Girsl, would you wait for a suitor or search for it(make the 1st move)?

March 30, 2011 2:13am CST
As the subject says..For the girls, would you wait for someone to court you, or you will search for it and make the first move?
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6 responses
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
i would definitely wait for them to court me.... besides it's a man's job to court a lady and what kind of man who will allow a lady to court him? plus we ladies have our own way to catch our targets even without courting them. in this discussion i've just remember my friend way back in college, she used to have a major crush on one of our classmate, and i can't believe she tries to court him.. it makes me wonder where she get the guts to do that
30 Mar 11
Haha.. funny story but it does happen.. cause i happen to know someone like that. Anyway.. what if the gut really likes you too but dont have any guts to ask you.. or hes thinking the same way as you? would you still not make a move?
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
definitely i won't make any move not until he said something like he loves me or likes me, but there was this situation, when i kinda like my friend way back in college, then i think he kinda likes me too but he's too shy to say it to me or start courting me cause he's been afraid that i might decline him and he will lose me as a friend, another friend told me that situation, then its not me who makes the move its my friend, they set up this truth or consequences game then finally made him say everything he feels for me.
30 Mar 11
Wow pretty nice story.. How do you feel back then? I mean looking back and remembering those moments? Its kinda sweet. right?
@violici (21)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I usually wait for the guy to make the move, if he seems very shy, i'll give a few hints here and there but I don't like to ask a guy out.
30 Mar 11
But what if he really likes you too.. and even you gave him hints.. he still doesnt have the courage to ask you.. I mean for example you heard from a friend that he likes you alot?
• United States
30 Mar 11
If I heard from a friend that he likes me a lot, I'd tell the friend to go and tell him to ask me out already!!! :)
30 Mar 11
Pretty clever answer..:)
@AdalieM (1135)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I think this depends a lot on your country. Here in the US, most women ask guys out, and there's nothing wrong with that. Asking a guy out doesn't make you a who#$. I am very old fashioned, and of course, I want the guys to ask me out first, but if they don't my signals, is all up to me to ask him out. However, you have to be careful some guys don't really like, but most of the time is a turn on for a guy, at least here in the US that seems to be the case, from my point of view.
@AdalieM (1135)
• United States
30 Mar 11
don't get my signals.
2 Apr 11
Yes its true. It really depends on the culture where you grew up. Most free countries that are open in culture don't matter whether a girl asks first. For me, although I came from a conservative country. I do not really judge if a girl asks first. Its really the same.
@mj_aye (45)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
i would wait for the guy to court me.. if he really is interested in me, he will find ways for us to connect or maybe know each other. and if i like that guy very much and yet he isn't making any move, i will make my move. but my move is to pray to God about him. c:
2 Apr 11
Nice answer but be cautious because some guys do take advantage when they know that a girl like him. So if ever you ask a guy first. Be sure that he shows a little respect to you..
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
The norm thing is,girls wait for the boy to make the first move. But this new genre is off beat,girls court boys or make the first move if can't wait for the boy to make the first move. Funny but it's happening with young generation. Sometimes it started with just for fun...then later become serious relationship and even ended with church bells ringing
2 Apr 11
Yup. totally true. Young generations today are totally in different environment. I think they are much more open minded that the previous generations.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
I always wait for the guy to make the first move, of course! I don't know but it was like a tradition for me.. I don't like to make the first move because I'm afraid the guy might think I'm too desperate or too over him!
30 Mar 11
But what if you really really like him.. i mean like him to the max. and found out that he likes you too..what do you think?