Are They Blaming You?

@edsss17 (4398)
Philippines
March 8, 2011 11:20pm CST
What if someone blames you for a mistake that happens and you don't have any idea what's happening and you know you didn't do anything wrong? I feel like I'm an idiot, everyone keeps on blaming me for the things that didn't turn out well..
10 responses
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Hello bunso! Sometimes it happens to anybody,be blamed for things that went unwell and I can't blame you too for being bad about it. Don't know the cause of it but I guess all you have to do is to prove them that they are wrong from accusing you of it. Hope all will become well! See yah!
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
I also hope for the best inay! I have made some friends here in myLot already and they have told me I can express what I feel here and they are willing to support me and give me advices and you're one of them.. Thanks a lot!
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Yes bunso! Most of my friends here in mylot express what they feel here. They share whatever things or happenings there are in their lives be it sad,tragic or happy moments. I am very much willing to help you bunso,as long as I can. Enjoy mylotting!
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Everyone is subjective to other people's scrutiny. And yes it is sick and annoying. While some will ask your opinion, other people will just judge you for the time being and will not give you the benefit of the doubt. We really cant deny the fact that situations like this exist. It's just a matter of how you will handle it. If you know what really happened and the person itself, go for a gentle confrontation over the matter. Just air your side of the story, so everyone gets their fair shot.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
So true.. Some people like that really exist! And I'm so over them really.. I wanted to be strong and I try that I won't be affected with their words anymore.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Just make a stand and nevermind those kind of people. They are just a waste of time!
@kwylima (452)
• United States
9 Mar 11
It sucks..so bad! this happens to me sometimes. I am a kinda of angry girl so i always yell at them (what is not a good idea.)But u know what?! I dont care anymore. when they come to me and say that i have done something bad. I just look at them say NO and walk away.(if they follow me then i yell at them)They do that because the are not strong enough to hold the guilt. the are weak!!! we are strong and those people want to be like us!!!! good luck sweet heart! :)
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
You're a strong lady! Maybe I'll try your style soon! Good luck to you too!
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
9 Mar 11
It happen to me actually, several times. Because I am doing it usually, that doesn't mean I did it. Someone might actually took it over by the time I wasn't there, and I should take all that blame from everyone? That just not fair. Sometimes, you have to defend yourself, it might also mean that you have to shout it out loud.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Yes, you're right its very unfair and never be fair if we won't react to that!
• Canada
9 Mar 11
I had a similar situation last week with my roomies. They are a little nuts, lol. I clean up after them, walk their dog (otherwise the poor thing would only ever see the balcony) and deal with their fat lazy ugliness on a daily basis. They are extremely lethargic and I can honestly say that I have never seen them do dishes. The cable was not working, they had taken some of the wires out of the modem and had their computer plugged in. and it was the day after I paid them rent. I called the cable company and was on the phone with them for 2 hrs trying to fix it. I sent an email to my roomie and said jokingly, "The cable is not working. I just paid rent and now I can't watch tv? whats going on?" They went crazy on me and were screaming that they felt insulted that I said that in an email. They wanted me out. I pointed out that if it werent for me this whole place would look like something on hoarders and that they should be grateful their dog is walked twice a day. They totally dismissed that and were pulling at straws trying to find things they could blame on me to get me out. I know how you feel, lol
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Oh. what a story! Thanks for sharing it with me!
• United States
9 Mar 11
Unfortunately, this happens a lot more often than not. The people that are blaming you are doing so because you are the "weakest" one so to speak and they want to take the blame from themselves; this makes the REALLY weak people feel better. I have a great deal of this going on in my life all the time. You see, my husband has a very serious anger issue and if his anger gets out of hand he will blame me for everything. Or, if I try to point out to him that he is being unreasonable with his emotions than it is my fault that he is so angry. I mean, he could have a bad day at work where I am nowhere around and it is my fault. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT allow these people in your life, period!! If you know that you didn't do anything wrong, or even if you did for that matter, we are all human and make mistakes. In situations where you just absolutely did nothing wrong and are still getting attacked then remove that person from your life. Life is too short to be feeling at fault and down all the time, you cannot look back on your life and think that you have always been someone else's scapegoat; what a crappy way to live!! You only have one life, do what makes you happy and only surround yourself with positive people and energy!! Good Luck!!!
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I totally agree with you. Its just so annoying when some people accuse you for something you didn't do..!
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
9 Mar 11
I know how it feels. It has happened to me before and I had no idea what was going on. But eventually the truth was out and they told me they were sorry for whatever happened and everything was cool. The thing is, if you sense it, go and tell them ask them. You shouldn't be blamed for what you didn't do. Good luck.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I am glad I'm not alone!
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
It is not good to just keep what you feel. You have to ask them why are they blaming you?? They should justify their actions. If they blame you for something happened that is beyond your control then that is insane. That is not fair at all. Anyone will experience this at work. Theres alot of people who tend to be evasive for their responsibility and I hate those kind of people.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
YES! Indeed, its very unfair! They judge me for the things I didn't do! They don't even observe of who really is the real suspect!
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
9 Mar 11
I actually know how you feel. Being in a position like that can be very uncomfortable and frustrating. I can think of one particular situation that sticks out like a sore thumb and even after all these years I still remember it. I'm not going into details but I seriously had a bunch of people mad at me for no apparent reason that I knew of. This went on for months and no one bothered to tell me what was wrong. When we finally got the issue cleared up it turned out that it wasn't even my fault. It was one of the person's relative that did something and I was the unlucky and oblivious scapegoat. The sad thing was after that incident my relationship with that person was never the same again.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
I understand you! I have been in that situation too and its very awful!
• United States
10 Mar 11
I get blame for everything that goes wrong everyday. I guess the only reason that I get blamed for things is because in the past I use to be accident prone and all of the mistakes would be because of me. But, for some straight reason people can't seem to forget the past. I think you should just deal with it because at the end of the day at least you know it wasn't you.