How can I help my girlfriend sleep well?

China
March 22, 2011 7:13am CST
I received a call from my girlfriend telling that she had bad sleep these days.She said she woke up several times at night,and felt difficult to fall asleep again .I told her to go to hospital,but she refused ,and said she had gone to see a doctor,who had given her a lot of medcines.She felt nervous to take so many medicine.Then ,I thougt there might be some pressure psycologically from life,and told her to listen to light music before sleep every evening.Are there any other ways to help one have a good sleep?It's better not have medicines.
10 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Mar 11
Hi dear, It is so little to tell more about from your explanations. What age she must be? Does she sleep at day time? I think she must be annoyed by some untold fact which she is much worried about. Ask her whenever she gets up in the night, what she is thinking of - of some money matters, marriage issues, children, job, parents, boyfriend, scared of any specific issues or matters etc. Is she is scared of someone or any incident. Does she seen some cruel or such things directly or in the movies or came across such discussion or anything. The immediate task that you can ask her to tell the truth whatever it is. Whenever she awake, what is she thinking of for the first time and how long will be there subject in her thoughts. Or is she so excited with something like? Or anxious about something - it may be anything of the type. And once she come out of the sleep, how long it will take her to get a next sleep? Possibly find what she first though of - that can be the reason why she is sleep less. It is from my experience of last 1 month observation. I have a similar problem. Normally, I used to sleep very late like 1:30 or 2'o clock after midnight. And I will sleep once I go for it. But recently, I get a thrilling experience and I don't feel like sleep even after the late night time. Sometime I will get up early morning like 4-5 am and then I will not get sleep and I will suddenly think of the topic and I will not get sleep. Otherwise, I will get up very late like 8-9 in the morning. But once I got affected this thrilling experience, if I get up in the sleep, I will not sleep for a long time. So, check with her what is the issue she is getting disturbed. There may be something, which she don't like to disclosed or discussed with anyone. Find out. Thank-s
• China
23 Mar 11
Here's some more information about her .Well ,she is 28 years old,and works in an office.Her problems are quite similar to what you have described above .She told me that she some times dreamed of her boss ,thourgh the task was not too much.I think the pressure may come from her heart .As usual ,she has to return to office on Sunday evening because she lives above her office and we don't live in the city where she works .But the other members of her office don't return untill Monday.Therefore she has to stay alone in the lonely building on Sunday night.This may give her some psychological pressure.I will try to help her ,though there's not enough time . When it comes to the time she wakes up .She said ,sometimes ,she woke up at about three o'clock,and sometimes earlier. Meanwhile ,during the daytime ,her mental feelings are not very good ,especially at afernoon ,she feels very tired ,but can not get to sleep. What'more,she goes on line for long time every evening ,sometimes quite later. Thank you!
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Is she taking birth control pills? When I took birth control I had terrible nightmares and I couldn't sleep well. That is just one thought.
• China
23 Mar 11
Thanks for all your seggestions.I think there may be some mental stress from recent life.It's about two weeks we haven't stayed together,for we work in two cities which are not far away from each other.I will go there to accompany with her,and try to help her relax.If necessary ,we will go to hospital for another check.Thanks.
@dodo19 (47049)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Mar 11
I think one thing to do is to try and relax before going to sleep. Making time where you're not focusing on work and stuff. That makes a difference for me. I see a difference for myself. So that's maybe something to think about. Also, drinking a glass of milk does also help me out.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Exercise earlier in the day but not within 1 hour of bedtime might help. Yoga helps some people to relax. Warm milk just before lying down, and visualization (visualizing pleasant scenes such as a babbling brook, light ocean waves while lying on the warm sand, etc) after closing the eyes might help. she should put all troublesome problems completely out of her mind.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
23 Mar 11
A good way to sleep well say your girlfriend which god on she beleived or any mantra she likes speak again and again until she is not sleeping like "Hare ram hare krishna" otherwise read any chalisa who is remembered her. This is the same problem with me some time I cant sleep very well and I seen bad dream then I used this technique
• United States
22 Mar 11
Tell her to workout abit during the day time so, she gets that tiredness. Once bed time rolls around, it`ll be easier to fall asleep, because she feels that tiredness. Happens to me. Not anything too much, maybe 15 minute jog. Goodluck.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
22 Mar 11
is she in pain? she doesnt need to go to the hospital. she needs to take the meds that the doctor gave her. tell her to take melatonin. it is a natural sleep rememdy.
@sachii315 (488)
• Japan
22 Mar 11
Hi qianlizhifeng! Drinking a cup of milk or eating one piece of banana before going to bed will help her sleep better. I once had sleepless nights because of stress, it made me look very ugly. I had insomnia, and was I prescribed various medicines. Then a friend of mine told me to just drink milk before going to sleep. I worked best for me. I hope it would work for your girlfriend too. Happy mylotting!
@sang25 (61)
• India
22 Mar 11
there is something that is disturbing your girlfriend mentally.she definitely needs medical attention.without that her condition may worsen otherwise.i think you should accompany her.she needs some company right now
• Indonesia
22 Mar 11
insomnia happens because several things: *when your feel stress or thinking something most of the them couldn't sleep *when you had a long nap in the afternoon, it will be difficult to sleep in the night *too exiting or too worried with something *consume caffeine medications is not best way to prevent the insomnia, it's come from our mind not kind of sickness that you can recover by taking pills. first you need to find out what happens with your girlfriend, maybe there's something that worried her, is this happen for quite long time? or just in passed few days? i have insomnia as well and i know the reason why i have it, like i mentioned above