Is she Playing with me or testing me

@jagjit273 (1740)
India
March 28, 2011 5:41am CST
I meet my new made girlfriend or Soul mate On net here On some site, We started chatting with each other for the last 2 months and came close to each other as our views are very much similar and our like and dislikes 2.Mostly I used to call her up,from the last few days, My cellphone is not In a good working order and I am out of balance,She Didn't call me up since then, We usually meet on net everyday,Now a days she says that she is very much busy with her work. Yesterday It was My birthday, I called her up and told her that Its my birthday,She wished me,I asked her that if she had balance in her cellphone to call me up at night, she said yes She has,But she didnt call me up,I am very up set, Today also She Is not here Is she playing with me as i told her that I am a poor Guy and she is a carrier oriented girl. What should I do.............
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14 responses
28 Mar 11
Hey bro i understand your situation.. here is my advise.. try to look for a way to meet her.. no matter what meet her.. you see even you feeling can change when you meet here.. you may like her you may not.. and same as her.. chatting in the net and having a relationship without seeing each other first has a very low chance to survive.. but im not saying that its impossible cause i have friends that came up happy from their special someone that they met online.. so for now.. just try to look for a way to see here..:)
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
28 Mar 11
Thanks for your valueble advice, I will try to meet her soon
28 Mar 11
And.. if ever you meet.. be the person that she knows when you are chatting online.. Revive the conversation that you both talk about online.. goodluck.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
29 Mar 11
hi,if she loves u she will call u ,dont get upset.Love doesnt need money as u both dont stay together.For living to gether u need money for everything.As she is a career oriented girl and most girls think so that her husband should be able to meet the things which come after marriage.Girls think .So mobile balance and birthdays are sily things , Love doesnt has these things to be observed it always be in the heart of the persons whom love and cannot be away without the other persons in the beart.True love does exist.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
29 Mar 11
Thanks Uma for your valuable advice and response, Many things are coming to my mind for the last two days since I talked to her on 27th march evening , I want to share with you, If you dont mind, she talked with me very gently and romantically as we used to do.Even wished me, and said that all my wishes can true this year, But when she didn't call me up at night, I couldn't sleep all night, and felt very dis hearted and hurt.All day good and bad things came to my mind, At night, Some how i arranged money for my cell and called her up , she didn't pick up my phone.So I could sleep last night two .Even went out for a walk at about 3 a.m early in morning.I was filled with anger all day. After today's afternoon, I don't know, One thing is striking my mind that maybe her elder sister would have got her cell phone from her and even they would have stopped her from going to office.May be that's why she is not even online.I am really worried about her. what do u say Am I right or wrong. Waiting for your response
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
28 Mar 11
You say you are a poor guy ; what I would suggest is that you concentrate on your career and come up in life first.THis will make you more assured and you will have a better grip over any situation.YOu can take quicker decisions whether to pursue her or discontinue the relationship. Do nto give too much of importance to this.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
29 Mar 11
My friend , I had the same idea 11years ago and about that I already told here, I worked on the same theory,as Its the second time I feel in love with some one so deeply or so soulfully, But I am still there career wise, as I was 11 years ago. So this time ,I preferred to listen to my heart.So lets see what happens.
@lyzabelle (1669)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
She could be both doing the same thing. It's really hard to tell because we never knew her. But I think if you trust her enough and you seemed to have a nice relationship going then you must feel what is really she is up to. I just want you to hope for the best and prepare for the worst, come what may. If she indeed have real feelings for you and she cares for you then no worries she will return to you. Just give her enough space and time to think things over. Just don't pressure her much or you might make things worst. I wish you more luck with her. I wish you will both end happy in the end!
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
29 Mar 11
Thanks for your Valuable advice, I really appreciate your idea.
• United States
28 Mar 11
Firstly I am sorry you are feeling low regarding this matter and also happy belated birthday. This is really tough and I can see where you commented below that you have not personally met her. I think you need to have a serious discussion with her. I would not arrange to meet her without as much discussing with her first as to where exactly you two stand. This will not be easy and difficult however, dig deep as to how this is making you feel. You need clarity. Ask her with sincerity if and what direction this "relationship" is heading. You may not receive a favorable response but I am suggesting you do get some sort of response because you will not be able to put closure unless you do. Maybe something happen and you are not aware that she perhaps had an urgency or maybe in fact she is playing with you. But dear it is hard and would not be right for any of us to mis-guide you not having walked in your heart and or shoes. Please discuss with her at once your true feelings and while she is responding please try hard not to allow your emotions interfere with sound objections. I wish you all the best and hope you someday all the love you kindly deserve.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
28 Mar 11
Thanks for this sweet and touchy reply, and for my birthday wishes.I will keep in mind all the things you said
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
It's hard to tell is she's playing or not. You must consider that fact that you met her online and haven't met in person. So,you have to consider things and you need to be open minded with the situation that you have. Internet relationship is here,though few have successful stories,but mosts of it are not. It takes time to realized where your relationship will lead you through. Be ready what it takes,and don't get too much involvement with your emotions. Give some space and accept whatever result you might end up with internet affairs. happy weekedays
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hmmm I will start thinking from this angle also.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hi dear, I have not much experience in this area, but few things I would like to tell you. First of all, you met her through the internet and I assume that you never met her personally. As you are from Amrithsar, is she is also from the same locality? Have you disclosed all the things about you and did you convince that her relationship is a look out for a man for marriage? As she already said she is busy on work and working with pressurized schedules, she may be right. Also, have you informed here what kind of relationship you are planning to maintain. Is it a’ just friendship’ or a love affair. If she is not married and she is indented to go for it, she will talk to you later also. Again, once you disclosed most of the things about you and when she evaluated, she must have found out that you may not be the perfect match for her. But you can do one thing. If she is ok, find out whether you can meet her once. If you are from Panjab only, you may be able to meet her. However, if you just want to keep the relation on the basis of a friendship, wait for some time. We boys have a major problem that once we realize that she like us, we will constantly will try to get in touch with her. But if we keep a dignified behavior and pleasing approach, we can get her concentration. So, refill sufficiently and call her up and find whether you can talk something seriously and tell her what you want to talk. Or find out when she can be free to get online, through the site and talk seriously what you like to speak. Also, it is better to confirm the person you are talking is a real girl and not a dupe or duplicate and making you fool around. I know few such incidents where we like people are become ‘the play boy’ of some other people. So, find out what you are talking is a genuine one or not. Best of luck. Thank-s
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
28 Mar 11
Than You dear, for such a valuable response, Yes I have not met her for real as she is from Mumbai Yes I have disclosed her all the things about me ,my family condition and Same does she. Yes we Did converse on marriage too and she said that she Is willing to get married but needs some times to convince her parents, as she is from other religion and cast as I am a Sikh and She is a hindu Brahmin, Its a Love affair for now. she is not married but lives with her sister and brother-in Law. No she is not dupe, as she talked with me on phone.she sent me her pics and they look real and from her talking at the first instance it looked to me that she is real as I am a lawyer myself. But little bit confused as the matter of heart makes a sensible man fool. So thats why I started this discussion
• Indonesia
29 Mar 11
Hi jagjit, Love is simple if you see in simple way, if you interesting with her you will have time for her anytime even you are busy, and so is she, if she feel same way as you even she is very busy she will try to keep in touch with you, just sending messages say i love you or something else. It's just an excuse by saying she is busy with her job, and not to wish a happy birthday? I don't think this relationship can continue. Take it or leave it, you deserve more than that. cheers
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
nobody can tell what she's up to, but in my opinion i should say that why don't you find a real love in your real world, cause you know people you may meet in the net may construct different side of the story, i mean i can say that i'm the daughter of the president or owner of a prestigious company and nobody can know that that's a lie, what i'm saying is that don't fall in love with a total stranger and never been met before... that's my idea and opinion, it's all your decision afterall.. and belated happy birthday
@nicregi (1936)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 11
Hi there. I am not very good in this but bear with me. Have a read on what I think: 1. It is your birthday and she should at least call you just for a simple wish. Not you call her and tell her etc. 2. Love in the net, is somthing dangerous. Most of the time you get heart broken as they might just be hanging around instead of serious one. Of course, there are a few who found their true love. 3. Don't put too much faith in her yet. Have you met her? Why don't call her out for a drink? Have a face to face talk before you think of your next step. If she reluctant to meet, then my friend, move on. 4. The fact that she said she will call you but didn't is not a good thing for me. If you are in love with someone, you will not forget. What I suggest? Meet up with her! I am not sure where you guys stay or how far you are apart but the best is meet face to face and don't get tangled up in such thing yet (especially if you have not met her in person). Good luck!
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
28 Mar 11
If I were you I would ask her what's going on. Ask her if she is interested in you and if she would like for the both of you to keep talking. Tell her how you look at the situation. Let her know that she needs to keep in touch with you on the phone and the internet since you are having a hard time with your phone. If she does keep in contact with you after you talk to her then you will see by her actions that she's not playing or testing with you. If she doesn't keep in contact with you then you can see that she's not interested. I hope it goes well with her if not you can meet someone else.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Maybe she is playing with you, friend. Because as your stories goes. It appear that she didn't like you... I suggest you to find someone who loves you just as you are. Don't fall in love to those girl that is materialistic because you suffer a lot of pain afterward...
• Canada
28 Mar 11
This girl is definately playing with you. She also sounds very immature and seems to lack character and simple respect for others. I think you should set the bar a little higher and search for someone who values you and has enough respect to WANT to know whats going on in your life. A person who says they are going to call and doesn't in my opnion is not to be trusted. If they can't even return a simple message or phone call then how do you expect them to be there for you in a day to day relationship? MOVE on to someone else :)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Hi there! Maybe you should "reconsider". As you said, she is career - oriented, meaning relationships are not in her mind at the moment, and won't be serious about it at this time. She must be like wanted to just become friendly and nice, but not to the extent that she wants to keep a relationship. Further, as I analyze what you narrated, to me she is not playing with your heart BUT NOT SERIOUS in having relationships. it is better not to expect anything from her. That is much better than being upset because of expecting something.