To what extent will you sacrifice for your family and love?

@acey76 (1278)
Philippines
March 19, 2011 1:56am CST
Well I have asked that because a neighbor of mine, Is all beaten up but didn't have the strength to let go of their relationship. We have told the woman to leave his husband but she always says she loves him, and what would happen to their children if they got separated. How about you guys ?
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@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
19 Mar 11
This is very sad but when a husband start abusing his wife it would never stop...on the contrary the abuse will escalate...the more she puts up with it the worse is going to get...I don't think your friend have many choices...she needs to leave and fast before she get really hurt or killed! may be she could go to a women's refuge until she can find a job and a place to live. The children will be better off once she leaves this horrible marriage...exposing them to violence is no way to bring up happy children! I did leave my husband and I had 4 children...today they are all grown up with careers and a life of their own!
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
yeah I agree with you, once the husband start an abuse it will never stop. I pity her children because I know what are their witnessing at their young age is a traumatic experience for them. :-(
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
i guess i already have done so. i've sacrificed a lot of thinggs already for my family... i had to work immediately after graduation, that i do not even have time for my self... no time to think what career i would want to pursue..
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@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
Well, your sacrificing for your family's welfare that's a good thing you have plenty of years ahead, There would be a good karma for your sacrifices. Be patient :-)
• Australia
19 Mar 11
This is a very worst aspect of some socities. In all these male dominant environments, female are supressed and dominated. They cannot let go their relationship because they are scared of their children's future and fear the thought of raising them by their own. I hope this system will be eradicated by future generations. As for your friend, if she has good skills and can get a job for herself, she will be able to raise her children all by herself without having to live such a life of misery. All the best!
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
yeah, i agree with you indeed love is blind and stupid I guess, I have adviced her a couple of times but I guess it's by her own now when will he say to herself that enough is enough. Thanks for the response
@donski (132)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
I will give everything to my family. but being beaten up it's a different story. a different level. Maybe you have a second thought. Leave and live a new life. start all over again and always give your best. You need not be an punching bag only to prove that your love him. there's a lot of options, choices to make and soon make a decision that you think is best for everybody. I think leaving somebody you love and starting a new life will also be a considered a great sacrifice.
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@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
She's still thinking for the general welfare of their family as a whole. And if she could still save the marriage she would. That's a typical scene of a woman. But she should know the limits, and make her husband respect the limits and boundaries. Women shouldn't be hit by their husbands, it's a real NO NO for me. Sometimes you have to teach the man a lesson just for him to realize what he's been doing is wrong. Anyway, I just hope your neighbor's husband would change for the better...
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Mar 11
Hi there.. I admire her tolerance and good mental strength on sustaining a relationship. She proves the word mother because here i see that she is bearing all these for her kids.. because she better knows that it will be hard to survive after separation. But if it continues, i mean torture, then you should come out for a solution. have a nice day.
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@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 11
HI, Feel sorry for your friend and what I can say is that she has to be strong and if she is capable to work and earn money by herself,then she will be able to support her children.In the first place,what happened between them and why she has to leave her husband? If she really love her husband and children ,then she may consider to forgive her husband and start a new life with her husband. Or else, separating will be a better option to choose.