are you married

China
March 22, 2011 2:34am CST
It maybe a private information here. Maybe I should not ask you. But in our China, it is common to see that two people talking about marriage in the street. If you reached the age of 23, your parents will start to worry about your marriage. And will look for some good boy or girl for you. It is interesting. You will be forced to meet somebody whom you do not even talked before. Then start to know each other. It is near my age of getting married, but I still do not find anyone suitable. Maybe I am not hurry about that. So, what is your view on marriage? Do you want to find your Mr. Right now?
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18 responses
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Yup! I am married now and not going to find someone because my wife is the best of everything in my life...she is the apple of my eyes and I love her so much! No matter what happen I love her and never give up onto her. I give my life to my wife and forever I love her...
• China
30 Mar 11
hi, my dear friend. Glad to hear your sweet love. Wish you happy all life :)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Thanks for that wish and compliment, my dear. There's a lot of trouble in my relationship but still hope all may set to good life...to love her forever doesn't mean no problem hehe
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
I'll be turning 35 this Saturday :-) and I'm still single, I don't find love If there's something there for me I accept it but If there is no one I don't mind at all
• China
23 Mar 11
yes, true love is really too hard to find now. Wish there is one day, you could find the one suitable for you.
@even1217 (61)
• China
23 Mar 11
hello betty, I'm chinese too. My boyfriend and I are together since high school. Now we will graduate from university this June. I want to get married soon after our graduation to perfect our relationship. however, he thinks it's too young for him and he even has not a solid material foundation. By the way, my family has accepted him while his family has not for the reason that I am not tall. I really don't know waht to do.
• China
23 Mar 11
I think height would not be a serious problem. Just do as yourself,and people will love you. You can also show your love to his parents, they will feel your empressement. As a Chinese, I totally understand your position, if you have true love, money will not matter, you can earn money together. As there is an old saying"time will prove everything". I belive in you and you should have confidence now, everything will be OK. Wish you happy.
• China
23 Mar 11
I am married. my husband and I know each other from other people introduce last year, just like you said when i was 22, my mom was hurry to let me marry.she let my relatives introduce some boys to know.although my husband and i get along with short time,we are devoted to each other.so i think once you find some boy or girl that suitable you ,grasp .don't hang back
• China
23 Mar 11
It is so sweet to see your photo, the wedding photo I mean. How happy you are!
@umabharti (3976)
• India
22 Mar 11
hi, India is also a country which is having the same rules for marriage.Rules are breaken when there is no wish of god.Here we think 18 years for a girl and 21 years for a boy to get married.As now it is a different time due to jobs or some other reasons people now get late marriages.
• China
23 Mar 11
I am also a Chinese girl. I met my Mr. Right on line.^^
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
i'm still single but in my country we are free to choose whoever we want to marry, why would olds worry if your not married at the age of 23 does 23 old enough to get married? can you show me some chinese opinion?
• China
22 Mar 11
Because the age of 23 or above means you are mature enough in China. And parents would like to have a little baby of you. Though there are millons of people in China, but most of our time is spending on working or staying with family, so we know few people. And then, parents will make you to meet some young guys who is their friends' children maybe.
@asiregar (866)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
30 Mar 11
I am now married, and I first met my wife through chat programs on the internet
@dismalgrin (2470)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I sure was not ready at the age of 23 to get married. And if I had I would have made a HUGE mistake. I'm 27 now and I feel ready to marry, but I'm not sure if I will or not. My parents will have no say in who I marry if I do because I refuse to talk to them anymore. They did some very bad things to me as an adult and I had to step away from them and acknowledge that they are toxic and just because they conceived and birthed me does not mean I should put up with that torture from them. I would not let people like that choose my future life partner for me.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Hi Betty! Welcome to Mylot! In my country, generally we get married when we want to get married. Unless you got yourself pregnant, then your parents will force you to marry the guy who got you pregnant. Some people here are still very much conservative and are concerned about their names in society. They don't want their reputation to be smeared by having an unwed mother in the family. In the southern part of the Philippines where majority of the population are Muslims. It is accepted to have arranged marriage between families even if the couples involved are children. Yup, I saw a documentary about it and children aged 5 & 7 were married. But I think, they will only live together when they are at legal age. They still go back home to their parents and continue their studies. I am married for 6 years now. I always thought that I should get married when I'm 25. I don't know why I am such in a rush. Anyway, I got married when I was 26. My friends are now in their early 30's and they are anxious to get hitched. Unfortunately, they haven't met the "one" and are still ladies in the waiting.
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
22 Mar 11
In the states, things are a lot different. Yes I do what to find Mr. Right. But I'm not ready to get married to Mr. Right, Right now. Here, after the age of 23 are parents don't get worried if we haven't got married yet, nor do they look for a nice guy or girl for their children. In the state at the age of 23 most americans believe thats a young age to get married. I'll be 22 this year in July and i'm not looking to get married anytime soon. And I do have a boyfriend of 4 years now, but I'm still young and we both have a lot of growing and we still need to get to know ourselves before we get married to each other.
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I am married and i was married to the man I like and love, my parents never forced me to meet somebody. but they are still supporting for who ever I love and their just always a guidance. Now we have already five kids and happy living together.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
22 Mar 11
Hi, thanks for adding me as friends. I'm a Chinese as well and I know something about that when we reach a certain age like mid 20, the parents will start nagging you about getting married and have a family on your own. I'm happy to find the Mr.Right and we are married. Wish you good luck finding your Mr.Right
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I'am happily married got married when I was 27 yrs old with my boyfriend of 9 years. I hope you'll find you're Mr. Right soon. Goodluck..
@sang25 (61)
• India
22 Mar 11
this is the same condition in india.by the time a girl is 20,parents force her into an arranged marriage not thinking of her ambitions or of her career.mostly marriage is fixed with a guy the girl barely knows.i dont think anyone here has understood the true meaning of inderpendence
• United States
22 Mar 11
I am all for anyone who is prepared, secure and in love to marry at any age really. I don't think anyone should be limited to a time frame. But I see that it is sort of a tradition in your culture. It is not this way in mine because we do not enforce and or encourage. Hopefully when the time is right you will find Mr. Right and choose when to marry, best of luck.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 11
The same as in Indonesia, people we just know will ask causally: are you married? knowing a certain marriage age when seeing other woman or man. I don't like this kind of question, but I understand and would try to talk of something else. Well, if you have not found someone you like now, maybe when your parents introduce you to some men, one of them will get your attention. I would not hurry to get marry, unless I found Mr. right guy.
• China
22 Mar 11
I'm married. I meet my wife on line. We've got along well. I don't argee with you about marriage in China. I think now in china the marriage is much more determined by yourth themselves. I know some people meet the other part of life by various kinds of way. Such as on line, on TV and so on.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Well, what I experienced is the usual boy meets girl, then dates then talk about marriage and start having a new family. My parents have no part or anything like that in my finding a mate. WE have this freedom to choose whom we like. The sad part of it is if you are not lucky enough, you have to wait a long time.until someone get noticed of you. Well,that the best part too, getting picked and chosen among the crowd, that makes girls like us different from boys...the thrill of courtship is something really exciting and fun!