I am lost.

@hibeth (28)
China
March 4, 2011 3:01am CST
when people ask me"whant kind of person I am?"I don't know how to answer them. I don't understand myself.now I already 25 years old,I still didn't know what I like or what I want to do ,what can I do? I am lost for almost since I was 18th.I couldn't fing my direction. when I was a high-school student, I wanted to go to the best universities in China,but I failed.I remembered after the exams I could not forgave myself.I locked myself in the room.I didn't want to talk to anyone. in the university,I was very sad,and I did something bad. now I am lost.
3 responses
@Bellapop (1281)
4 Mar 11
Don't worry, at 25, you're still very young and still going through changes. Depending on what you do and your experiences a lot of things will affect the way you are - how you feel towards certain things, how you respond, your opinions - and there is also the part that stays hidden and may surprise during enexpected moments. During my 20s, I was going through a very static phase, I became very withdrawn, anti-social and was quite isolated almost...frozen in time if you can put it that way. Just started to get up and do more things and I am finding that I am very different to how I was several years ago - personality, the way I respond, the way I think and deal with things - whereas some people can be already set when they reach their late 20s. We can be constantly changing - if we want to. Just be however you want to be, and accept that some things can never be changed, because it just part of who and what you are - genetics or whatever, work with it. You can change into however you want to be - a better person, as long as you want to...
@hibeth (28)
• China
5 Mar 11
thanks bella! that makes me feel good.change what you can change,accept those can never be changed.I will try to find a way out,and make some friends here,I jutst moved in a new city by mself.so now I am a little lonely. when u puzzle and lost what kind of books you read?????
@Bellapop (1281)
5 Mar 11
Hey Hibeth, When you feel lonely and want to do something, it's always good to have a TV or a radio, so you have sounds around you, as if imitating having someone or something around you - it mormally makes me feel much better. Reading is also good if you enjoy this. When I used to feel lonely, I would go out, to the public places where there are lots of people, you would still feel isolated, but al least not as lonely and depressing as staying home all alone. When you're out at least, people are still aware of you, though not in an intrusive way. When I was feeling unhappy, I would also go to the cinema to take my mind off things, and sometimes, very often I would come out less worried about I was with before. Try to stay active and occupy youself, because I have found that the experience from doing some things, often helps you find the answer or helps you deal with things more positively...
6 Mar 11
Hey...Just try being in some goods nature-bound places..or places you like.. Try finding out what you like, what you love.. Start from colours, movies... Then reach to..Who you actually are... I am quite younger than you.. But there have been times that seemed miserable... Just try figuring out things yourself.. Then find a few friends..talk to them on general things... Observe what are your point of views..... They always keep changing...Just trust in yourself.. Trust Almighty..Look at things positively..Smile, Giggle at silliest things.. You will find yourself really happy with your life soon.. And read a Book named 'PINK OR BLACK- By Tisha' if you can get.. Talking about the university...I was struck in the same situation twice.. But frankly..today i know that had i been there..i wouldnt have made good and true friends for life... I wouldn't have been able to explore my strengths..learnt to deal with it all.... And in that college where i dreamt to go....I would surely have been a loner... Because making friends and understanding the mentality of people there..would have been damn hard...
@hieuhanh (98)
• Vietnam
4 Mar 11
I think you shouldn't lock your self in the room , it only make you feel more sorrow and more pain ! Do anything can make you comfortable , go to somewhere quiet , so you can think about your sefl... Wish you happy !