I am so sick and tired of people trying to run my life!!!!!

Canada
March 4, 2011 11:24am CST
So my roommate thinks he's all high and friggen mighty, saying that I'm not going to make enough money with work this month. Who the f*ck is he to say this when he lives on welfare and owes me over $100 for bills he hasn't paid this month? All he does is b!tch and complain about the online work that I do, that it doesn't make enough, but what the f*ck does he really know? He's asking for trouble when he's responding to scam artists thinking that he's going to see huge payoffs, when we all know that scammers never actually pay you anything. Yet he believes he's going to get his millions of dollars from them, and that he'll be able to leave the country and be with his wife, who he really shouldn't have married in the first place. He's a damn slob and he knows it! but doesn't care. He never showers, rarely does laundry. He smokes like a chimney and runs around drinking tea or wine all day. Instead of getting a job, he plays the scams thinking that they will work. He thinks he can control my life? Hardly. Even my husband b!tches and complains about him, but unfortunately, for the time being, we need him here to help with the bills, otherwise he'd have been out on his a$$ a long time ago. Believe me, I'm sick of it. I'd tell him where to go if I knew that he wouldn't haul off on me and strike me down. I am so angry right now, he's the reason the rent check almost bounced because he claimed to be short on money even though his welfare check is more than his rent is. What am I supposed to do? There are very few jobs out there, am I supposed to humiliate myself by going to do a minimum wage job with all the bills that are due in a week, having to wait 3 weeks just to get paid? F*ck no, I'm not going to do that. I'm still waiting to get paid from working last week and get more cash jobs so I can cover bills. If people in this household would actually pay their share of the bills, I wouldn't be in this frame of mind right now. But I'm the one who covers every damn bill when no one wants to get off their lazy a$$es and work. My husband and I are the only ones working, there are 4 of us living here, one pays far too little rent and should be paying double, but he wont work, so we can't charge him anymore than we do. And that's killing us. Please tell me what I'm supposed to do when I can't physically work heavy jobs anymore and there's not much out there to do?
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@Tzakgr (46)
• Greece
5 Mar 11
That happens to anyone...Just listen only the good things...Thats simple...
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@louievill (20023)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
I friend, seems like you've been through a lot a awful situations down there lately as I read your other posts and again I'm so sorry this had to happen to you, so anyway, like you said you cannot just dump him because this will make things worst financially, then I guess there is no other recourse but to have a dialogue and talk things over peacefully like mature adults, you , your husband and the room mate, guess a situation like this leaves very little options, good luck friend and I just wish you the best outcome or resolve to your problems
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@wiggles18 (2523)
• Canada
4 Mar 11
You've probably already mentioned it- but why not try and show this lazy person how to make money legitimately on the internet. Try out a bunch of random things, like selling hand-made crafts(not childish crafts, I mean actual woodworking, weaving etc). Farmers market, etc.... Try to get this person to do some of that stuff too. Maybe look for new room-mates?
• Canada
4 Mar 11
Honestly he would never go for that. I'd like to find a new one, but right now, we just can't afford to dump him. At least he's paying most of his rent.
@wiggles18 (2523)
• Canada
4 Mar 11
Yeah, quite the pickle there I must say. What if you sort of look for another room-mate(behind things), and slowly transition into having a new one?
@GardenGerty (104421)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Here is a phrase (or two) to say to him when he is telling you all about how you will not make enough money. 1. I would have enough money if you were paying your fair share, and on time. 2. When you have completely caught up with what you owe me, I will listen to you tell me how to run my budget and pay my bills. Find someone else, and get him out and fumigate the place. You can rant to some of us anytime, but we may tell you what Ann Landers always said "No one can make a doormat out of you until you lay down and let them." So do neither of your room mates make enough to pay a decent rent?
• Canada
8 Mar 11
Our upstairs roommate who's the slob, he pays more for less, and the one downstairs pays less for more. It doesn't really work out that way, but I did get a little bit of payback with the downstairs roommate when I told him he had to pay $350 for utilities last month. He paid, thankfully, but really needs to get a job, he knows it, but keeps complaining that he can't work because he hurt his thumb. I give credit to my upstairs roommate, despite a steel plate in his shoulder, he does work when he gets some. But now, when offered a job that paid well, he turned it down. That makes me even more upset.
• Canada
11 Mar 11
If he's behind on the bills, why do you need him around to help you pay them? I was blessed when I moved in here. I started off on a low income, and I pretend I'm still on it. Now my husband and I live together, and we pay the bills together, and put the rest away into savings. Isn't there a way you could get a cheaper place, or just do something to get rid of the roommate?
@piya84 (2589)
• India
5 Mar 11
aye that must be horrible.Most important thing in life is peace of mind.Kick him out once oyu have find proper substitute for him.
@nj_1022 (251)
5 Mar 11
Tell your room mate to find a life of his own. Be useful.
• Indonesia
5 Mar 11
you must show your ability. i belive that you can do the best.
• Indonesia
5 Mar 11
you must show your ability. i believe that you can do the best you have... okay???
• United States
4 Mar 11
I would definitely talk to them about the situation like adults should, and maybe you can change their lazy state. Suggest looking for listings in the paper, maybe have them wash other people's vehicles for a little more rent money.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
4 Mar 11
I don't know what to tell you. Are there any other people you can rent to? If so, I would boot these guys. Make them go out and get a job. You say the one guy is on welfare. Do they know he lives with you? Does he eat with you or does he buy his own food? You should contact the department where he gets his check from and find out if they know all the facts. When they thought I was staying with my brother, they almost took away all his benefits because of me being there. It might make more trouble for you if you contacted them because they may take away some (or all?) of his money, but if he isn't giving his fair share then they should know about this guy. Both of those guys need to get out and do something. I think I would be really angry as well. I work hard for what I have (or at least I did up to now). It isn't right for people to leech off you when you are struggling. Try to find other people to rent to if that is possible and get rid of these leeches!