Making him jealous is a Good thing? I don't think so!

I don't think jealousy can be taken to be healthy at all. it's a sign of a relationship that doesn't work. it shows that the couple don't trust each other. I can never understand why some people think that jealousy is a measure of love. when there is a real and trustful love, jealousy cannot take hold.

Hi there! Jealousy is a negative trait and it does more harm than good. We should not consciously make others jealous of a person or something, it does not help in the long run.

Oh no! Jealousy is a terrible thing because once its there...it only tends to grow. I don't want the hassle of someone questioning me all the time or feeling like they have to "check up" on me. Flattering is not at all how I would feel. Untrusted, nervous...that is jealousy to a person suffering it and for the one that feels it..well...I think it eats them up. Plays in their minds and causes them to do stupid things. I don't want to make anyone jealous either...I want to live.

It did a lot when I was a teenager, I would even work my way out to do it, now I know I was really insecure, I don't like it and adults who like this are not really mature yet. You know why? Feelings jealoussy it hurts.

It's a selfish act to make your lover gets jealous of you. Its depends on HOW you MAKE him jealous. If you get caught in BED with another guy by him, that is more than jealousy you will get! But if you're receiving flowers from a guy friend on your birthday, this tolerant jealousy is still OK. After all, it's just the love sparks and pursue you're looking for, dear.

What you read in the article is true... A little jealousy would means that he/she still have feelings for their partner. However, to deliberately make your partner jealous can bring forth serious repercussion. Jealousy and pain walks hand in hand. You cannot have one without the other following suit. Should your partner found out that you are deliberately making him/her jealous, the backlash will not be good. He/she will feel like you are simply trying to hurt them. As humans, it is in our nature to preserve ourselves from pain whether physically or emotionally. A prolong effect of this will instead be decremental in feelings for the relationship. Slowly but surely, his/her trust in you decreases. It will just be a matter of time before his/her human nature takes over and simply shuts down emotionally. He/she will then stop caring for the relationship and this will inturn develop into something more horrendous like having an affairs or even a total break-up. The pain of jealousy is the same for everyone, so before you decide that you want to make your partner just to see if he/she still have the hots for you consider this.... How would you feel if your partner makes you jealous instead?

Jealousy? No way in Hell!! My husband and I have no secrets, no insecurities, and we do great!!! If one of us is concerned about something, then we will talk about it. My husband is unaware of when a woman is flirting with him, so I TELL HIM! He trusts me to tell him when someone's flirting with him. I, on the other hand, take no crap, if I think a man is flirting with me. I tell the guy off, promptly, and if I was not doing this, I would not blame my husband for saying something to me, because I was not letting the guy know we're married. We trust eachother, and we trust eachother to let us know if there is something of concern going on.

It depends upon the circumstances Sarah... I am glad that your relationship is so strong and healthy that such complications aren't required for you... That is really a good thing.. But there are people and they are different, right? There are circumstances in which this 'jealousy' factor becomes necessary to strengthn the bonds of love... It is not absolutely necessary, but it can do something... Of course, too much of it would mean, break up... In my relationship, we don't ahve any jealousy. Sometimes, I feel worried that maybe because of the distance between us she might get drifted... I fear the same for myself too... But things get okay once we write to each other ...

I do admit that jealousy can spice up life a little especially between couples who are in to a relationship. But jealousy that is based on betrayal is indeed a different matter because it could kill a relationship. It's alright to get jealous because we don't want our love ones to shower attention to other person besides us. When you are in a relationship you should respect the feelings of the one you love. But intentionally making your partner jealous is a bit hard. There are many ways to know if your partners love still exist but jealousy is a tricky part it might backfire on you. So if you want to try jealousy to make your partner see you in another level, go ahead just be careful.

Caution should be taken when playing the game of jealousy. You may end up with more than you bargained for. There is no control in what happens to lives when jealousy is allowed to enter the picture. no good will usually come from it. Bigger problems can often be the prize instead.

Making your partner jealous is not a good idea. It will just complicate things. It might just be a root of your misunderstanding. Some people do this because of insecurity. They want to know if their patners still love them. Well,i think about it otherwise.

Making a guy jealous is a fun thing. No, really. It is a fun thing to do. Seeing their expresion feels like you are really special to him. I am not saying it's a good thing. But, it does feel good to know that the other cares for you so much. Don't you think so? In my opinion, if we are to base it on relationships, perhaps... maybe it won't be too good if the jealous party will be over jealous. It's not jealousy anymore. I think it is more of obsession. I guess? Hahaha! That's just what I think. People have their own point of views regarding this matter.

I never purposely try to make my boyfriend jealous. It's not a fun time when you're arguing about another girl/guy. We are both pretty insecure and have low self esteem so I think we both know better than to provoke each other like that. We get jealous without having the other person intend anything. Yet if my partner was NEVER jealous, I would feel a bit weird about that. My ex was somewhat like that, and it made me feel like I was nothing special to him.

Hi.. honestly, I want to see my partner get jealous.. Because if he got jealous, it just means he really loves me.. But I don't how and where to start.. I always get jealous, and he doesn't! i think I'm weird.

I totally agree with you. I don't think it is a good way to make your love jealous on purpose. I think it is somewhat hurtful. Try to imagine if he did the same thing to you, what would you think? A love should be based on the trust. Perhaps making him jealous will make you feel proud because besides him, you still have another one who admires you. But as to him, he will feel nervous. And if he is not a confident person, then he will have doubts and it is harmful for your relationship. It is just like you are not serious to your relationship and you are just fooling other's emotions. I love China

I think it's a bunch of game playing and I don't like playing games..besides that if you love someone and they are a bit insecure why would you try to torture them? To me..you don't really love someone if you play on their emotions just to prove a point!

Hi. sarahruthbeth22. There was a slight time that I thought that having jealousy in a relationship was okay. Only a small bit of it. But as I have seen many relationships take a turn for the worse, I believe that having jealousy in a relationship is very unhealthy. Not only is it unhealthy, but it is an obsessive addiction that can be truly deadly. If I read an article that had this information in it, I would have automatically ignored anything that it is saying. It is untrue to have jealously in any relationship. Nothing good never comes out of a relationship that involves jealousy issues.

For any relationship be it just friendship, a date or marriage, there has to be complete faith and trust in ones partner.If these qualities are there in both then there is no need to make ones partner jealous.As you have rightly said if one partner is jealous of the other, then that relationship is bound to fail since trust and faith are missing.Moreover the partner who tries to make the other jealous is insecure in the relationship.If this attitude persists after marriage then that relationship will collapse and then divorce is the only way out.Making ones partner is just not the right thing to do and in the end will result in frustration and misery for both.

I think some guys are just simple. Or at least think simple, and that includes me. Although making guys jealous may prove that there is still some spark in the relationship, for others they may just not appreciate the head games. I just don't see the need for rocking a boat.

I dont think its healthy but there are a lot of people who say it is but sometimes it depends on the person you are trying to make jealous. There are some who doesnt care about it and there are also other who would take it seriously and as a result, love might fade away and you dont want that to happen.