Pocket Money To School Kids - Your Opinion Please!!!

@AKRao24 (27424)
India
March 23, 2011 9:26pm CST
When we were Kids we hardly used to get any fixed pocket money while going to school. Once or twice a month we used to get a small amount to spend at school! Normally we used to carry lunch box and we used to have Monthly Bus Pass to commute to school and back! So there was no necessity for pocket money! But now I Think with the changing times the school going kids demand pocket money and I think most of the parents either giving pocket money on daily basis or once in a month. With this pocket money I think these kids are having junk food which may not be healthy for them! I got surprised one day when my son he was in seventh standard that he has lend his pocket money to his friend as he had to purchase some stationary on that day for that he has forgotten to get the money from his home! I couldn't decide whether it was good or bad at that time, but I think we are introducing these innocent Kid so the materialistic World too early by providing pockt money to them at such young age! Do you think pocket money is a must or a student going to school? If yes how much would be the suitable amount? What can we expect them to spend this pocket money on? Please respond! Thanks !
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13 responses
• United States
24 Mar 11
Hmm yes, things really are different with the kid generations. I got money from my parents here and there. I remember using the money buying pokemon cards, sadly lol. It can`t be helped. Kids are gonna want candies and junk food and all that. Of course giving them alot of money is out of the question and ridiculous. I`d say give them enough to buy the average lunch. Maybe 5 dollars? Depends where you are, because prices differ. But yeah, it wouldnt be an everyday thing if I had a kid. If I knew he needed to buy essentials for school, I`d give a little more. I`d make sure he had a packed lunch though. Kids should never starve. Hmm so as you asked, pocket money should be given if necessary. School trips and a snack or two, sure. But not daily. A good 5 single dollars maybe twice a week? We cant expect what they will spend it on. I`d just tell him what he can spend it on and hope he listens. XD
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
29 Mar 11
Hi Dear Jeffreyallen! I agree that there has been lot of changes from the past to today's life! We may call is as generation gap or it is the part of evolution. Yes, I too feel that children have their own needs and wishes ans they want them to be fulfilled by their parents ! So it is justifiable to give them some money as pocket money which should not be a big amount! It will depend upon the age of the child whom we are giving the pocket money and for the purpose for which we are giving the same. Some parents since both are working may not be in a position to provide lunch box to their children then the children should get enough money to buy the lunch from the school during the lunch hours and he/she is carrying the lunch from home then a small amount to enjoy some toffee or small junk food or anything like that should be sufficient! How often should we give the pocket money and how much we should give to the Kid will depend on the age of the kid and the daily requirement of the child. if the child is grown up and understand the responsibility then I think we can provide the pocket money once in a month in advance so that the monthly expenses can be planned by the child and thus he/she will learn the first lesson of finance from the practical experience at a tender age! Thanks for responding!
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
24 Mar 11
I never just handed out money to my kids. I don't care how responsible they are. When they became adults I tried to help them in time of need but they were too proud to take it. I think I helped develop their self esteem and drive for independence.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Dear 2004cqui! That is really a wonderful thing you did it! You made them realise the importance of money and the way of earning it, so that they can really manage the money properly! I am really happy to know that you have developed your kids in a fashion that they realise the importance of self esteem and they have become independent as far as the money is concerned! This is what is required by any parents from their children and you have made it ! Hearty Congratulations! Thanks for responding!
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
25 Mar 11
Hi 2004cqui! I have picked it from my son's folder! I often pilferage few things now and then from his folders as it saves my lot of time!He is an Engineer by the way and he is too busy find out my deeds/misdeeds!! LOL!
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Now, I love your avatar! Where did you get it?
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Mar 11
Hello Rao, I am against the pocket money. For my son, I am not providing any money as pocket money. He is only 9+ and going to school by van and I am sending the Tiffin everyday then why he needs money in school. If he needed anything from school I can give money for that, no extra money. However, he asks money once in a while to eat his favourite ‘rajama chaval’ from school canteen, there I won’t disappoint him. He says that his friends are bringing money from home and buy something to eat on everyday basis, which I can’t appreciate. I never get any pocket money from my parents when I was a student. I got the money only for my needs on everyday like bus fair, fees, money for books, pen etc.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
29 Mar 11
Hi Dear Sreekala! I agree that like you I too never used to get any pocket money as such from my parents when I used to go to school! I think then the times were different and today the times have changed alot! And with the changed times we should also get changed ourselves for good! I can understand that you have got a kid who i just 9+ , so I too feel that it is too early for this child to give any pocket money on daily basis as he is travelling in his school bus and he is getting his lunch box for the lunch break! I appreciate that you are pleasing him by giving some money once in a while to have his favorite 'Rajma Chawal' at his School canteen! It is very good that you are not giving the money to your kid as other kids are getting the same from their parents and bringing it to school! But then, I think as he grows up you should start giving him a small amount as his pocket money so that he can understand what is money and how it is to be spent!If needed you can guide him and help him in making the plans how he should spend his pocket money in a proper way!Believe me by doing so we will make our children more street Smart people, than those who are over protected by their parents! Thanks for responding dear friend!
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 11
The best lesson, derived from hard experience. When you start giving kids an allowance, your child will begin learning valuable lessons, about how to use money wisely. Before you start giving your child pocket money, explain how to use money, how your child should spend money, and the risks if too much spending, and how much you should save. How much you should give, depending on family income, child age, and what you expect from him with the pocket money. You can start giving weekly, let your child decide, of course with your guidance. If your child does not comply with the advice, and making mistakes, learning manage finances, your child will get.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
29 Mar 11
Hi Dear Indahfth! I fully agree with you that best lesson can be learnt from hard experience! It is one of the way we can teach our kids how to manage the money. We can show them the path how to manage within the given resources. But if they are getting pocket money for the first time,then it becomes our responsibility as parents to make them understand what is actually a pocket money and what or it should be used, how can this be misused, and how can this be even saved! If every thing is explained in details the child will also get idea about the money and the responsibilities behind managing it! The practice of saving in the children can b inculcated right from childhood! I recall when we were in school, there used to be petty saving bank in our school run by Government of India by name Sanchayika, which used to make the students aware about the banking and savings! I agree that amount of the money given to the child will depend upon our income, the age of the kid/her and his needs. The pocket money either can be given on daily basis , weekly basis or on the monthly basis, whatever suits to both the parents and the children! Having given the advice and also the pocket money we should review the progress about his performance o the management on this front! If found OK then we must encourage the child and if we find that he/she is gong to wrong some where then we should give prop[er guidance! Thus a small thing started in the early life in the pocket money can be a big lesson for the children in future life! thanks for rsponding!
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
My student days were a mixed of the past and the present. In my early years, my mother or my aunt always prepares me food for school. It was cool at that time, especially if you have a really nice lunchbox to show of or if you're mom's a great cook. However, after third grade my mother stopped preparing me food and gave me money instead. I don't know her reason - probably she thinks I'm ready to have my own money. This worked both ways - I get to spend on something I really want and not endure food that is not to my liking. The bad side of this is that I get to overspend and not think of managing my money. My brother often catches me when I try to buy and threatens me to tell my mother that I'm spending too much. From that moment in elementary until I finished schooling, my mother never gave me another prepared food of any kind. I don't know about the kids these days but since I'm the one doing the budget in our house, I'm responsible for the kid's allowance. I only gave them what I think is appropriate - a estimation I got from checking food prices on the school. But I also give an extra leeway since kids have a tendency to leisure themselves with things or activities other than food. Kids often ask for a little more since they're crazy on internet games but I only give them a suitable amount for an hour or two. Any research or assignment can be done in our own computer. On US dollars, an estimation of 2 dollars. I usually tell the kids to just spend it on food since that's really important. I can be persuaded to give them a little for their internet games or school requirements.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
30 Mar 11
Hi Dear Jeanneyvonne! I think you are lucky that your mother having realised that children should learn ti handle the money right from the early age, she has discontinued to give you the home prepared lunch box since the time you entered your third grade! Like you said there are advantages and disadvantage too if the children are given money at too younger age! They tend to overspend the money and they even don't have the importance of money as they are getting it easily from the parents.I think at this juncture parents should make the children understand about the importance of money and how difficult is to earn money and they also should be taught how to spend the money carefully! I appreciate that you are taking care that your children are not getting too large amount of money and at the same time you are giving them enough money so that they can have food and some times they can spend some time on computerised video games1 Yes,children have their own needs and requirements and as the parents we need to look at this aspect also to make their life comfortable! stressing on the fact that food is important and they should give first priority to food is a good thing you are imparting on their minds! Bit little extra money to enjoy themselves some time is OK I think! Thanks for responding! I liked your response!
• India
28 Mar 11
hi ,i am rahul from india. i wana say that at this time and generation its must you have to give them pocket money but in starting try to give him a small amount which you alredy know thats its really so small. and always view or ask to your child what they do with that money money because many time they spent money for bad thing which is really bad fdor then not junk food its too dangerous than this like cigratte. and othe non adult material. so wish you like this response.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
29 Mar 11
Hi Dear Rahul! I agree with your point that the children should be given only a small amount of money as the pocket money and they should never be given anything in excess which can spoil them! You are right many a times when children they approach in to their teens they tend o become more curious and they may like to experiment with many things which are meant for adults and not for them! So to be sure that the children are not getting into any such activities as parents we need to check them from time to time and get to know how they are spending the pocket money to them and should try to teach them about the savings too! Thanks for responding !
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi AKRao, when i was schooling, my parents used to give me very less pocket money or sometimes literally nothing , but later i understood that its a good thing, because if kids got habituated to money, they first start eating outside stuff and later not knowing the value of money, they misuse it , in my opinion its not that important to give pocket money to school kids.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
25 Mar 11
Hi Dear Sunny! Yes, during our times also the scenario was same! we also used to get very little amount of money to spend that too once in a while. Like you say it is now we realize that it was good in a way that by doing so we have not developed a bad habit of spending the money lavishly and have realised the importance of money. But then now with the changing times, I think we need to give some pocket money to kids at least to take care of basic necessities like having a good snack at lunch hour etc. This becomes mandatory a every child carries some pocket money to school now a days and if we don't give pocket money to our kids then they we develop a inferiority complex and they may not mix up with their school friends freely because of this. So I think we should give some money to our kids as pocket money while keeping a required check on it! Thanks for responding!
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Yes, there will be instances that they'll need a certain amount of money especially if they'll need some things for a certain project or when they feel sudden hunger. We also need to give them money for emergency. It's up to you to decide how much would you like to give your child, maybe just enough to buy some things.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
25 Mar 11
Hi Dear Angelkarah! Yes I agree that children may require money to procure certain things which may be required for project work or something resembling like that! Yes for that purpose we should provide money to them! I also see a valid point in your reasoning that the kids should be given some money so that they can use it to satiate the hunger if they feel hunger all of a sudden. Giving money to face the emergency situations is also good. I think all the above things are applicable if the children are bit grown up and they realise the importance of the money! Once the Children realise the importance and the way money is earned then I think there won't be any problem as they normally don't waste the money! Here depending upon the age and the necessity the amount of the money can be decided after having discussion with the grown up kid, so that neither we are not giving excess money to spoil the kid nor we are depriving the kid from the minimum amount required to meet the needs! Thanks for the response!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
My parents gave me pocket money when I was still going to school. They were both busy, and had no time prepare my lunch box everytime, so, they gave me lunch money. On one side, it helped me to learn about finance early in my life. The not-so-good thing is, I had bought stuff when I was a kid that I shouldn't buy. Like, I always had junk food and ice cream. It would be a good training ground for the kid if you teach him how to spend the money wisely. But, still, the temptation is very big.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Dear Gloryacam! This is commonly seen now a days where both the parents are working and have no time to prepare snack or lunch for their children, they tend to give some pocket money for them to have snacks during the lunch break. but like you have said many a times the money is used on buying on wrong things like junk food out of temptation and because improper guidance! Here the kids should be told by the parents how to spend the money carefully! Yes if money is given to a kid who is bit grown up he/she can plan the spending and can save some money also, there by learning the planning and executing the spending! Thanks for responding!
• United States
24 Mar 11
How I always handled pocket money during elementary school years was, since my kids had a ride home they did not need transportation money. Since I pre-paid their lunch early in the month they did not need money for that. I figured all monetary obligations were handled in advance so they did not need any money. But every night I would check their back-packs to make sure their was 8 quarters there in the event there was an emergency and they needed to use the phone. Since they had a ride daily there were times that the car pool person would stop at the store and they were allowed from time to time buy a snack with the coins, so this way I always made sure to replenish. I must admit that we ran a pretty organized home so they did not need to buy supplies at school or fees there would be due.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
25 Mar 11
Hi Dear Hardworkinggurl! I am really happy to know that you are very organised and having a nice planning ! I should appreciate that you are taking care of the monetary aspects concerned to your children well in advance so that they shouldn't face any problems. Prepaid lunch is really a good and practical solution for children as thy really need not carry money every time they go to school for that! I appreciate your foresightedness and cautious thinking, where by you are checking every night that your children have 8 quarters at least in their back packs as this may be required for emergency phone call, you do it as they could have spend the money in buying a snack while the car pool person would stop the pooled car at a store to buy a snack by the children. Your children are really lucky to have a mother like you who is so caring and practical! I hope this organised way of life will be learnt by your children and they will also grow up as a responsible citizens of tomorrow! Wish you and your lovely family all the best! Thanks for responding!
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
I do remember when I was a kid my mom would only give me enough money for transportation only as I brought my snack bag with me. When my don started going to first grade last year, I swore I'd nee give him any pocket money because their school don't allow first grade to bring money in class. As tie goes by though he managed to get money from his grandfather and I was surprised how well he managed to keep his money and save them. Now we give my don $2 or more for his daily allowance to buy his snacks in his school. His nanny is here all day and buys food for him.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Dear Toniganzon! I understand it! With the changing times the things are also getting changed! Like I mentioned in my discussion we hardly used to get any pocket money as such as we used to carry lunch box along with us! Now a days the Kids have become smart! I was smiling when I read that your son managed to get some money from his grand parents and he ably managed the thing and could make some savings! This is a good beginning ! Many a schools don't encourage Kids to get money to school at very young age! I think it is good for these kids don't know anything about the money except for the fact that it can be exchanged for some object of their liking! Introducing the kid to money should be only started once he had grown enough to understand how money is procured and how it should be spent! I am happy that your son is getting $2 per day for his Snacks in school! Yes,it is right of the grand parents to pamper their grand children as in this act both of them are enjoying it! Thanks for responding!
@dznurani (160)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 11
just imagine if you were him. if I were a school girl, i would ask for pocket money. I need it to buy pencils/books, food ( although I already have meal box ), and even if I didn't use the money I can save it.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Dear Dznurani! I fully agree with you! With changing time everything is getting changed! When we were kids we used to get all the stationary from our parents only! But then when it has come to my son we had to give him pocket money, for the purpose of having some snacks or to purchase some requirements pertaining to his class work/ studies! That is fine, once you have your kid grown up enough to understand about the money and its importance! I feel giving pocket money at too younger age can spoil the child as he/she may not realise the importance of the money and may develop the habit of spending it in a wasteful manner, which will be difficult thing to control in later stages of life! Thanks for responding!
24 Mar 11
When its comes to pocket money for kids that's totally different. For kids we need to give the money not more than to eat. At rest time they will buy some food at food courts thats enough actually. But if we gave the money over the accepted amount then they will start to ask more money to school. Once they start to asking big money it will be an attitude for daily purpose. And then after get adults also they will practice the same method and will be more active to use money for nothing. It's true actually, one of my brother friend in standard six will bring pocket money about $20 dollar daily and will spend the money for all his friends for eat and buy toys and etc. this is not good cause they will be doing this everyday. Be carefull to give pocket money to kids. Give the correct amount so they will practice and know the value of the money.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
25 Mar 11
Hi Dear Reven ! You are right we should not spoil the child by give a lot of money as pocket money! They should be given just the money required for having some snack or eatery during his/her lunch break! Since kids don't understand they tend to spend the big amount if given and this may turn out to be an habit once they grown up! This can be a dangerous situation after growing up,if they can't earn that kind of money then such type of individuals get into crimes to are the money for their enjoyment! This phenomenon has become normal in India. Several Mobile thieves, Car or Motor Cycle thieves caught in big cities in India have been observed that they are coming from good and affluent family and they are committing such crimes to earn fast money for their enjoyment! So I think the kids must be taught right from the childhood about the importance of the money and the way it should be used! I am really disturbed to know that a Kid is bringing $20 a day regularly to school to treat his friends! This is not a good thing! Parents should understand that they are showing him a wrong path! Yes in the conclusion I would sat that the needs of the children should be looked after and according to the needs they should be given the exact amount ! At no time the kids must be given excess amount and they should be explained about the importance and value of the money! Thanks for responding!