What if it's a disease?

@Theresaaiza (10466)
Australia
March 12, 2011 11:49am CST
I hope I wouldn't come off as gay-bashing here. Seriously, I'm not. I was just spending time with my girl pals and we all stopped to admire a very sexy woman who passed by and so the question popped out from one of my friends and she asked what if it turns out that, after series of research and studies, somebody discovers that the cause for being gay or lesbian is due to a certain cellular or hormonal defect, or simply a disease that is not necessarily fatal, or a viral infection. Hypothetically, if you had the "illness", would you have yourself medicated or cured? Or would you leave it be? I simply had no answer to it so I thought perhaps I could bring it up here on myLot. note: The question does not necessarily reflect my views or opinions on the matter and everything written here is but hypothetical in nature. It is only for the sake of a discussion.
8 responses
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
13 Mar 11
I'd probably want to be cured, and the sooner, the better.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
13 Mar 11
I hope you can deepen your answer further if you don't mind.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
14 Mar 11
Point taken, bellis. So you would choose to be cured. Thank you for posting!
@allknowing (65075)
• India
13 Mar 11
There are so many "Don'ts" that are nipped in the bud as if any "Dont's" are encouraged then one lives in guilt and this also belongs to the category of "Don'ts".Perhaps there could be millions with this tendency but since it is considered wrong many restrict themselves and live a 'straight' life. But as we know there are many who indulge in "Don'ts" without batting an eyelid, giving vent to their tendencies. I cannot call this an illness but it is the weak and those with the 'devil may care' attitude give in.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
13 Mar 11
I get what you mean. But like I said, this discussion is purely hypothetical. Doesn't mean it's based on facts. Going back to my question, would you have it cured anyway?
@allknowing (65075)
• India
13 Mar 11
As I said we all have this thought that it is not right to encourage these tendencies and having said that there is no question of 'curing' as you have put it. You either give in to your tendencies or curb them right at the start which I am sure is possible. All of us have different weaknesses and we do what we can to keep them in check.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
14 Mar 11
I see. Thanks for clearing it up. Nice post, by the way.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 11
with the question "what if it's a disease?", i will surely have myself treated by professionals. if it's a disease, i would not let myself suffer for a long time... but just what p1key mentioned, why change if you are happy about it?...
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
17 Mar 11
Good point, neil! If there is a cure, too, then why not, right? Still the decision is yours in the end.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Mar 11
hi thats a really great question. I am thinking and in this quiet evening here in southern California Garden Grove thats hard to do. If I were a lesbian how would I react if it were found to be a diseasse? As I am not a lesbian this is hard trying to pretend I love other women sexually. I think maybe I might want to b e cured and become heterosexual so I could once again fall in love with the right person and marry. that just one idea.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
13 Mar 11
Hi Hatley, actually I never got to the point of answering my friend especially with a lesbian and a gay in our midst (whom we love dearly without question). But if I had the chance, I would give the same answer as yours. I grew up in a God-fearing family, which is very common here in the Philippines being Catholic as the majority here. I just know my family will never accept it. For me, my love for family is stronger than romantic love so I probably would find a cure to be normal. Although that would mean my gay friends, after getting cured, would become boring! hahaha.
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
Hello Therezaaisa, I still strongly believed that being a GAY or Lesbian is either BIOLOGICAL and BY-CHOICE. there's no doubt about it, the only problem is some people are using biblical or religious crap to discourage it. i have seen gay and lesbian who had been also faith and good to others. Besides, God wouldn't create it if it doesn't exist. have a nice day.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
13 Mar 11
This issue is very touchy that is why I would never post anything other than if it's only hypothetical, making sure as well, to treat it with caution and sensitivity. But for one, LK, the bible is not crap. It speaks the truth. But one thing sure, we cannot force our beliefs on anyone. In the first place, this post is not for the purpose of knowing whether to tolerate homosexuality or not. I'm sorry, but I don't think you got the point of my question right.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
12 Mar 11
It would depend on how it was affecting my life. Nobody truly wants to be gay. I'm sure when they first discover they are gay it takes some getting used to, and they fear ridicule from their family and friends. If there were a cure, then during this phase they would probably take it. But after some time passes people accept themselves for who they are, write off the people who can't accept them, and surround themselves with people who do love and accept them. They become comfortable with themselves and find partners in life. At this point, they would not take the cure because they're happy with their life and their partner.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
12 Mar 11
Realistically, then, the cure is not eradicating it. Rather, accepting it. You gave a great answer and yes, it is true that some people are struggling with their sexuality because of their fear of not being accepted.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
12 Mar 11
It's only a bad thing if you feel bad about it. But if you are happy then why change. Disease or not.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
12 Mar 11
It's only a bad thing if you feel bad about it. That is a good point!
@tkonlinevn (5784)
• Vietnam
16 Mar 11
I'll go to the doctor and asking him about my disease. I read many articles about this issue. They said that there are many girls misunderstand that they're lesbian but they're not.