Do yo think that dowry system will end if arranged marriage is banned?

India
March 7, 2011 1:19am CST
Even though arraged marriage has its own advantages,it has a lot of disadvantages also,the main among which is dowry system.Rich people are happy to give huge amount of dowry for their daughter.Even middle class people want to show off their wealth by giving lots of ornaments to their daughter along with good amount as dowry.So it is the poor people who is going to suffer the most.Also,if they want to get divorced they wont get the dowry back because giving dowry is considered as much a crime as asking dowry.But still people are happy to ask and give dowry.
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Mar 11
Ravi, are you there? Are you telling of banning arranged marriage? Do not dare to think even in your dream. The Jews could convert into Christianity and another great flood could occur but this marriage system through which we are passing would never come to an end.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
7 Mar 11
No this dowry can only stop if younger generation becomes educated and says no to this evil. Even in many arranged marriages dowry is not given which is rare. Actually instead of considering marriages compulsory in life, if parents take more care on the education of their daughters and let them stand on their own financially then this menace can be curtailed.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
7 Mar 11
I didn't think it was still going on today...I am glad here in the western world it isn't , for one I don't believe arranged marriage is good...where does love come into it...marriage without love would be unbearable..chemistry between two people happens between two people and parents should not be involved...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
hello, I do not understand the system of arrange marriage. I can't imagine myself marrying someone i don't love,or never known that much. And,to love and marry someone should be totally decided by concern people/couple who are getting married,and not by people around them. Parents ,relatives and friends should stay in the background giving advice...but not to dictate. I lived in a country where arranged marriage is not a practice,and everyone enjoys the freedom to love and choose someone to live for the rest of their lives. Dowry...is like buying a husband...(ugh!)sorry...(just my opinion)never meant to hurt anyone here.
• India
1 May 11
First of all arranged marriage can't be banned by law, even if it is, dowry will continue till the giver and taker change the mind Guy talk of big things about not accepting dowry, the parents too, but things are settled secretly, i know many such cases Welcome to mylot Thanks for sharing your views Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@josegund (60)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
we are already in modern time..arrange marriage is not advisable nowadays..parents should let their son or daughter choose the right love..
• India
7 Mar 11
See, nowadays in urban India at least, the line between dowry and gifts has blurred somewhat. As you say, lots of rich people are giving so much in goods (like TV, car, AC, flat) etc to their daughters all in the name of gifts, when it can either be dowry or just a vulgar display of wealth. Naturally such vulgar displays and one man-up-ship over the neighbours, will never end with the ban on arranged marriage. Even in love marriages, such lavish gifts in the name of family prestige, will be there and they will put pressure on less fortunate parents to give more for their daughters and also grooms parents will be encouraged to ask for more expensive gifts to show off to their relatives…its all in the name of family honour, wealth, pride and the potentiality of their ‘ladlaa’ son to draw such expensive gifts… its more like the bride’s family is acknowledging the eligibility of the groom by showering him/his family with expensive gifts. So until and unless we Indians change our habit of lavish weddings and vulgar display of gifts and gold, it really doesn’t matter whether its arranged marriage or love marriage… the pressure to give more and more expensive gifts will increase and alongwith that the greed of the grooms parents to receive them.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
7 Mar 11
I never thought much about arranged marriages. I just think that it's a different form of slavery. Women aren't property. But I suppose it does work for some cultures and it's not my place to contradict it. But to answer your question yes I think that dowery systems will end if arranged marriages end because that was the point. To make your daughter more appealing to be married into a wealthier family, you make the dowery more.
@Sreekala (34314)
• India
7 Mar 11
Hello ravi, I think it is not practical to ban the arranged marriages in India. Of course the dowry system is banned but there is no use and the girl’s family, who can afford dowry, still giving, lot of ornaments and gifts to their daughter. There is nothing wrong to give financial support to the family where their daughter wanted to live her whole life, provided the parents are capable to do it. The problem arise when the boy’s family harassing the girl or her family for money and other things. In poor family, the girls are remained unmarried just because of their parents are not rich and can’t pay enough dowry. In my opinion girls should get proper education and it will help her find out a job. If the girl is financially independent then there is less chance to ask any dowry. So I felt, banning arranged marriage or dowry system is not the right solution but educate the women and make her to live independently.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
7 Mar 11
hello friend! yes friend i think so.if arranged marriage is banned then dowry will end.but in our society some people are so much greedy so it take so much time to end.if we are really want that then it will be stop but for that have to stay together.i want to stop it as soon as possible. thanks a lot.
• China
7 Mar 11
Yes i think so. As people ask for dowry in arrange marriage only.But when people do love marriage then there no dowry come between there relationship. So i do agree with it.