What to call it???
March 13, 2011 1:46pm CST
The love of my life and I have recently come out as a couple. We've been together as a couple since late high school, many moons ago, but had to hide it as so many do because of society and so forth. Anyway, we are having a commitment ceremony soon because we cannot get married (we live in Pennsylvania) because it isn't legal here. We've been trying to decide what we will call each other after the ceremony. I don't really fit the bill of a wife since I'm more masculine but you can't call me a husband either. Neither of us like the sound of partner since it sounds rather generic and impersonal to us. So I was doing some thinking about this last week and I've come up with the term "lifemate". We think that sounds more intimate and personal but I'd like some opinions on it. What do you think?
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13 Mar 11
Congrats on your long commitment! Lifemate sounds perfect, mates for life! Something many today regardless of s@xuality can't actually say that. If someone were to ask is the person your wife/husband you an also use the partner. If anyone has an issue with any term, just let them sort it out for themselves and not worry or exert any wasted energy effort about whether they are confused or puzzled. Wishing you and your lifemate a long and happy life together!
14 Mar 11
A rose by any other name will smell just the same, so why really bother about titles? The fact that you are both committed to each other is what matters and not what society thinks. As far as addressing each other is concerned - anything that you both like - it could the conventional 'darling' or 'love' or 'sweetness' or whatever you both like. Wish you happiness and all the best!
14 Mar 11
I neither support nor object to your relationship. I feel that as long you don't disturb my life and others you are free to have whatever relationship that you like. Why do you have to think of other name. I feel that 'lesbian' is so direct and reflect the real relationship that you have. I feel okay for male to male relationship to call themselves as gay couple. So, just stick to lesbian couple so nobody will need to become a 'husband' or 'wife'. You just be a partner to your partner. All the best for the future.