school bully

I was bullied at school and - although it initially affected me - I have had a productive and enjoyable life; and am now actually studying to become a teacher. I went through a period of not wanting to go to school, was unable to eat, and rarely slept. As a consequence, I ultimately dropped out of school. What I know now that I didn't know then, however, is that I was being bullied by a child whose homelife was far from pleasant. He was acting out because the cycle of violence is difficult to stop; particularly for a twelve year old. So while I do not begrudge anybody the opportunity to teach their child self-defence, I think that - often where bullying is concerned - we, as adults or parents or teachers or school administrators, should simply ask 'why?' Why is this child acting out? Is there a reason? I do not believe that children are inherently bad. It's true that bullying is a huge global issue; however, there is often a reason as to why a child has behavioral issues and that should be explored before any further violence.

I have observed this in the school where I am teaching. There are a few bullies there who really loves to extort money and even hurt their fellow pupils. Of course we try to discipline them in best way w could without stirring the rod. Yet at some point they still wouldn't change and still commit that same fault even if their parents' attention is already called. Some parents just tolerate their children's behavior. Enrolling your son to a martial arts school is very nice. I too wouldn't want my children being bullied upon.

This seems to be a problem in many countries at the moment, where did this all come from, when I was at school there was none of this, so what has made the kids turn yhis way, is it the movies or TV they must be getting the idea from somewhere.

hi tikbalang56! hello there. when i saw the title of your post SCHOOL BULLY, it reminded me of my younger days. specifically during my elementary days.. but it all started during my junior-kinder memories. if a movie MEAN GIRLS was created then i believe that they indeed existed. i get bullied everyday whenever im in school by little boys and most of all my mean girls. hahah! they would tell their young sisters whenever i get a chance to talk to their siblings "don't talk to her. she's bad..." when the truth is i don't really talk to their siblings. there was this time that we were required to bring a creative looking shoe box with paintings, wrappers and all and inside it consists of our toiletries like toothbrushes, small towels, small glass.. powder and cologne.. things to be used after eating lunch and to get ready for 1 hour siesta.. okay what they did was while i haven't arrived the school yet they had planned of throwing my shoebox away in trash bin. as i arrived the school i couldn't find my things but one classmate of mine told me as those group of girls left the room that they had thrown them away on the trash bin and i checked it myself... since in my country when your skin color is brown or black, they discriminate you somehow and tease you. call you names... i was called "uling" in english charcoal. i was called negra in english nig_ _ _ (sorry if i had to use this term but this was sort of just a translation to those who wouldn't understand our filipino terms). men here accepts and finds girls beautiful with white or fair skin tone. my dad would tell me hat there was a time i told my parents i didn't want to go to school because of the trauma my mean girls left on me but i didn't remember anything about that. i just learned it from my father... hahah! so in short these bullying thing really happens on children as well as they grow up.. good thing this bullying thing only happened to me during my elementary days but as i entered highschool till college, it stopped. thanks and hope you didn't get bored reading my post. ahahha! i know this is way too long it is just that i can relate to your post. takecare and have a great day ahead!

Bullying can really damage one's self-esteem. Anyone who is being bullied would find any excuse just to get away from the problem. Because they are distracted from bullying, they would not concentrate in class and would naturally not do well. In my opinion, one should have a conversation with the bully. However, if it is not possible because the bully is too aggressive then i think that one should approach a teacher or their parents. I agree with you that parents should take their kids to learn martial arts for the purpose of self-defense and not for bullying.