Why bother to tip the waiter?

Philippines
March 5, 2011 1:37pm CST
Waiters' tips have been a tradition, that you have to give them their due, for their PR, and prompt service. But, would that include all types of waiters? Like, Mr. "Hi-there-don't-forget-my-10% -tip-or-you'll-never-get-served" guy? Is it worth giving a tip to such a waiter, who may even have the worst personality of a waiter you have ever seen? I think yes at some point...perhaps this is the time to use reverse psychology, be friendly to one who is not. if he doesn't lighten up or change? guess, this is when we use the " open rebuke is better than hidden love." attack. we may even help such a man change from bad to good when get him eat a real "value meal." :)
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12 responses
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
5 Mar 11
Hi, this tips giving habit was introduced long back and whenever you are in a restaurant or big hotel you feel bad as you are aware that they would be expecting something for their service. In my view since those waiters out thee are paid by the employers why you give him tip? This sis how the ground of bribing strengthen to this day. We need change over this practice.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
i go with the thought of bribing -ism... it is quantity over quality...not good... and the bad feeling of not giving is a different thing, for me...yes, it is a brotherly way of showing courtesy...which doesn't do bad to either party.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
6 Mar 11
There you are.
• Saudi Arabia
6 Mar 11
in my personal opinion, it is not bribing per se as you give the tip after dining, not before which makes a lot of difference. it's like rewarding your children, when they do good, you compliment or at time give them gift. just as an incentive to do better the next time around. sometimes, just being nice or courteous to waiters makes the difference. i notice though at in america, tipping is a must (like a min. of US$1 for small bills)even in taxis unlike in europe where tipping is not a practice.
@send2noel (140)
• Saudi Arabia
6 Mar 11
depending on the kind of restaurant you are in. usually fastfood you do not need to tip. but on a fine dining restaurant, i think it is a common practice as the service, aside from the food counts. usually, waiters or service crew reacts the way how he is treated by the customer. if you are friendly from the start, i don't see any reason why the waiter would not be smiling too. being nice is advantageous as you usually get extras. in fact, i make it a point to be as nice as i can be when dealing with the waiter serving me. i usually get extra attention, extra sauces that may usually be added in your bill, fast service and a more orderly table due to the waiter's attention. that's what i call added value. and the next time around, as the waiter gets acquainted with you, the better his service becomes. and i bet you, you benefit from whatever extras he will provide just because of being nice to him. and lastly, don't mess with your waiter, you wouldn't know what he could do to get even at you... you wouldn't want to experience that, would you?
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
be nice. and no one wants to experience that... sometimes it starts with which side of the bed one wakes up...and if your waiter did in the wrong side, it may become a problem if he gets to work, more if he gets to serve a rowdy group, or a nasty costumer. :) waiter or not, it is good to pray before facing the day... :}
• Saudi Arabia
6 Mar 11
yes, prayer keeps us safe... :)
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Mar 11
I am working in a 5 star hotel but for us tips is not our main goal although when some guest offered it it's highly appreciated. We are train to serve guest without thinking for the due back that the guest will give to anyone when they are satisfied with out service. I agree that giving tips is the long back culture of every individual that showed if they are satisfied with the service. Even before when I wasn't yet an employee of a hotel I always give tips to any individuals that made the best service for me specially in a bar. All guest treated the same service but if you are giving them regularly, theres something different even not showed to anybody obviously. So for me it's better to give tips if you are satisfied and don't show yourself to any waiter that you will give tips to them in exchange of their service. Make worst thing at first so that they might think you are not the one who will give tips to them. But at the end give them a tips, the impression will make the difference to the waiter or any crew in a bar, hotel or any service oriented spots.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
T to I insure P prompt S service yes, we all know that...and yes, tip and character are relative, and not much publicized...and a very special way of saying "Thank you." :)
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Mar 11
But most of the time your effort you can only received "Thank you" words. For me it's nice to hear a words like " Highly Appreciated". I laughed when I heard to one of my roomboys when they received this words because sometimes they think that the guest will give them tips in exchange of their service.
@Dinoman90 (225)
• Denmark
6 Mar 11
Hello asiamooner In my country it's not that common to tip the waiter, in fact I have only done it one time with my friends for fun. I guessed we tried to copy some of the American movies or something, where tipping is normal. I think that it's a weird thing to tip a waiter, I mean he gets paid for his service already, right? So using the excuse that they are effecient and polite and therefore deserves tips isn't valid in my book. If they aren't effecient and polite already they shouldn't work at a restaurant. But hey that's just my oppinion. But if you have a lot of money I can't see the harm in giving the waiter a few coins, he'll probably appreciate it. It's entirely up to you to decide.
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
people decide when and where to tip.. and best to tip coz of some things like.. if you want happiness, give happiness...:)
6 Mar 11
I recently took a holiday to America (Florida to be exact) and one thing that especially bugged me was this massive pressure on tipping at restaurants. In England, tipping your waiter is a treat rather than an obligation, but in America, it's as though you MUST tip your waiter. No matter how sub-par the service I received, I still felt forced to shell out a tip.
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
tip...some people just keep mum of quality...for the want of money...
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
The custom of tipping depends on every country. In the US, tipping is the norm. You're expected to give at least 10-15% from your total bill, or you'd be viewed as a total cheapskate. In other countries, it's different. In Europe, tipping isn't something that's expected all the time, and there are even some countries where it's considered rude to leave a tip. Personally, if I get really good service, I tip. This is to show my appreciation because being in the service industry isn't very easy. But if I just get so-so service, I check the bill for service charge. If there is, then I don't leave a tip anymore. If there's none, I leave a small one.
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
it depends...everywhere uh huh : ) Never been to US here, but from reading, i guess people there are really obliged to give tips. Is it Amsterdam or any acandinavian country where the waiters feel bad when they are given tips? I've read that long time ago...
@GardenGerty (105224)
• United States
6 Mar 11
In different parts of the world it is different, so I can only speak for where I live, the United States. In restaurants where sit down service is provided, the government allows less than minimum wage to be paid, because it is assumed that the wait person will receive tips to make up the difference and possibly more. I have been a waitress, although it was a very long time ago. I took great pride in my service and in making my earnings better than if I was receiving an hourly wage. If a wait person is a poor example, do not give a big tip, but only a minimal tip. It was an insult when I was waiting tables to be left a penny tip or two pennies. I do not recommend that either. I do suggest that if the restaurant has comment cards that you can comment on the quality of service so that the waiter can learn to a better job.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
you're right, absolutely it differs... there in my country philippines, i find it not a want to do so to say you are satisfied, but a need to see everybody happy...just the faintest smile at the side of the lips would make you smile back, and really feel happy to have given one...and it may help inspire a waiter to do more of the good stuffs... ...and that is a safe way, comment cards, a safe way to air concerns if needed...
@madteaparty (2761)
• Japan
6 Mar 11
You're not supposed to tip in all countries. I heard in the US bartenders don't earn enough so if you don't tip them they get a miserable salary, but in my country people don't tip, as it's not a custom and you're not supposed to. I don't know the reason, but I suppose that they're better paid in my country than in other countries.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
why bother to tip someone who drives a ferrari and you can't even afford one of its hub cap, uh huh? I had the same notion way back as a kid, but i learned a few lessons when i worked in a bar as a guitarist of a local band 10+ years ago. some nights i see smiles from the eyes of waiters who got nodded, praised or tipped even with the smallest amount...and the bar may not be that big, the salary was enough... and food and snacks were free, and it was only for killing time, but everybody found happiness in this way, not that they received money, but they got admired for some good things they did...it's a contentment felt from the heart. so it is not bad to give tips in some places :)
• United States
5 Mar 11
People should get tipped regardless of the service. They should be told where thye went wrong nd that the manager will be calld if it does not change. they survive on those tips.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
does that mean, tip them after icing them for their bad tango? yes, many of them survive trhough those tips, and hope they understand that we patronize them for their good performances...aside form the food...because what makes you go back to the same hangout? good food and good service... :}
5 Mar 11
I get annoyed when you have to tip them when they are rubbish waiters, fair enough if they are good waiters and they have deserved the tip but its just those bad ones that annoy me... But also its a hard choice if its a good meal and a bad waiter.... or a bad meal and a good waiter...
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
rubbish...hehe, and physically sometimes, they are... not that they don;t have money, just that they don't care to dress for their part... still, we tip them for their character...good meal or bad...and a good waiter.
• United States
5 Mar 11
I think it's important to tip the waiter because majority of the times you'll get the waiters that are really good and respectful to you and don't keep you waiting long. So it's essential to repay the favor by giving them a tip. Sometimes what I do if the waiter wasn't respectful or kept me waiting too long I would give them a 25 cents a tip. One of the main reason I tip a waiter is because I don't want them spitting in my food or something. So it's more for a cautious reason.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
okay, for caution...does that thing really happen? then i'd rather eat in an open restaurant, or street food...that way i see them cooking on the spot. :}
5 Mar 11
Fortunately in my country we don't have to tip the waiters, because they are paid by their employers to provide good service for the customers. Guess some change should be done to this tradition, otherwise some people never learn how to give good customer service.
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
true, the change should come from the company emplying these workers...---to pay them more handsomely... if the companies say they don't do such things just to inspire people to work, they are right at some point, but what other ways can they help people easily but by giving financial bonuses...not that big as big means, but at least to compensate their tedious jobs? this way...salary increase... :)