Would you like more then 1 husband/wife?

@emarie (5455)
United States
March 9, 2011 1:22pm CST
So this is a theoretical discussion me and my husband started a while ago. Well mostly him. Of course palimony is all over the news at times, and while watching something that involved it (news story or hour drama, can't remember) my husband comes up to me and says he can see the point in having more that 1 wife. He then went on to tell me how much it could help ME out if he took on another wife. I'd have someone to talk to, someone to help take care of the kids and clean the house. I looked at him and replied..."That's a nanny, not a wife" Then he went on to say that it would take the pressure off me to 'please' him when I'm tired and not in the mood. Well you could imagine the look on my face. I couldn't even answer him and of course it went into an argument about how he's not 'happy' with me. But all-in-all, he says he wants me to think outside of the box. It's been a year since that conversation and I saw someone on tv (a comedy) about reverse palimony and I was trying to figure out how that would work. So I told my husband that would advantage me because one husband can work and one can clean. But I wouldn't want 2 (or more) husbands sitting on their butts all day scratching their crotch. They're going to work like dogs so I can take care of the kids. LOL So if your spouse came up to you and said they could understand the idea of Palimony what would your response be?
11 responses
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
10 Mar 11
I don't think I could accept it. In the very very old days in China, men could have more than 1 wives up to no limit, but if women had any affair, they would get punished - put the women in a crate and soak them into the water... women just had to share their husband with other women and fought for the status in the house. I'm glad that it has been banned long time ago.
@emarie (5455)
• United States
10 Mar 11
That just shows the double standard society shows. It seems more acceptable for a man to take on more then 1 wife, even Mormons practiced that for a while, but when you reverse it and have a WOMAN take on more husbands, it becomes unacceptable by the masses.
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
That's a no, no in our Catholic culture here. Once your married you should only have one wife or husband or else you'll get punished by the church and the law.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
No thanks! My life is already complicated with just one husband, I don't want to complicate it any further by adding another one! That is just to stressful to take! Kidding aside, I am a selfish person. I don't share my husband. If ever he wants another wife, he better just let me go and find himself another wife.
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
10 Mar 11
No way having one is more than enough. That is just plain crazy to even want more than one. While I love my husband I sure would not want two that woud be double trouble.
@cupkitties (6702)
• United States
10 Mar 11
No thanks. lol
@yenseyer (26)
10 Mar 11
im not married yet.. but if ever i'll be.. of course i will not my husband to have another woman or either in my case... i know many people have different views about it.. some say, we could not really decide if we're not in that situation..because sometimes the right one comes along when your already commited.. but i guess its a test in your marriage relationship.. on how strong you stand by each other beyond the temptations around you... and again its humiliating to have 2 partners at thesame time especially in married life...
• Bulgaria
10 Mar 11
I think I would go with my romantic part with this issue saying that marriage means love,and love could only possibly be between two people,and not more.But pracrically I would really enjoy the income of 10 husbands letting me spend all of their money for the kids and me...:) sounds like some kind of uthopia.
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I would really like to have 2 or more husband it will totally completes me. sometimes you can't have everything you need possessed all by your husband. sometimes you'll find it with another man, sometimes love isn't all the things you need from this world. i know it's stupid and i know many will get mad at my opinion but, try to think of it folks who already have their wife and husband, does your partner have all the quality and things that you've ever wanted and needed besides from love?
• United States
9 Mar 11
Although some can do this I am one who could never agree to this. I would be way to jealous and selfish friend to share my spouse with anyone other then me. To a sense if I was allowed two husbands then I would not be able to object to my spouse having two wives. This is something I could never do and or agree to, my answer will always be no and don't ask again, lol.
@dodo19 (27783)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
9 Mar 11
I understand that some do want to have more than one spouse. However, I can't say that I'm one of them. I have one husband, and I don't plan on getting more than that. I have no interest in having more than one husband at any one time.
9 Mar 11
I definitely would not! How would you ever be able to trust what your husband is doign when he's not with you. And I can only imagine the jealousy that would be in the house. I know that Polygamy is for some people but it's most-definitely not for me. That being said, there are times I wish a had a DIFFERENT husband, but that's probably best left for another discussion :)