should I tell her...?

India
March 15, 2011 12:31pm CST
This is my real story please give serious suggestions... There is this girl in my class. A very cute person really gorgeous and caring. Everyone likes her. The best part is that she is my best friend too. But the thing is before all this happened I liked her but never told her. She knows it. I had an affair in my class everyone knows that. Its over now. A guy tried to hit on her but failed to please he and she refused even before he could say it to her. So I am afraid of losing the best friend I have by a foolish mistake of mine. Time is running out too as my graduation is going to get completed...please help me...
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13 responses
• India
15 Mar 11
i undstnd what you are goin through.i would suggest you should tell her what you are felling is she undstnd she would say yes or no.and whatever will be her ans.your friendship gonna continue.but if u never try you will always keep on thinking about her.so its batter to try.
• India
15 Mar 11
Hey thanx to you all for your suggestions...but there is still a catch in the tail.. I don't look good as compared to her...she is like this cute baby..sweet..and I m like not so good looking but a confident guy all the same...still not confident enough to tell her my feelings...we are different in caste. She says her parent want her to be with someone of their caste...do you think now should try???
• United States
21 Mar 11
I definitely think that you should tell her. If it is really eating you inside and you are dying to get it out, then you really should! If you never say anything, then you will never know that anything could have happened. And if she does not feel the same, than you can start to move on rather than stay tormented and not knowing how she feels. I think it is better for you to know for a fact how she feels than remain in ignorance and possibly lose your chance at something amazing. If she really is a good friend and doesn't feel the same, she can get over it and have your friendship go on. I just think that you should not wait and sit on the idea, because maybe you will find out years down the road that you lost a shot at something really special!! And how much of human life is lost in waiting?
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
Hello dear :) She is your best friend right? Then you know her completely. Your luckier than other boys because you can always approach and tell her everything you want. I know its hard to tell the truth but there's nothing wrong in telling her that you love her before it's too late.
• India
17 Mar 11
Hmmm Its really difficult bro as i have faced this situation in my life. It clearly depends on ur gal. The one problem that u might face is that she may become uncomfortable with you after u express your feelings because she knows that u no longer treats her as a friend but treats her as a lover. One thing I can tell you is that its really difficult to be like a friend with the gal u love the most. I am telling out of my own personal experience. My advice is go for it. Tell her how you feel about her.She is your best friend so she will understand your feelings. why i am telling this is if you dont tell her about ur feelings there will definitely be another guy in her life in future and u need to be with them as she thinks u r a good friend of hers. And that is real hell on earth. So please go and tell your feelings and if unfortunately she declines it try to convince her show how much she means to you and even after that if she declines its better to go away from her life. You can tbe with her in the mask of a friend when you love her.
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
You better tell her now before it will be to later.Maybe she is just waiting for you to confess.Afterall,she is your bestfriend,it won't ruin your friendship or something.tell her asap or forever hold your peace :)
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
I think you must! :) Maybe that's why she didn't say yes to the guy that tried to win her because she's waiting for u!
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
hi there. i really think you should tell her, because anyway she knows it already and i think she would even appreciate your courage and sincerity by telling her your feelings. i know sometimes friendship is important but maybe once you told her that and maybe there will be a gap between the two of you, there is still a chance you can regain the friendship. just show her your sincerity and that what you are showing is true. good luck to you and congratulations, you are graduating soon :)
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
If you won't tell her how you feel you might regret it in the future and you will forever wonder with the "what ifs." if you would confess on the other hand, you take the risk of losing her but then there's also a possibility that she might feel the same way and would reciprocate your love. So you really have to weigh these two and decide which will cause you less burden. In the end it is you who will have to benefit or suffer from your one action. Just remember that it's better to have tried than not doing anything at all.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
16 Mar 11
I know it seems really difficult to do it but remember the truth will free you. It might be difficult to tell the truth but it's always the right option. Think about 2, 10 years from now and how you will regret your silence.
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hi Xpercomments, I would suggest you be as gentle and honest as you possibly can. It appears the both of you are shy and perhaps afraid to express to each other your feelings. You will be puzzled and confused if you do not say something and time passes. Find the appropriate time and place and gently explain to her your feelings. I understand you are afraid since you list she is very cute (pretty). Just be as sincere as possible and do not be afraid of rejection. Be yourself and do not allow fear to stop you from letting her know. At worst you will be able to move forward without confusion. Best of luck and do hope all goes well.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
If you do not try to tell her about your feeling,how'd you know if she loves you too or not. Okay,you are afraid that she might not like it and will avoid you after you tell her about your feelings,then,if you are afraid of it...then keep your mouth shut. But,what if,the feeling is mutual. What if,she also loves you and that is the reason why she never accepted other guys to have relationship with because she is waiting for you? Why not take any chances rather than regretting of things you haven't tried.
@sexyice (874)
• Latvia
15 Mar 11
It seems to me you need to end the suffer and to tell her. You wrote "she knows it". Maybe she is very shy and is waiting for you as a real man will confess! Maybe you only lose time, not saying it to her now. Receives the courage and confess,then the same feel Better!
• Indonesia
15 Mar 11
very difficult to answer, if she only onsiders you a good friend then you will hurt forever. but if there is a chance trying to say what you mean, maybe he'll accept you