living the loser life

March 24, 2011 1:24am CST
you know why i say i have a loser life? 1. if i am not a loser, i would be earning more. 2. if i am not a loser, i would have been successful with my weight loss goals. 3. if i am not a loser, my husband would not treat me this way. if he does something wrong, i am required to wait until his anger cools down for him to apologize. i have to wait for him to apologize. if i get angry and do something, that will be taken up against me. i will be held accountable. meanwhile, while i wait for him to cool down, i am expected to just continue on with my daily routine as if nothing happened because if not, i can expect another outburst from him. i am so sick and tired of this loser life. eeeeeeeeee
12 responses
@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Don't say that may friend, God created all of us beautiful and blessed, Remember that. No one has the right to take your happiness from you. Its just a matter of choice.
24 Mar 11
thank you for reminding me whengcat. i really like it here in mylot where there are anonymous people that we only know by usernames but who also reach out and encourage others. thanks and God bless you!
@bird123 (10484)
• United States
25 Mar 11
We all have the power to choose what we deem important in life. Give unconditional love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. You will be a winner regardless of anything else!!!
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
25 Mar 11
I am not sure how to respond to this. I guess in order would be good: Earning more money isn't easy. You just have to do the best you can. So long as you are earning some money, you are not a loser - you haven't given up and you aren't being lazy, you just haven't found the right opportunity yet. Weight loss takes time. Sometimes it goes down and up and down and up. You just have to be patient, unfortunately. And you don't sound like a loser. You sound like you're being very patient and considerate of someone else's bad temper.
• United States
24 Mar 11
Dont put yourself down like that. All of us have a plan. You`ll find it. As for your husband, he shouldnt be treating you like that. That`s abuse in some cases. :/ All of us are struggling. Keep your head up.
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
You won't cease living the life of a loser if you continue to think of yourself as that. You can choose to leave the life of a loser rather than live it by giving importance to yourself and appreciating who you are. You'll only recognize improvement in your life so long as you believe that you are capable of doing so.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
24 Mar 11
You are not a loser at all. You have just fallen into a rut and are having a hard time getting out of it. It sounds to me like your husband is not helping things at all. By him making you feel badly about yourself, it is causing you to think of other areas of your life that are not going quite as planned. Rather than allow him to hurt you so deeply, and focus on all of the things that you have not quite accomplished yet, look at all that you have accomplished and all that you do accomplish on a daily basis. When we become depressed, it is hard to focus or problem solve, which means that you may already know what you want to do to increase your income, but you cannot stay focused to do so. When we become depressed, we tend to either gain weight or lose weight, if we are trying to lose weight, being depressed makes it extremely hard to accomplish. Your husband should be supportive of you and not be causing you so much pain. Is he feeling as if maybe he is failing you somehow? That would be one reason that he is acting the way he is. Another reason could be that he is feeling insecure and thinks that by making you feel badly, it will keep you there with him. And one more reason I can think of would be that he is feeling as if he has to control everything around him one way or another. Regardless of the reason he is acting as he is, it is not okay for him to make you feel so miserable. You are a human being and he needs to respect that. I would tell you not to let him get you down, but that is much easier said than done. I will say this, however; focus on yourself and taking small steps to reach your goals. Try not to rely on him too much because, right now, doing that will not help you at all. Do what you know is best for you to help you become happier and reach your goals, and be proud of yourself for all that you do on a daily basis. Here's something to think about....think of all the things you do each day, from cleaning house to cooking dinner and everything in between. Now, ask yourself if he would be able to do all of those things as well as you do them, would he even be willing to do them. I bet that if you stop and really think about it, you will realize that you accomplish much more in a day than many people do or are willing to do.
@blitzkiba (641)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Well its time for you to make a stand. Women have rights and you shouldn't be afraid. Have you ever watch the episode in glee where they said "I love being a loser cause losers are the once who are really trying to win" well it really didn't came like that but i hope you get my point. You should love that you are the loser cause you're really working on how you can win.
@owlwings (39073)
• Cambridge, England
24 Mar 11
Write out the following in nice, large letters and put it up anywhere where you will see it at least once a day: by the mirror you look in in the morning, by your computer, over the sink in the kitchen ... where ever! 1) I am a WINNER because I earned a little yesterday (or last week or last month). 2) I am a WINNER because I care about my weight. 3) I am a WINNER because I can be patient when someone is angry and can easily wait for an apology (or forgiveness). You can also practice smiling at that face you see in the mirror. See how often they smile back? Tell that person that they are looking good and wish them a happy day.
24 Mar 11
Dont feel that way. being a loser is just in your mind. if you keep thinking that way, that is what life will give you. the universe is like a catalog of what you like and you dont like. it just responds to what you are focused on. if you are focused in living a loser life, then the universe will say "your wish is my command". If you want a better life, try to live better and believe that you are in it.
@Joeyfish (239)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Being a loser can't be decided because some things don't go as planned, or are not to your liking. Try to find some positive things in your life. Its easy to point out the bad, take some time and try to point out the good.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 11
Don't think of all the times that you were unhappy and failed in loosing weight, just think what you can do better in this life and go for it. Everyone is a looser in some parts of their life but we never thought ourselves as a looser, instead we focus on things that we do better. Many of us are living a life which are much more degraded but they survived, so can you.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Hi, You will not a loser if you will just think positive and tried to do the right thing! I was like that too, until I realize that only me can make myself a winner. Just think positive!