Awesome of Singlehood, Remind Me How Much Marriage Sucks

@mythociate (15963)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
March 11, 2011 4:32pm CST
I'm sure a lot of people will tell you how 'great' marriage is; but I don't want to hear that, because no one deems it good enough for me (how else can you explain my lack of wives? ) That 'marriage is great' is just something marrieds have to tell themselves in order to take their minds off of the giant masses of Suck marriage piles on their back. However--seeing all these happy idiots 'plunging' off the cliff and falling into 'happy lives together forever'--it takes my focus off of the Awesome of Singlehood ... I need huge blasts of Marriage-Suck to remind me to keep focusing on the Awesome of Singlehood. So, put up the warning-tape barricade!
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@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 11
hi mythociate I am so glad you are a lover of singlehood as you have save any sane woman who might have fallen fore you from a life of doom and gloom.So we who have really had a happy marriage are idiots. fine I would rather be a happy married idiot than a dried up sour faced old bachelor telling everyone how wonderful single hood is. I am a widow now but have a great son and I had a great marriage for33 years. i hate to hear you malin all people who truly have great marriages. but malign away as you as I said have saved countless women from ever tangling up with you at all.So h ave a happy singlehood
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Mar 11
Did I say it was terrible to be a happy idiot?
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• United States
11 Mar 11
Okay although mine was not the ideal type marriage I will not convey that it sucks at all! See marriage is what the two people make out of it. Perhaps like mine once upon a time ago I was the only one willing, and although I was left holding all the baggage that came with it. I do have to say that I will not shy away from it although at the current time no interested. So if you start out thinking it will s@ck then it will be evident it will. So unless you try it some day friend you will not know truly if it does or does not!
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 Mar 11
WRONG! (but hopeful, which is probably why I voted-it-up ... that, and my thing for redheads ) Oh, I know that you can load yourself like a mule with three tons of garbage and still feel light as a feather floating through the air as long as you concentrate on the onward-and-upward and not the three tons weighing you down, And once you taken-on the load you cannot choose to drop it without extended suffering; I just need someone to remind me why the better choice is NOT to pick it up when someone teases me with the juicy fruits I would receive for carrying the load across the finish-line (a lifetime away).
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• United States
11 Mar 11
I am not married yet live happily with my boyfriend and am still considered single and love it this way. Would not say to anyone it sucks dear, never ever would I use my horrid experience as an example to anyone. I am happy being single and maybe, just maybe one day will reconsider.
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• United States
12 Mar 11
The only way I can explain it is allow your heart and efforts guide you. Although I do follow the government rules I do not dictate the way the are with regards to my heart. Let's face it I am the only owner and dictator of my heart. Nothing anyone says to me about love will change the way I feel about a partner or how I choose to live with them or marry if that is the case.
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
13 Mar 11
Dude... it sounds like you want to be married. If you want to be married, then start dating. There's nothing wrong with dating. (assuming you use wise dating methods, and have proper boundaries)
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Mar 11
Dating is the reason I'm not married---because you have to have way-too-much money in order to date, but I only have enough to be married!
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
14 Mar 11
Um... date cheaper women? lol
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Mar 11
You're mistaking me for someone who has the necessary tools (car, etc.) for that.
• United States
11 Mar 11
I was married once upon a time...and let me tell, I am happily UNMARRIED. I just got out of a seven year mess (well, let's just say it was a booty call) and I just got involved with someone new that I've realized that I don't WANT to marry. I love this new guy but I don't think I could ever consider being IN love with him--I've been in love twice and both men chose someone else. I don't think I'm prepared to get hurt like the last one ever again.
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 Mar 11
People really get married to get more love for themselves (men AND women). They're not in it so much to 'keep love away from' anyone, but--as they each expect their spouse to never think of the other-spouses' selves while giving all their worldly power to them each--the marriage falls apart when either spouse stops giving and lifts the veil to look at whether the other is giving everything to them.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
12 Mar 11
Action speaks louder than words. so--for example--I could say 'I love you' to a girl in a bajillion different ways; but no one will KNOW I love her until the Action happens. Another example, Lord Jesus Christ; He told us a bajillion different ways that we're all children of God, but nobody KNEW this until the Action happens.
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• United States
12 Mar 11
Very true. This guy is good for now, but I don't know that I could fall in love with him yet...at least not until I got over the last guy fully. And I know he's been through a lot, but much of that has been his own childish impulses. I won't leave him for some time though--he's right for me at this time, and I can only hope that he'll grow on his own because it's mot right for me to force him to change. I'll know that he's truly in love with me when he makes those changes...and then I could possibly have moved on and be ready to fall in love again.
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
20 Mar 11
You really enjoy being single! I always prefered being alone and never dated someone I didn't really love. Now when I fall in love I really need to have him and have a life together. I think when there's the right person then we can be happy. The many unhappy marriage exist because people married too soon or had other reasons then love, where there's love and friendship it's a happy marriage.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
20 Mar 11
I agree! But whatever shall we do until we meet each o-- our mates 'somewhere out there'?
12 Mar 11
I love being single and I enjoy every minute of it. However I wish to get married someday to the one person who can accept me at my worst. I have married friends who are very contented and fulfilled with their lives. I guess it's because they are mature enough when they enter the covenant of marriage.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Mar 11
It's because they have firmly secured the Marriage-Suck and carry it (with their spouses' help) to the place it's needed. However, no one will carry a marriage-suck with me (because they lack the faith that I can help carry it), so I need to keep marriage-suck far away from me. I'm trying to identify marriage-suck so that I can identify it before it lures me in!
@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Mar 11
Hi myth, People get into marriage due to lack of foresight. When the heart gets the upper hand than the brain, the ability to reason falters and when one wake to the reality, separation is the only easy way out. It could have been avoided if one exercises due caution before plunging in to an otherwise happy relationship that could last a lifetime. This only adds credit to the line that only "fools fall in love." Being human beings with full faculties and intellect, it should not be so, or else, we go down to the level lower than us.
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Mar 11
Not quite. I don't want to come out sounding like I'm "defending marriage," but there is a responsible way to go into it ... i.e. NOT FOR LOVE. Love in Marriage is like Education in School---sure, the latter is the best place to find the former; but the latter IS NOT A GUARANTEE OF the former.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
12 Mar 11
You got that right! This is one of the biggest reason's I don't want to get amrried! I have seen way to many sucky marriages from my parents to people I work with! I rather see myself happy then be married and miserable! I bet more people have miserable marriages then good ones!LOL!
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
12 Mar 11
Yeah, but if they ADMIT that in public then they join the half of marriages that end in divorce!
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• United States
12 Mar 11
It is one thing to be happy in your current relationship status, but it is another thing entirely for you have to bring down anyone who doesn't agree with you just to make you feel better about your own station. You have no need whatsoever to insult marriage or those who are married just to justify the fact that you can't get a woman to put up with you. First and foremost, you seem to think that people who are happily married somehow pretend that there is never any bad in the world. That's such a steaming pile of bull. Of COURSE there are bad times, it's called LIFE. Bad things are going to happen to you whether you're married or not. You're going to have responsibilities whether you're married or not. The only difference in being married is that there are two (or more) individual lives involved and everyone has their own pattern of ups and downs that effect the ups and downs within the relationship's dynamic. Secondly, marriage is not a "shackle". It's a stupid piece of paper, nothing more and nothing less. The dynamic and the commitment of the relationship come from the two people involved, not the label on the outside. I'm sorry you feel so bad about being single, but that's your problem to muddle through. You have no right attacking others to justify yourself.
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Mar 11
Oh, and so where do you get off attacking my ability? "Hello, Kettle?"
• United States
13 Mar 11
There's no "kettle" involved when you said it yourself: "I don't want to hear that, because no one deems it good enough for me (how else can you explain my lack of wives? jealous)" Your whole discussion revolved around the fact that you were feeling sorry for yourself for not being married and you wanted other people to bash marriage with you so you could feel better about it. Try to pay attention to your own words, bucko.
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• United States
14 Mar 11
Is being utterly nonsensical the only defense mechanism you possess?
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