Was it really the good old days?

@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
March 31, 2011 9:23am CST
I know that this won't apply to the young people here, but anyone can respond. We've all heard people talk about the good old days and maybe some of us have done it ourselves, but were these times really that great? Is it because we were young and the world was new and exciting that it appears that way? Do you think that the kids growing up now, will one day speak of today as the good old days? Personally, I wouldn't want to go back to the way things were when I was a child. Do you agree or disagree?
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@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
31 Mar 11
I remember with nostalgia some of the happenings of my youth and I also miss some of them. But the present is what we have and the biggst difference I see is that when I was young I wanted to change bad things whereas now I hope the next generation will do things better than we did.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi marguicha, I agree the present is all that we have and it's important to realize that. As we get older we often remember the good times and forget the bad, hence the good old days. We often forget that we were young and it would be much different if we went back to that life style now. Blessings.
@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
3 Apr 11
The present is action. It is all I feel I really have. Butwith the knowledge of what I have learned in the past, I can make that action worthwhile for the future (I hope)
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• Mexico
31 Mar 11
Hi marguicha: I agree with you: the present is all that we have. Noone has done something just by looking the past. We can learn many beautiful lessons if we remembered our past but at the same time we have to work for our present and also for the future. ALVARO
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@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
3 Apr 11
I think our memories are designed to block out bad things and remember the good things in vivid colours. I remember the good old days were not so good for everyone. In Canada there was the scare of polio for children especially in the summer when kids went swimming. Many children got polio and spent horrible time in socalled iron lungs. Also girls were steered into secretarial jobs because they were expected to get married and stay home to be supermoms and domestic goddesses. Remember "Leave it to Beaver". Divorce was frowned upon and many unhappy people stayed in miserable marriages. Many women stayed in abusive situations. I remember the sixties and how hard it was for us who embraced the women's liberation and asked mainly for equal pay for equal work. I am eternally grateful that this was achieved in some institutions and the Government which allowed me to raise my kids in decency and relative ease after becoming a single parent instead of in poverty. I have a friend in her middle eighties who gets a meager pension from the company where she worked for years because at the time only men could contribute to the company pension plan. On the other hand I think people had a lot fewer material posessions and were content with fewer things. Probably the youth of today will also think back to today in 50 or 60 years and fondly talk of the good old days.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi Lindalinda, Thank you for an excellent and well thought out response. It is absolutely true that those who talk of the good old days, block out the bad things and remember only the good. I agree with everything you say here, and although it's far from perfect I would choose the present any day. Blessings.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
31 Mar 11
i think people look back with nostalgia and because most people have selective memory, they only remember the good times and shut out the bad times of the past.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
6 Apr 11
Hi cher,That's a very good point and I think you're right. Thanks for responding. Blessings.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
2 Apr 11
I was the eldest of 4, and there was very little good old days in that! I was babysitting as soon as I could feed myself, and without a doubt my teenage years were the worst time of my life. I grew up on a farm in the country and had no friends until I began walking 1.5 miles to school, (uphill both ways). Even today I have no friends! I so unsure of myself growing up, it was terrible. The teacher didn't like me, and told me to repeat the letters of the alphabet with each step going home, and I did it. The only fun I had as a teenager was being seduced by a woman twice my age.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi barehugs, Although I was the youngest of nine children, things weren't always that great for me either. School was a nightmare because I was too shy to ask questions or make friends. I had a two mile walk to school and hated having to go at all. Teachers could do almost anything they wished back then and I saw a lot of strappings that weren't deserved. Some kids may have taken things a bit too far the other way today, but I'm not really surprised. Were they really the good old times? I don't think so. Thank you for sharing. Blessings.
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
Interesting topic, I've been thinking about this too. I can totally say that there were the good old days when things weren't as complicated and life was much more simple. I too am curious if the children today would say the same thing when they grow up. I remembered my friend say that he likes the 90s because he was a child then. Maybe everyone says the good old days because it reminds them of their care-free childhood days regardless of era.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
6 Apr 11
Hi EnslinPorter, You make a very good point.I believe that most of us tend to forget the things that we don't want to remember, and remember only the fun times. Thanks for responding. Blessings.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
31 Mar 11
When I think about the "good old days", it comes to mind that families have changed. It seems as though families used to stay closer together. Kids got jobs close to home, lived within a few miles of relatives and visited often. Now, young people leave the nest and move across the country or out of the country, and extended families become strangers. There is very little family support anymore. It seems as if everyone is on their own.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi lacieice, Thank you for responding to this discussion. I agree with you that families are now scattered all over the world. I have relatives all over Canada and the US as well as in Holland, Australia, Scotland and England. In my parents day most family members settled in the same general area. I think it may be even more so with future generations. Blessings.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
31 Mar 11
Hello Pose123, thanks for your interesting post.I am a young man, I think if every body tries to live a positive life and try to enjoy every moment of life, life automatically becomes exciting .When I was a child I had both good time and bad time, now I am grown up, now too life has good time and bad time and I try to enjoy every moment with a postive attitude and honesty and ready to face any situation mentally, also old is not always gold, we forget good old times but remember the hard old times or bad memories often,and I accept life as it comes infront of me and no I dont want to go back in the olden days of childhood, but I am grown up now and will try to face life as it comes. Thanks.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi humbleme, I like your response very much and it shows that you are looking at life in the right way. It's true that we can only live in the now but if we live life with a positive attitude and honesty, there will be less to regret later in life. Blessings.
@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 11
I would say that there are many fond memories in the good old days. Then again, not everyone's good old days are the same as a lot of us grow up in different times & eras
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi zweeb82, You make a good point but yes we all have some fond memories. I'm not sure however it it was the times or the fact that we were young. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Blessings.
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@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 11
I guess it's both the age & time
@savypat (20216)
• United States
31 Mar 11
Many look at the past through rose colored glasses, but not me, I love flush toilet, running hot and cold water, instant this and that, no iron clothing, insulated houses, paved roads, the Internet for instant research and communication. and so many other modern things, I don't want to go back.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi savypat, I don't want to go back either. Those who think they would have forgotten the bad times and remember only the good.Sure there are fond memories and I like to look at old snapshots, but go back-no way. I too love the modern conveniences. Thanks for sharing. Blessings.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
for me it went pretty okay...i mean there were bad times, worse times, and the good times...but generally i remember my childhood as something that went "okay". it wasn't perfect, in fact it was farrrrr from perfect. i think it took a lot of time for me to look at it this way - if i were asked the same question years ago, i would've said "disagree". but anyway, i remember the advantages of being a child, all innocent and shallow. i think the world seemed a smaller, safer, happier place then... i had wishes and dreams, but they were much simpler then... now that i'm a grown up all i think about is how to survive life and overcome the challenges out there... i think it was easier to be happy back then...
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi kquiming, Thank you for responding and although, times weren't great when I was growing up, life was still good as far as I was concerned. I wouldn't want to go back now though because I realize that I'd miss so much. Blessings.
• Mexico
31 Mar 11
Hi Pose: I think that both parts are right. If you look back you have to realize that we have lost some of the values that existed in the past but at the same time we have seen many horrible things that has happened in the last decades or centuries. Every time in the human history has its positive and negative aspects. However, we usually see our childhood and teenage years as the beautiful times when we remembered them but of course there were bad things too. ALVARO
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Hi starsailover, I feel that there were many horrible things that happened in the past as well, they just went undetected. It's true that we have lost some family values but there were also things back then that I'm happy that we've lost. Most families lived closer together and bonds between families were stronger and there were many other goods things as well. I really wouldn't want to go back, although I have fond memories but I like my modern conviences as well. Thank you for sharing. Blessings.