as for me, I would rather be disappointed than being lied to. Our landlord claims that she has notified the maintenance guy about our heat not shutting off properly. He has never showed up in two weeks! She said that she called him and he was going to be on his way. This was over two weeks ago. My husband has came to the conclusion that she never has called him at all. I believe that she is just finding a way to scheme us. I don't like when someone say they are going to do something for me, and then they never come through. It makes them look like a liar, especially if they never give you a reasonable explanation of why they did not come through as expected.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Good morning, this is exactly what i'm talking about. I'd just worry the stew out of her till they got your heat fixed. I'm really not worried about the dishes at all but this is twice he has told me something that he didn't follow thtough on. That's what bothers me. Happy weekend to u.
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