Have you ever had to testify against a friend in court?

@BethTN81 (564)
United States
March 26, 2011 3:25pm CST
I have to. Next month. Well, I guess at this point she is a former friend. I refust to get into the details of it(so sorry to some of you nosey trolls) because minors are involved, but I am the key witness and have information and evidence that can be used against her which could result in her losing her children. This is pretty much a custody battle, and I hate that I have to be part of it. Yet the big question comes to mind. What is more important? Loyalty or integrity.
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8 responses
• United States
27 Mar 11
I have never done this to a friend of mine. Never would I do it to one of my friends either. I would not want this over my head or in my heart. They would have to do wat ever they needed to without my imput. I feel sorry for all involved in stuff like this.
@BethTN81 (564)
• United States
28 Mar 11
When you are served a supoena you can't really refuse to testify.
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
30 Mar 11
i hope it all goes well for you. i've only been to court once and i was lucky not to have to go in, that was against my ex and what he did to me. but when the children are involved, you will be doing the right thing by them. even if does mean going against your former friend. no one wants to go against friends, but when it has to be done. best of luck with it again oxox
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Hi. BethTN81. No, I have never had to testify in court against another friend. I can only imagine how bad you are feeling right now. If this is something that I know that she is guilty of doing and she is trying to keep me from confessing, then I will have to tell the truth. Loyalty is very important in any relationship and when you stand and take the oath right before God, then you are telling God that you are not going to lie or make a false statement. Then integrity is more important then.
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
In choosing betwee Loyalty and Integrity, I guess it depends. If you're gonna be loyal to someone without any integrity then I suppose you should just choose integrity, for yourself that is. You're going to do the right thing so don't worry about it. If kids are involved, you should do your job as an elder and protect those that are being wronged (or whatever, I don't know what exactly you're talking about) whether kids or teens.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
26 Mar 11
It would be hard ro testify against a friend but if it is a former friend and they have done something serious then I guess it is something you have to do but not something I would feel good about...
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
26 Mar 11
I have never had to testify in court against a friend, and I do not envy your position. I am sure that you are wrestling with this in your mind constantly. I think that integrity is what should be priority here though. In the end, doing what youo know is the right thing to do, regardless of the outcome, is what is going to help you sleep at night. Whatever you have to testify to, the fact remains that you wouldn't be in the position if her choices had been different. If it results in her losing her children, than maybe it will make her look at things a bit differently and help her to make better choices in the end.
@Wonnetz (58)
• United States
26 Mar 11
Loyalty is most important I think, but if your former friend did do that bad thing then you should of course testify against her. If you don't say the evidence you do then she might continue to do that bad thing.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Mar 11
I feel fortunate that i have never had to testify against a friend in court. This would not be the most pleasant experience to endure. What happens to a friendship when this trial is put in your path?