I am the center of everything

@staria (2782)
Philippines
March 9, 2011 12:24am CST
Do you ever encounter self-centered people? They are always right, they are always on top of everything, they like to be in the lime light, they do not think about what other people may feel. All they can ever think about are themselves! Do you sometimes see yourself as one? In your work, school, relationship w/ family, friends, spouses? To be honest, sometimes I see myself as one. I am guilty too! Especially when it comes to my relationship w/ my husband. I always tend to look and consider the "me" part and not think about his part. But I am trying to balance things out. How about you?
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@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 11
Yes, I am. I got mad when people do not notice me and walk by. Hey, I am here and I am so dam* important that you cannot just walk by. Still, I am trying to step in the other shoes and feeling what they really feel seeing a person like me, so I am trying not to mind anymore.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
true, we should always try to put ourselves in the shoes of other person. i apply that especially in my work and my subordinates. before I confront them i try to understand them 1st.
@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 11
Yes, but you know that wise sayings are easily spoken than done. So, I made mistakes now and then. Still, I think I made a difference ... at least in my own life.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
It's natural, the important thing is that you realize and do something about it. :)
@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
my father is that person. he feels we will all die without him, even if i dont ask anything from him and even if i work for my own. he feels that we are all stupid and he is the one who is intelligent. he feels that we need to ask him before we do or buy something. we dont talk much so i really dont care anymore on what he says after all its all just boasting. on the other hand i sometimes joke to my wife that self centered thing. she laughs then say shut up har har har.
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• China
9 Mar 11
haha,perhaps your father is a bit male chauvinism, but his innate character is loving you!
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
yes maybe your father is just not showy about his love for you so he just reflects his "fatherly side" by being like that. Sometimes elders just wants to feel that they are still important thus they are acting that way.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 11
i am already 37 years old not to know the difference, and i am a father as well. if my father wants us to treat him important then he has to treat as important as well. since the day he left our mother we were no good for him already. so how can you say that there is this fatherly side. he only likes us when we can give him money. if we cant give him money then we just need to shut up. we are no good for him without money. since he is the one who has money he thinks he is almighty.
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
The wife of my husband's brother has this kind of personality. In fact I called Lady Psycho. Am I so mean? She's selfish and also wants that everything in her or about her is beautiful. She's so insecure, I hate her because I don't something to her and don't talk to her but she's always spreading hate campaign against me. I understand how she fell this way. Maybe because she's only a high school graduate, or maybe she doesn't want us to improve our means of livelihood. If she hears people praise me she doesn't want to hear it; especially my kids. Her kids are not doing well in school so maybe she'll resented my children excelled in their class. Isn't she also a self-centered person.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Somehow these people who are self centered just tend to hide their insecurities. In reality they are fearful not to be beautiful, famous and wanted by other people.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Somehow these people who are self centered just tend to hide their insecurities. In reality they are fearful not to be beautiful, famous and wanted by other people.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
9 Mar 11
I think both of my brothers are married to women like that. I try not to be that way, but sometimes it can't be helped. If I need something done, I push it as much as I can. I always try to help other people as much as I can.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
Sometimes I tend to push things that I want, the way I want it. But it is also good to give way to other people's opinion.
• United States
9 Mar 11
selfish - downloaded from internet
I believe that self centeredness is one of the common traits of all mankind and that it is the cause of most problems we have in our lives!
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
True, if we are all looking at ourselves how can we cooperate w/ others and no one will care for our fellowmen.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
9 Mar 11
I know several people like this...they are constantly talking about them selves and have to interupt people in converstations just to interject something about themselves...it gets very sickening.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Don't they just su@k?! They only know how to look at themselves and mind what they think, not taking into consideration the feeling of other people!
@miketagz (8832)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Thats the interesting discussion. In terms of social communication among friends, family and relatives must make an open counseling to know their hidden feelings and desires, so that pain inside the heart will be aided and guided.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
yeah, open communication should be kept among loved ones. it'll surely help to avoid such matters.
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Yup, I've encountered so many self-centered people, most of them I met at work. One of my bosses is like that, he thinks that he knows everything and he has this attitude that will really make you feel so stupid, because of the way he treat his subordinates.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
It is really hard to cope w/ those kind of bosses. Seems like you arent doing anything good at all times. Your works arent acknowledged. Not that you want to be praised at all times, but we needed a small pat at the back so to encourage us. Ive experienced that too before. Really hard and I feel uneasy.
@zills66 (1421)
• Saudi Arabia
9 Mar 11
oh god i can not avoid thinking that those better ones here are only second to those who wants to be the center of every thing here. and so when it comes to compensation, the latter, self-centered ones are the winners. i know that the better ones have the higher productivity rating than the self-centered people. in terms of net satisfaction ratings, the better ones are much better off. when we look at the survey the better ones has the higher percentage of approval all over the world. but the better ones are the number 1 underpaid workers all over the world. i hate to see and hear this although i am not their kind of nationality but my "apellido" which is Gonzalez, is very common to them... and i know more of them has as i do have in my country. i am in favor to them but the management just do not see them as they are just them with God Fearing attitude. now, i think bidding is an ideal way to be heard. or, it is also a diplomatic way to ask a favor. of course staria, if you'll ask me, i don't agree to blood suck or be a leech to get a favor in exchange of our well being. i don't want it to happen and learn it from other's experience. i asked them why don't they just do as the other nationalities does and they answered me, if it is for us, God will mediate. well if, i were to stand on their shoes too, the same answer they will hear from me.. and so, thanks for being a catholic. thanks
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
It is sad, but true. There are times that those who are really competent arent given a better shot. It is really hard especially in a corporate world, and not to mention, if you have a self centered boss who can only think about how good he is and does not give recognition to his subordinates. Of course we do not want to play the "leech" part or the crab part. God sees our every move he'll be the one to judge in the end anyway.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Yes, I do sometime feel that way too. Because I have received some recognitions there are times when I go overboard and make myself top of everything. But I too feel guilty doing it. So I guess this is but a natural human reaction unless it is too much. Anything too much is bad, isn't it?
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
Like what they have said, too much of everything is yes bad. We have to watch ourselves too. If we are getting too proud or we do not care about other people anymore. There's nothing wrong in getting achievements as long as our feet is planted on the ground.
@SIMPLYD (86487)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
I am sometimes guilty of that too. I do sometimes think i am better than that person and i can do better than anyone, if given the chance. I guess, each and everyone of us has that feeling in one way or another. Sometimes, it's better to be that way too in order to keep yourself from getting better so no one could beat you. But nobody wants to be with a self centered person.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
true, no one wants to be w/ a self centered person. But everyone is subject to be like them. So we really have to watch ourselves. Sometimes standing and fame can trigger this characteristic, there's nothing wrong w/ that as long as we are able to control and we arent hurting other people.
• China
9 Mar 11
HELLO my friend,as for my character i refuse to be in contact with serious self-centered people.of course,like what you said,you always consider your part about your relationship.i think it is normal for a person,but acting properly is important!
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
yeah, acting properly is important especially when you are in the outside world. because we can never expect that everyone will understand and adjust accdg to our wants.
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
im lack with self confidence so i really don't consider the "me" part, there where times when other people praise me or say something good to me i easily will turn red and be shy and speechless. but i have lots of friends being proud with themselves and it doesn't matter for me as long as there is something about you to be proud of. besides if you can't put yourself up nobody will ever does :)
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
If you think that youve done good, do not be shy. Raise your head up high and thank them for acknowledging your works. :)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 11
It doesn't matter whether self-centered or whether moderate, in my point of viewing the case, there are many self-centered persons shared useful info with high altruism moral. The only thing is they like much standing on the authoritative side on sharing. Yes! I am one of them being tagged by many as self-centered. In reality, I am sharing the basic principle of solution which is something or somewhat they never heard. Then later after few months, they came back and mine was true and through. We're human being, we'll never get off from life principle. Unfortunate people working with their energy, fortunate people working with their brain, smart people use both of them to be more richer. Smart people always implementing self-centered.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
yes i know that everyone plays a fair share in this world. but there are those who are just dam* proud of themselves that they act like they are the center of the universe. oh well, maybe you are right, just my opinion.
@veganbliss (3901)
• Adelaide, Australia
9 Mar 11
That's me! Maybe for about nine or ten hours a day at work I'm "it" - the head honcho, the big enchilada(?), in control of everything, nothing gets past me, through me or around me without me knowing about it... & then I get home & I'm a great big zero & my wife takes over! Oh yes, I consider her alright... she's the gem & I'm supposed to be the setting to make her shine. So yes, there's some sort of a balance there I guess, or at least a difference of two extremes, but that's me
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
yeah, we can be "it" if it was asked from us. But sometimes like in the 2nd scenario, we should also know how to lower ourselves a bit and give other people their turn to shine :)
@sexyice (874)
• Latvia
9 Mar 11
Hey hey staria ;) Ofcourse I am encounter self - centred people I hate these people. They think the world turns around them. Other people are not for them people, they are support personnel. I do not know how to live with these people, I avoid them, because I do not like to have support personnel I am sweet and friendly, I just not know how to be hideous bi**h.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
It's really hard to move around w/ those kind of people. Not only that they are self centered but they are too proud too. Some self centered people are so out of hand that it really feels uneasy when you are w/ them
@cansasct (39)
• United States
9 Mar 11
Hi! I have probably been guilty of this a little, but I noticed myself doing this and am not way less self centered, but it also makes me notice in with friends, some being worse than others. I agree that a few feel that they are always the ones who know what's really going on and act like you don't know a thing, and this is an insult to my intelligence! I think they like being right all the time and have trouble being corrected. I like to think that I correct others in a positive manner, not even telling them that they are "bad" just a part of their behavior is temporarily "Bad" that seems to get them to respond better to my criticism. I am sometimes on top of things and sometimes not, but I would say that at least I can admit when I am not. I too, like to keep a positive balance!
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
yeah, there are people who are insensitive about it and some do not even notice themselves as such. criticisms can be useful at times, it makes us wakeup in the "bad" side of us.
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@prasunsam (359)
• India
9 Mar 11
well balancing things in life is very important sometimes i also feel like that as you do but i try to keep quiet and take some time to access what is happening around me.Sometimes we have to care for that also.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
True. We have to balance things out too. There are times that we need to slow down and there are times that we need to assert ourselves. For as long as you know your stand I think it is okay. We have to care for what is happening and the people around us too.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Mar 11
Well yes I am. Oh wait...
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 11
I feel, my husband is very selfish. My husband always feels right, and do not want to be blamed. I must always obey, what my husband said, and I can not argue. However, my husband says that I'm selfish. Since I denied his words. And finally, I have to give in, and obey, what my husband wanted.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
We as wives need to obey our husband, that's the right thing to do. But we should assert ourselves too from time to time if you think that it is not right anymore. Anyway, they will be the one responsible for their decisions.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 11
According to my husband. All of which my husband says is true. And I must obey, all his words.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
Very well then, obey him. If something happens to you or your family, he will be the one responsible for it.