Single mums, how do you manage with your child on your own?
By missmissy
@missmissy (22)
Estonia
March 20, 2011 11:49am CST
Is there single mums, who would like to tell us about your regular day? How do you find time on your own? Is there any time for your own? Sometimes I feel like my baby has taken me over...there is no me anymore...I love my baby a lot, but still would like to be on my own too...
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3 responses
@lakshmi11 (278)
• United States
22 Mar 11
Hey missmissy,
I like to give you some unconventional advise. This advise has helped me in many situations, where I felt overwhelmed and tired of the situation I was in. -
Here it goes: be as positive as possible. Find everyday something to be grateful for.
Write in a diary - even if it is just one sentence.-
Life is not perfect.- Even if there is no Dad to help you. - It is not always easier to have one- there will always be challenges even with a Dad.- I used to write the things I didn't like down and then went back and changed them into their positive counterparts. If you find all those things you really love everyday, your life will be a wonderful one in no time.- And help will show up when you need it.
@missmissy (22)
• Estonia
24 Mar 11
We actually think the same way...I am trying to find positive sides of my life and am enjoying every single day...sometimes just want to have half an hour just for me... but it is ok, my baby will grow and I will have some more time just for me...
I have tried to keep a diary...Its just not for me i think...it is not working...at least i am not the person, who will write every day or etc, but it´s ok i think...:)
@kahanuola (25)
• United States
20 Mar 11
i am a single mom, i cant afford a nanny so i work grave yard shift and my mom watches him i pick him up at six in the morning and my day is spent with him, sleep is a swear word lol for he is only three years old, i sleep for an hour or two while he naps, its hard but theres no better feeling than knowing that i am taking care of him and he is happy, fed, clean and full of life pays off for every sleep less day and night
@missmissy (22)
• Estonia
21 Mar 11
Oeh...your situation is much harder than mine..so i wish you a lot of strength and hope you will find your way to get some more sleep...I feel the same, that he gives me strength but still sometimes I feel like I need my time also...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
If you are having a baby,and being single it is really hard for you.
you can not go to work unless you have to have a nanny to look for your baby.
You need sometime to adjust with your situation.
Now,if you are receiving financial support from the father,then just enjoy being a single mom,while your baby is still small.
Then,if your baby is about 2 or 3 years old,you can try to find a job so that you can also have your life back again.
For the meantime..enjoy being a mother,cause you will surely that once your baby becomes a grown up.
"welcome to mylot"
@missmissy (22)
• Estonia
21 Mar 11
Don´t get me wrong :) I love my baby and the fact that I am a mother. I actually enjoy it a lot, but just sometimes I feel that it would be much easier to have a daddy also...Specially on times, when for example I would like to take a shower, but can not do it, as there is no one to take care after the baby. My parents are helping me also, but it feels bad to ask for the help... I decided to have the baby, so I should raise him...
About the financial situation...The daddy is not helping us..but we have a financial help for every mummy (single or not)by the government that is the same amount of the money as mummy had before the baby as a salary :) It is the way as long as the baby gets 1,5 year old..so I can manage with that at the moment...but have to go to work on the autumn...then my family would help me with babysitting...
