what would you do if he was in a relaitonship?

Romania
March 20, 2011 3:13pm CST
so let's say you were in love with someone. but that person already had a relationship. what would you do in this situation?
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9 responses
@donski (132)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
talk to him heart to heart. let him explain his side. After listening then it's time for you to decide. always give him benefit of a doubt. But if you proved that he is really in a relationship then i think it's time for you to move on. It really hurts to let go of someone you dearly love but i guess this is the best thing that you should do. go and let go. move on. life has a lot to offer. enjoy it. never let your hurt feelings ruin your life. just be yourself and soon you will find the right man for you.
@nikramos (701)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
we really wish we can do it this easy, we really do. well thought of response and sounds sincere, no biases or anything. its too hard to hold back but you really have very good points.
• United States
20 Mar 11
I would have to move on and look else where there are plenty of fish in the sea! L.O.L. That is what my mom always told me, well I wish you good luck in moving on and have a good day!
• Romania
20 Mar 11
if things were so simple life would be really easy
• United States
20 Mar 11
Some things in life are difficult but we have to learn to deal and accept them even if it is not the answer we are looking for, But I wish you luck. Have a good day!
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
21 Mar 11
Of course nothing, that's cheating. I had this unfortunate incidents in my life...TWICE! I was in love, we met in one month we were really close, just conversation but you know when we both are so much in love, we can know by the voice and eyes. I find out then he's married! I drop out this work in one week, cut contact, sure! Why not? I'm not a b... It took me 6 months to forget him! The second time was the same thing but he was going to divorce, I didn't even waited. If he divorce fine, come after me, but never in the middle. Only b....do that. I don't want no one messing with my man and Iwould never do that to another girl, another human for God's sake.
• Romania
21 Mar 11
yes you're right and I think you took the right decision. it must have been hard but sometimes we have to be rational and think what;s best for us.
@liumirror (138)
• China
21 Mar 11
He or she already married? He or she already have a lover? Then of course leave him or her.Because it is the love that is not belongs you.Why you seize it? Why put happy to other's pain?
• Romania
21 Mar 11
but what if their relationship doesn't work out well? what if he tells you that he will leave his partner but this will take time to prepare his partner for it
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hi swissheart in all honesty walk away and never look back. Because clearly if he is in a relationship and I was in love with him that means he does not love me on the same and equal level that I love him. That would not seem fair to my heart. It will take time for my heart to heal but I do not like ultimatums nor do I like to have to wait around until he makes up his mind. So as hard as it may seem me I would try and forget the person.
• Romania
20 Mar 11
yes you're right. and it's so damn hard. I mean he might say he loves you but this indicates how sincere is he to the person he already is...and it says alot about him. later on he might do the same thing to you...and find another love. so I think you;re right, sadly it's better to move on
@amirev777 (2565)
• India
21 Mar 11
Hi In that case I would think it would be wise to just let her go, I'll try my best to forget her. Of course, it would have to be her choice to end the other relationship and then we could take our relationship ahead.
@nikramos (701)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
with reference to my life's experience, it went from suspicions, to confrontation, then the awful truth dawned on me. what could i have done? perhaps leave, but i didnt. why? because i loved him too dearly. and why do i risk being in a really emotionally-draining relationship? because i really love him. i knew i was overly hurt. there were more times i felt sad than happy. i just prayed and waited that i get tired and that the feeling will just fade because i cant just leave. at the time of writing, i guess He heard my prayers because He knew all along im having much of a hard time.im in the middle of assessing and helping myself be 'normal' again. with much regret i will say i should have not done it. i regret having to waste my time and efforts on him. and what makes it harder is to finally let go and commit myself to a new relationship again.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Mar 11
This woulod have to be a difficult decision to have to make. So much would have to be considered with the kinds of feelings and emotions that you could have for this special someone that you love. As much as i would care for this person, myheart would certainly be torn. My head would be telling me not to get involved while my heart might not be as willing.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
hello swiss, this is really hard. If he is already married,better out of his way. If he not yet married but engaged...better not to interfere . If he is just in a relationship,maybe hope that he's still considering another one. But then...if he can leave his present relationship because he falls for you...how sure you are that he can stay faithful with you ? so...i guess better look for someone who is totally free.