Are there rules you have to meet in order to get married???

United States
March 22, 2011 1:08am CST
I'm getting married to the love of my life on Aug. 19th of this year. But the problem is that people say we're too young to get married and we dont know what its like to live together. I'm 24 years old and she is 24 years old. people may say "well you have your whole life ahead of you" and I tell them I've done everything I had went to parties, strip clubs, had 2 or 3 girlfriends at the same time, and plus I was kinda wild but when I met her she changed my world. the other problem "you dont know what she'll act like when we're living together she might be the devil" type thing isnt what the older generations said never shack up with someone but its the same generation saying we should live together first I mean make up your mind. So my question is: Is there an age you have to be to get married and do you have to live with the person first? help me out please....
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12 responses
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
The reasons for your marriage to work lies between the two of you. you will hear a lot from other people but at the end of the day it will still be you and her. You are very blessed to find the "love of your life" dont let stupid people break your relationship
• United States
22 Mar 11
they won't I promise that, but its not like they totaly say no to it but the one thing the gets me the most is the living together part we plan to move in with each other a month after we are married so in your opinon how do you feel about living together. before or after?
@khalida (1130)
• India
22 Mar 11
Living together after marriage is totally your call. you like the privacy so much, you can go for it. just make sure the elders are okay with it? this is what i would do, if i am in your place. after a love marriage, i would take extra care to please the elders as i wouldn't want anyone who matters to have any type of grudge on us
25 Mar 11
One thing you need to think is.. If you are going to listen to what others are saying and let them rules.. what will happen next? are you willing to let your chance to live with the one you love slip off.. Your answer of course should be NO! Fight for your love but it should be with sense of responsibity..
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Well i wanna say best wishes, getting married is not that easy as they say, i am 24 and getting married on december this year too. Follow what your heart say, you should remember that in marriage you have accept things. In married life things will change, you might say your wife will become sweeter maybe or maybe become a nagger. You need to become responsible so the same as her. You will have solve your problem with her. In married life you have to be more understanding because you have to deal with different things especially when you have your kids. Guess what kids are loving sometimes but there will be time that kids are become stubborn.This will be the same with your fiancee you both need to be understanding and be patient. And in age? there is no problem with that as long as you are financially stable. And ready to face marriage life.
@even1217 (61)
• China
23 Mar 11
My boyfriend and I are together for 6 years since our high school. Now we will all gratuate from the university. For me, I want to get married soon after our graduation to perfect our relationship. However, he thinks it's too young for him to get married and he even has not a solid material foundation. So waht should I do? I wait for him. In my opinion, if you two really love each other and want to be together, then do it! Love can conquer anything.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
some says you have to get married when your at 25 or 26 but for me you can get married ant time you want as long as take not as long as you are physically,emotionally,spiritually and the most important financially ready and of course if you're already 100% sure to the one you want to be with for the rest of your life...for your other problem you don't to worry bout that cause that can be fixed by a peaceful conversation.. you really have to think and feel into yourself if you're ready to get married already....goodluck!!
• United States
22 Mar 11
It`s different for everyone. I say live with her first. Because living with a significant other can feel like you`re married. So, it`ll be like testing the waters, you know? You dont want to get married, then when you live with her, you find out you guys annoy eachother or dont agree on the same things and or have different living habits. Find this things out first. It`s nice you found a girl that can change you for the better. Hold on to that. I mean I dont believe you should be a certain age to get married, but you gotta know your partner in and out. It`ll help.
@khalida (1130)
• India
22 Mar 11
well, first of all, congratulations A succesful love which is turning into marriage is great! i think, it is high time one breaks the clicje that with age comes experience and the kind of things you learn. it cant always be right. now a days, young people are getting so much exposure and are experiencing difficult situations at a young age and thus learn a lot of things. so depending on the brought up , they can be more experienced. "with age comes experience" is a false notion. what i am saying is, even a young person can be more experienced, depending on their mistakes right? about live-in relationships, i am not for or against this but the kind of people who want a live-in relationship before marriage, i would like to ask them, why they want to test the compatability so much before getting married? don't they already love their partner enough?? 2 bad things can happen due to live-in, 1) either of the one might feel he/she has got a lot without any commitment as marriage or might feel, what more can marriage bring than this? 2)there will be some habits of your partner you might not like and if you love them, you will deal with them. . . but if it is live in some might feel certain habits are too much to tolerate and want to break up? in a relationship, all kinds of problems can come, you can never be over cautious. so the key is to have a great rapport and affection with your partner and sort out any trouble.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
22 Mar 11
hi, now its ur life and ur opinnions are more important rather than anyone elses.You are aware of ur resources and strenghts.Now its the love between u both that matters a lot on living together after the marriage.Age is nothing to think of.If u think of it then also its ur wish.Try to make your life happy with ur decision rather thinking of the rules made by the oldergenerations and old rules.Have a change.
@betty110 (66)
• China
22 Mar 11
In my opinion, there is no exact age which is right for marriage. If you feel the gril or boy is just the right one, then you can have a marriage. And I think part of older generation's word is right, but most part of that, you have to feel the marriage by yourself. It may have some differences compared with premarital. Because you will know her or him more deeply than before. But do not worry about that. And wish you a happy marriage. :)
@zralte (4186)
• India
22 Mar 11
I don't think there is 'The right age' to get married. Obviously it is not good to get married at very young age. But then who can really say what age is right? A 30 year old can be immature whereas a 16 year old can be mature. It depends on person to person and well, upbringing, too, I guess. There is no guarantee in life and more so in marriage. No one can predict they are going to live happily ever after. That is fairy tale. If you love each other, your love will help you fight the odds and keep you together. Marriage is hard work, you have to work on it constantly to keep it together. Living with the other person before getting married - in some culture, that is unheard of, where is in some countries, it is the norms, though not necessary. It could be good for someone, but may be not for everyone. You know yourself best and do what you think is best.
• Guadeloupe
22 Mar 11
If you don't know your own minds at 24 years old then you'll never know them. Having your whole life ahead of you is an ideal time to get married, just make sure you are committed and that you are both dtermined to make it work. One question you need to explore - are you both looking for the same thing out of marriage? Do you share a common view about what your marriage will look like? Good luck.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
For me, there are no rules when you're in love. You can marry at any age as long as you're in the legal age. 24 is not that young. I guess you have already enjoyed your single life so it's about time to settle down. I'm sure your girl also would be happy if you'll get married...