friend?

@SIMPLYD (86372)
Philippines
March 20, 2011 8:21pm CST
Would you stay friends with a person, who has a habit of nursing grudges, demands huge apologies, has a chronically unforgiving spirit, and would sometimes create strife among friends? Sorry but for me, even if she will be giving me lots of gifts I wouldn’t want her for a friend.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
No. I really cant stand those kind of "friends", they are more of a selfish kind of person to me. Friends are there to give you a good spirit and keep you in high spirits. If a friend pulls you down then s/he isnt a true friend. They should be the first one to help and understand you and not demand things from you.
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@SIMPLYD (86372)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
But sometimes it can't be avoided when from a group of friends somebody like that appears. It creates a two faction among your group. Usually, i would stay with the other group who offers true friendship.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
yeah, there are this types in a set of friends. might as well stay and join the good guys. you will be able to share and experience true friendship w/ them :)
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@SIMPLYD (86372)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
21 Mar 11
One does not choose their friends ... I know that--in today's society that boasts of having control over all the conditions in one's life--people say you CAN choose your friends (and they're sorta right); but no, the real choice you have is how you act---which attract/repels the friends you want/don't-want. With this friend, I would suggest that his friends remember why they're friends with him in the first place.
@SIMPLYD (86372)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Well, you have your point. But a friend should be honest enough to tell you what's wrong with you, not say it to others. It hurts that you will know about it from others that your friend has told.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Mar 11
Maybe his friends should help him address the cause of his problem
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
21 Mar 11
No, I wouldn't. At this point in my life I don't have time for friendships that are a lot of work, or for people who have to make things difficult or bring negativity into my life. I just want to have people around me who I can have an effortless relationship with. Things are fair, things are balanced and we understand each other. No craziness, no demands, no he said/she said garbage - just ease. If people want to have grudges and constant 'drama' in their lives then it's safe to say we just wouldn't make very good friends. Luckily there are lots of people like that in the world, so at least they wont be lonely :)
@SIMPLYD (86372)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Correct! They find others who share the same bad traits. As it is said "Birds of the same feather flock together."
@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
21 Mar 11
Dear friend, I will be something uncomfortable situation. May be still if that friend had done something indebted I feel that thanking may tickle me. I would like to have peace of mind with someone who understand me or get well each other.
@SIMPLYD (86372)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
i share your opinion Shamrack.