sacrificing your own happiness

Philippines
March 22, 2011 8:06pm CST
Our family must be the most important people we care about. We value their views and opinions, we listen to their advices, we see to it that we don't hurt their feelings. But up to what extent will you give for them to be contented and satisfied? are you willing to sacrifice your own happiness just to make them happy?
6 responses
• China
23 Mar 11
Well,it depends. For something that I think is most important to me,to my life, I perefer to have myself to make the FINAL decision while trying to negotiate with my family memebers(if they against my decision)to let them understand me. Often, a thing that they disapprove at a time will be accepted by them in other time. That is the best result for both sides. I do not think sacrificing our own happiness on every thing is wise. I treat it as irresponsiblility for our own life. For something not basic, I would rather giving away my personal happiness to let my family memeber's phase in. The better situation for me is that my family is not very close to my residence. When I want to do my own business, I won't get too much diverse strength.
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
well, it's good you are able to stand with what you want in life. you should stay the way you are to be real happy
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 11
I did, until I was 25 only others mattered. It was getting into the end at that point, I remember how my best friend at the time used to call me 3am because I said she could, she was the last one to take advantage of me: after 4 years listening to neverending complains I asked for her ears, just to LISTEN to me you know? She was buzy.... I learned my lesson, that didn't make me look at her but how I was treating my self! I was horrible to me. I used to say sure and yes all the time, I was always worried in helping, it was horrible when I actually was the one needing someone to talk to. I really changed, I have way better friends, the kind of I still am a big giver but I attracted by the Law of Attraction girlfriends that are hudge givers! :p
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
its great that you finally find and embraced the real you and a happier you. =)
@vannyt (344)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
There's a lot of things you can give up on but not the same when it comes to your family. It's really hard, frustrating most of the time but when you think about the other side of it, you'd rather be frustrated than feel guilty for not sacrificing for your family.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
yes, exactly how I feel. It's frustrating not being able to do the things that I want, but it's also frustrating not to fulfill what my family expect of me
@cloud31 (5811)
23 Mar 11
I love my family and I can sacrifice my own happiness just to make them happy. Love for me is to fulfill my loveones happiness and let my happiness before them. Their wishes before my wishes.Love is when you are ready to sacrifice to put your happiness aside and put their happiness above yours. That's why I can say with all my strenght and willingness I can sacrifice for my family.. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
it's nice to hear you can do that...I tend to be like you too, but sometimes, i feel unhappy about not being able to do what I want...
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
hello, That is the most difficult problem because for me if they are my family they will understand how much only I can give because they know that I have my own life to be happy and enjoy. They will know if I will sacrifice for them or not. I am willing to make them happy but it only has a limitation sorry to say that but it is true that we cannot give them our 100% percent of happiness they are looking for us. good luck. hope it help.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
yes, it should be that way. But sometimes I want to do things in my life that I know they won't approve of, so I often end up giving up what I want to do so I won't hurt them...and it saddens me that I think I am that coward not to assert my choice....
@bird123 (10481)
• United States
26 Mar 11
Happiness is no more than a Choice. No one can take that away from you. Can't blame the family on this one. You decide what you deem important in this world.