I really am going to die

@savypat (20248)
United States
March 24, 2011 1:09pm CST
There is nothing like picking out a burial site to bring home the message, I really am going to die. And you know how the marriage vows go, "until death do us part." well that's a lie. Because Hubby is a veteran we get government burial and that means both of us in one spot, one on top of the other. Now it's just a contest as to who's on top. I know this is a little grim, but it's a great benefit for the Veteran's family, it costs them nothing and the grave is safe and maintained until Mother earth throws it up. Having just paid to have graves restored for Hubby's long dead GGGrandfather and his family I can tell you that grave maintance is expensive. Any Veterans out there, that means USA Vets with an honorable discharge can get this same benefit in a VA Cemetary anywhere in the USA.
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@kimian55 (121)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Hey that's nice.. I mean it is practical. I think I'd have to choose mine when I'm my 40's since I still have a long way to go.. Anyway i hope the spot is nice so your loved ones won't have a hard to going to your grave. God bless mate... =)
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
25 Mar 11
I'm so sorry! I think it's so unfair to be obligated to defende a country just because one that is sitting up there that don't even care for his people says so.
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25 Mar 11
Don't want to think about.. But I guess everyone should accept the fact of being human means that time will come you will meet an end. You can't choose when the end will be but you can choose how. Majority of the people doesn't want to talk about it.. I don't wanna lose my loveones and not even leave them.. HOW I WISH it's possible!
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@Theresaaiza (9599)
• Australia
25 Mar 11
My relatives were not veterans but here in PI, graves are allowed to be placed on top of another. I have even seen a 3-storey "pantheon". I don't know if it's appropriate to use that term but that's how the locals call it - "pantheon". Well my grandma's grave is beside my grandpa and my mom is on the "second floor" on top of my grandma!
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@ellie333 (21029)
24 Mar 11
Hi Savypat, I have never eve thought about picking a burial site but it is great that the government sort and maintain for you. I have a life insurance so that if anything happens the kids have enough money for all that, not even sure whether I want a burial or cremation so will leave that one to them. One on top of the other is a great space saving idea though. huggles. Ellie :D
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@dragon54u (31187)
• United States
24 Mar 11
I wonder why they don't allow civilians to do that, one atop the other, it would save a lot of money and real estate. I don't worry about a grave, I'm to be cremated. My dad and stepmother picked out their graves and headstones a few years ago and they said it was a relief. First, it was taken care of to their wishes and secondly they knew that they would have rest eventually. They've had a wonderful life together but are ready to go on to the next stage.
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@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
24 Mar 11
That is intersting to know. Both of my grandfather's were Vets, but neither chose to be buried by the government. One grandfather chose to be cremated and the other chose to be buried next to my grandmother in a local cemetary where a lot of the family has been buried. I know what you mean about facing our own mortality by chosing our own grave-site though. I chose mine almost 13 years ago when I lost my son and had to choose his.
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@neildc (17006)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Mar 11
The cost of the graves, it's maintenance, etc. made me decide that if I die, I want to be cremated. No maintenance cost, no cost for the land, the grave. It's your family who decides where the ashes will stay.