How do you get over Depression?

@katie0 (5212)
Japan
March 28, 2011 12:39am CST
Hello there people, Let's go, let's help people who have depression by telling tips and ways to get over it. I think that happiness it's a decision really. Sure there's times that serotonin is not being produced and a person might even not get out from bed, but what we need to remember is that it's a time we learned already that happiness can't come from an outside source and only we can make our selves feel bad by something someone said or done, the person actually it doesn't matter how bad this person is has really no control over us. Depression mostly comes from a situation that one can't get over. So in that case thinking about the past and looking for a good thing that benefited you and others is a way to begin the healing proccess, we only can't accept a trauma or a situation we don't understand why the heck we went through.
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Sometimes I used the word depressed when I am sad but the truth is sadness and depression are much different from each other although there is also a similarity. We can oust depression if we will make someone happy. We must appreciate the existence of one another.
@Galena (9123)
28 Mar 11
exactly. sadness and depression are not the same. sometimes they feel very similar, but a sad person is sad because of their circumstances or attitude to life. a depressed person is sad because it's a symptom of the illness they can't help having.
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Nov 11
Thank you guys. Indeed everyone of us becomes sad. The threat lies when the thing doesn't go away. Now being sad from time to time, I read often in psychology that it's normal.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 11
Hi KaT Very well said that we should not get disturbed by the persons or situations, which are beyond us. We need to count our blessings, rather than cribbing about every unfavourable situation. We must tell ourselves that life is not bed of roses and also roses has some throns also and to enjoy roses, we should be ready to bear the thorns.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
29 Mar 11
Gratittude, I brought this to my life but I can't be like that all the time for the simple stupid reason I sometimes forget, everytime I forget I force my self to seek good things. I didn't thanked enough for my life, that helps to see the bad things indeed.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
30 Mar 11
Do you intend to change towards positivity?
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Nov 11
Hi! Well I think I changed cause I pursue posivity everyday, I didn't do that until few years ago. It's the only way to live really. I realized how ungrateful I was even if indeed so many bad happened, but I wasn't seeing that life got better. Do you believe in the Loa? Law of attraction?
• Mexico
28 Mar 11
Hi katie: I think that a person that wants to get over depression first of all have to face that he/ she has a problem and he / she also needs to decide that he/ she doesn't want to stay on this situation anymore. My second advice for this person is, after you know that you don't want to be depressed, stop thinking about the bad moments that make you feel sad. If you only focus on the negative things you won't recovered. And finally third, try to do some activities, different from your job that make you feel relaxed, like for example do some sports, practice yoga, taking a course, meeting new people, etc. The decision of being depressed or not is on every person. ALVARO
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@Galena (9123)
29 Mar 11
to decide not to suffer from the illness of depression would be like deciding not to have athsma or diabetes or a broken limb. hey why don't people just decide not to have aids or cancer, while we're getting rid of illnesses by deciding not to have them. we don't CHOOSE to suffer from an illness
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 12
Sometimes we are just used to being negative, foccusing in difficulties but if it continues, if we try and don't get out it might had become the sickness persay as depression is, in that case a pshychiatrist and psychologist are important, as much a spiritual healer receiving hand energy, with all the three combined there might be a cure
@dznurani (160)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 11
I need to find the solution of the problem, the sooner i find it the sooner I can release my brain and my heart from depression. depression really consuming our thought and feeling and not good for health. having girl's talk and sharing also reducing depression.
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@Galena (9123)
28 Mar 11
as depression is an illness, your best bet would be to talk to your doctor about it. it doesn't necessarily mean needing medication. things like diet and exercise can help produce chemicals in your body that can reduce the symptoms of depression, such as lack of energy, lack of motivation, and of course that absolutely crippling misery. most of the time I don't have medication. only when the symptoms are really bad, just to help me get over the worst of it until I'm back on more of a level. but despite what a lot of very ignorant people on this site seem to keep on saying, depression can't be got rid of by thinking happy thoughts. sadness can. depression can't.
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
20 Nov 11
I'm sorry to hear that dznurani, but be careful with medication. Doctors prescribe sometimes 3 different medications as to if one of them doesn't work the other will. Try also going from minute to minute, changing your toughts by the moment, when you realize you lived a good half day. Go slowly and be really patient with yourself.
• United States
29 Mar 11
I eat when I'm sad or just start listening to music to forget all the stuff...
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 12
Oh music can help, it really does. As a fan of Lord of the Rings I hear from the fandom many overcome by listening to its soundtrack , but dear, try also talking to someone you trust as well
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
just try to have some sleep.. think positive... drink a lot of water... be optimistic... like that.. hope it help you...
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 12
Can't forget the water . But what you meant with the water, in a healthy, physical way? Thanks
• United States
28 Mar 11
It's not always from a specific situation. I can't say how many friends I've had that have not had any trauma at all but are just depressed from being a teenager. The average issues they deal with and not one event, such as a parent dying, nothing like that had happened to them. Most of the time people deal with this it does it seem to come from one single event that they can't get over. It's not always a choice, they can try and try and they can't always force themselves to feel a certain way, even if they try to think positive. Some people just need to get help from other people.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
For me, in times of depression, I always watching the smile of a baby, funny animals, and hilarious act in youtube. That make my depression diminish in about 70%. Sometimes I watch anime series, to make my day bright.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
20 Nov 11
Great tip for everyone. That can really make me laugh really hard. I think the most popular thing over the web must be humor blogs
@Galena (9123)
28 Mar 11
once again. people are making the downright OFFENSIVE attitude that people are depressed because of some kind of personality flaw. depression and sadness are not the same thing. depression is a physical illness of the body, where one of the SYMPTOMS is feeling devastatingly and uncontrollably miserable. for no reason other than the chemicals in our body are MAKING us feel this way. nobody criticises someone with diabetes and tells them to just get over it and think positive, and somehow their body will miraculously produce enough insulin. depression is the same. yes diet and exercise can help to manage depression, but it doesn't rid you of the underlying illness. I am completely sick and tired of seeing this attitude over and over again. it's offensive and damaging, as it does nothing to remove the stigma of suffering from this illness. no wonder there's so much stigma when so many stupid people think we should just "cheer up" and get over it. disgusting attitude.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
20 Nov 11
Really well said, it is indeed the kind of sickness that even allow people to stay at home. There was this period when I was a teenager that I was indeed depressed, since then I've been trying to help people specially teenagers cause it's terrifying and in my time my mom called me weak and forbitten me to go to doctor, she could not have done me more damage. From one day to another I was just not able to be the same person, my world turned upside down and today I know I was slowly going to that point, the signals were there but I didn't know, but I felt it strongly out of the blue, from no where. To being called weird or that I was weak was really, really painful. Specially because I thought I was.
@donski (132)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
If i feel depress, i pause for a moment. then i try to concentrate on my work, i kill my time just working the whole day. or go to the mall and take time to relax, or go to the church and pray, ask God's guidance on what to do with my life. i turn to God and i also asked him to protect me and my family. Sometimes i asked my friends to join me during my hard times. i share my troubles with them and i cry.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
20 Nov 11
You have a very healthy approach for the hard times. So you take your mind off things but not run from it, you actually confront it by talking about it and releasing. Do you feel that the problems goes away when you do that, even if a little at a time when you do that? Very intersting indeed, thank you so much. It's kinda rare but when I'm down sometimes I'm really down you know. Not that it last long, but anyway I would like to know how to resolve cause I don't think it is about the present, but about the past. Happy MyLotting.
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
I think that looking at the brighter side of things will help a lot. There will also be a situation when we do not get what we want. It may be tough but it is what it is. We just have to deal with things. Living may be simple but if we want it to be perfect then we may be in for a rough ride. I believe that thinking that things will be in their places may help in some way.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 12
Thank you, reading what you said I just remembered I read something intersting: accepting. It's something I learned from Allan Kardec's writings that it may come from not accepting things, people, life as the way it is. Trying to be positive and stay there it's a good medicine against depression, if it becomes to sickness then medical help is needed, but if it's something that can pass without them then optimism can be life altering
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
It will vary on once compensatory mechanism. You friends and family can boost your self-esteem and in turn minimizing depression. We should always remember not only see the half glass empty because it is also half full. Hope this helps
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 12
Optimism, that's well reminded of you. Sometimes when I feel a heavy problem I try to remember of someone in a worst situation and be a little ashamed for having complained of mine, there are people going through something so much worse.
@maximax8 (28284)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 11
I think that some situations in life can be very depressing therefore the person affected should look at his or her life in detail and ask what is wrong to himself or herself. I look back into the past to the time that I had something very depressing happen to me: finding out at 36 weeks pregnancy about my son's disability. I think that a lunchtime at the beautiful suspension bridge at Bristol helped me. That made me able to face what would happen that afternoon: seeing the special care baby unit and the birthing unit. I had the worry that I might not be allowed to continue with my plans to have a home birth. I think that speaking to my midwife helped tell her that having a home birth would be my only way to give birth. So people that are depressed should talk about how they feel. This is way to get things that you need. I think that after my son was born the day out in Weymouth helped me to get over my depression. I was overjoyed when my baby son came home at 3 weeks of age after his two life saving operations. I think some depressed people take St John's Walt and this makes him or her a little more happy and less depressed. The person should write a list of five things he or she wants to do and set to achieve these.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
23 Mar 12
I'm sorry for what happened and I'm glad you overcame, that was a life lessom, to us all. Speaking our heart can really help, whatever we carry alone, hiding inside ourselves can become so heavy.
• China
21 Nov 11
Sadness and depression will accompany us a suit, because we are human beings so would have thought, just can have desires,so would have a sadness and depression, and ,if not, not be a person, live and what do you mean by that.
@whatrow (793)
• United States
19 Nov 11
I think depression can be a way of life that we choose for ourselves. I remember one time I was upset about a project that was going on in college (I don't remember what it was.) I was thinking about it on the train ride home. I analysed what exactly was bothering me. Suddenly, I said to myself, "Why should I get upset over that? So what if it doesn't work out?" I looked at the problem from a different angle. Suddenly, my depression and tension vanished. I cured myself by making the choice to respond to the problem in a different way.
@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
31 Mar 11
Personally it really depends on the situation in someones life and if it is a chemical imbalance which can only be helped thru medication, or thru Prayer where God heals them, while some of it could be situational and they just need to get out of that and learn to concentrate on better things as well. I personally thing being able to keep one motivated is a lot of the key to fighting depression. It is actually something that when you learn to do will help in a lot of other ways as well.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Depression isn't only from a situation you can't get over. Sometimes you can be depressed and not really know what you are depressed. It's more then just being sad over something. Sadness and depression are two different things. It really makes depression harder on people that so many people think you can just "choose to be happy" and get over it. Or keep yourself busy and the thoughts will go away. Sometimes that works I guess but I think for the people that are just mildly depressed or just really sad. For those who are in deeper it is more than that. Sometimes medication is needed to even things out.