Really Ticked off and do not know what to do

@pjnjclyn (177)
Newton, New Jersey
March 18, 2011 9:35pm CST
I am going to try and keep this as short as I can. Yesterday my husband had another diabetic attack. It was so bad that he had a seizure. Number one he would not stay in the hospital to get the help that he needed and will not do anything to help himself. Then he is arguing with me because I threw out his last cigar that was in the ashtray by mmistake it was not even half a one. I made a mistake. Everytime that he has one of the attacks he can not even say thank you. All he wants to do it annoy me about things that do not matter. I feel like the he could care less that I help him or not it is like I am accpected to do it. Tell me what you think about the whole thing. If there is anything that you would like to ask I will answer Thank you
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@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
19 Mar 11
Hmm Kind of weird situation, Looks like your husband has no one else to show his anger off and above that he has this diabetic attack. So he thinks its his right to bark on you. thats very bad thing to do, Is he in a doubt of losing you or you are having an affair with some one else.
@pjnjclyn (177)
• Newton, New Jersey
20 Mar 11
I am not going to have an affair no one should do that to another person, if you feel that way then you should leave the person not stab them in the back by being with another person having a double life. I love him and do not want to leave him I am just frustrated with everything. Marriage is work you have to working at it this is not hollywood or fairy tale lands there are going to be good and bad days and when you are having one of those bad days the worst thing that you can do in bring an outsider into the mix. Like Michael Bolton says: Ridin the good times are easy the hard time will tear you apart they'll be times in your heart when the feeling is gone but ya keep on believing you keep holdin on
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
20 Mar 11
Well ,if thats the story then Its Pure love for you in his heart and he is afraid of losing you that's why he shows his anger to you,
• United States
19 Mar 11
Has he had a medicine change? My dad is diabetic and was put on a new medicine. He was like a totally different person on it, grumpy all the time and mad at the world. My dad ended up taking himself off this med then going to the doctor and asking for something else. He said he didn't like the way it made him act and it made him feel bad.
• United States
19 Mar 11
After I posted above I had the same thought as you. I was thinking maybe medication side effects can be contributing to mood changes.
@pjnjclyn (177)
• Newton, New Jersey
20 Mar 11
Yes they have been playing around with his insulin and also with his blood pressure meds.
19 Mar 11
Which type of diabetes does your husband have. I myself have type 1 diabetes and am dependant on regular insulin injections. Whenever I have a hypoglycemic attack I always feel really rough afterwards and it makes me irritable and cannot help it. If these attacks are a regular thing then it may be a good idea to check out the diabetic websites and see if you can find some useful advice about how to sort this problem out.
@pjnjclyn (177)
• Newton, New Jersey
20 Mar 11
He has had it since he was a 12 so he had juvenile diabetes. I honestly always get the one and two mixed up. We where told that he has went into the brittle stage. He has had it more then 20 years now and that whole time on insulin.
@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
21 Mar 11
Personally, from someone who is Diabetic and Insulin dependent at that, I can relate with what your husband goes thru as I know when my Blood sugars are running lower I get a lot more irritable and it is hard for people to want to be around me. I am one of the first ones to notice though and usually will try to warn someone. But it can be irritable for both people involved for sure.
• United States
19 Mar 11
I am sorry you are in this situation. Alot of times when we try to be helpful the other person not only does not appreciate it they also act resentful. It might be that he acts hostile because he is afraid or angry about what happens. The only thing you can do is continue to encourage him and show him you care enough about him to stick through it with him. He will thank you one day. He might not show it but I am sure he is grateful to you. After all, who would take care of him if you don't?
• Saint Lucia
19 Mar 11
Sometimes people act like this when they have a long-term illness and feel dependent on others.Some of us let pride get in the way of having others help us and sometime we dont realise that its not even healthy to cat this way.He puts up a fight sometimes just to get you annoyed so that there wont be any discussion of the real problem. So sit with him when you are having a good time(good terms)and try discussing the issue because this isnt affecting him only.Let him know that you love him no less and is thankful you can be there.Let him know that he isnt a burden. Some of us dont know how to cope with weakness.
@dfollin (12744)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I have been there,you are just gonna' have to be very patientHe appreciates,it but just can't show it when he is not feeling good.You need to understand that. And he needs to understand that he needs to stay in the hospital and get the help that he needs.Maybe you can find a relative or friend that can talk to him about that.I never had to ask my husband once if he would stay at the hospital..He enjoyed being in a private bed,getting special food,being pampered and the peace and quiet.But,he did love to come home,till he got so bad he had to stay at the hospital. Just try to walk away and ignore his stupid comments and encourage him to get medical help,when needed.