Open relationship.....

March 19, 2011 11:02pm CST
open relationship?how do you really deal with it, or how do you maintain a healthy relationship?cuz some develop certain feelings when their in it...
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6 responses
• Mexico
20 Mar 11
Most of the time, the thing about an open relationship is that is is not "official" and that makes people doubt. Personally, I believe it to be much better when a relationship is based on passion (mutual) than when it is based on engagement. In general, learn to care more about the other person, pay close attention to their needs, wants and desires.
20 Mar 11
that's the thing its not official,both party agreed to it..i just don't know why it has to be "wanting something more"...
• Mexico
20 Mar 11
Maybe it is because of society's standards. People make you feel that you should because they were thaught that that is the way to do it.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
20 Mar 11
I myself do not agree with open relationships...if you can't commit to some one then don't have a relationship at all! I believe in open relationships some one is going to get hurt and most time females do!
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
20 Mar 11
What makes you think that ppl in open relationships cant commit? We can and do commit just as much as monogamous people.
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
Hello zeadom, I don't know really if it's applicable in the first place. there was a time i got into it, but as time passes i realized that it hurts more because am just the third party and any time she can go back to that monogomous status with the person that she loves first. such feelings do ended up being dry once the flames has gone out.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
20 Mar 11
How do you deal with it? Well there really isnt anything to "deal" with...If either party needs to find a way to "deal" with it then they should NOT have agreed to be in an open relationship or marriage. How do you maintain a healthy relationship? Same way you would if it WASNT an open relationship..COMMUNICATION! Talking openly and honestly with both my husband and my bf was key for me..and in fact there were times the two of them would talk to each other..Setting ground rules and stickin with them is also very important but again thats not any different to a monogamous relationship. Really IMO and experience, an open relationship isnt all that different to a non open one other than there are extra ppl or (in my case one extra person) involved...
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hi zeedaom and a warm welcome to you to myLot! Personally I could never agree to an open relationship because I am a committed person who could not tolerate sharing the person I love with someone else. Nor could I share myself with someone else. However there are some couples who so agree to this and if that is there preference it is fine by me. I have a few off-line acquaintance that do have open relationships and although they say they both agreed, it is my opinion that they my acquaintance are not happy in the agreed arrangement. Because later I hear the complaints about how they feel their significant others have taken it to far and or have developed more feelings for the other person. So unless the two are in total agreement then they cannot change the rules later, is my thoughts. I have read other discussions on here that some do have open relationships and it does work for them.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
20 Mar 11
This sort of thing suits some people but men risk a lot as men and women are made very different, women are made for real love and for nurturing babies so they were made in such a way that when they make love a certain hormone is released that enhances the feelings of love where men are made to keep the species going by making love does not mean quite the same...