It's my choice....Right???

@tlb0822 (1410)
United States
March 31, 2011 8:41pm CST
I recently had my second daughter in February, my oldest daughter is three years old. My husband works full time, night shifts at least three days out of the week. My husband and I have come to the conclusion that it is not needed for me to return to work, because we are fortunate enough that my husbands income pays our bills without a problem. My dilemma is that I feel like I am obligated to go back to work, like everyone there is depending on me to go back. All I keep hearing is when are you coming back?, We really need you back. I had already told my manager that I wasn't going to be returning, and a few days later she called begging me to take a few shifts because she has no one else. And feeling guilty I told her I would take them. Now I am really regretting to saying yes. I really just want to stay home with my girls, and not have to worry about working even though it is only one day a week. I know deep down that it is my choice but how do I get rid of that feeling of guilt? How do I make them understand that it isn't anything personal? How should I tell them without hurting anyones feelings? Should I work the two shifts she scheduled me or tell her before then? Thanks for any advice anyone can give.
5 responses
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
1 Apr 11
Friend according to my opinion your child needs you so care your child at least 10 yrs age. You will get the job after some years also but child not. Say your boss my family needs me so I cant do the more work.
@mlhuff12 (797)
• United States
1 Apr 11
Though you didn't really want to you had agreed to work those days. I think you should work those days because you said you would but tell them in advance that you changed your mind, and that after working those days already scheduled you will no longer be working there. Explain how you'd rather spend you time taking care of your children. And tell them if you ever want to come back to work there that you will contact them. If they understand that's great, but if not does it really matter?...Hopefully that will give them the hint that you wouldn't appreciate them to keep on calling you to work when they are short a person.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
1 Apr 11
Hi tlb! I think that it is your decision it you want to stay at home with your children, especially since you just had your baby! I don't think that you should have to defend your decision. I understand that you feel obligated to you job, but they should understand that your "job" of being a Mom takes priority, at least for the time being. It is wonderful that you can afford to stay at home at this time and take care of them. If you went to work you would have to pay a babysitter, wouldn't you? I think that decision is yours to make and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
1 Apr 11
Hi tlb! I think that it is your decision it you want to stay at home with your children, especially since you just had your baby! I don't think that you should have to defend your decision. I understand that you feel obligated to you job, but they should understand that your "job" of being a Mom takes priority, at least for the time being. It is wonderful that you can afford to stay at home at this time and take care of them. If you went to work you would have to pay a babysitter, wouldn't you? I think that decision is yours to make and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
you may say it this way.. "I really like the job and its my honor that you've all trust my capability and knowledge, it's nice working with all of you and it truly breaks my heart leaving you guys after a long time that we've been together, but please try to understand my situation, my family need me now and it's my personal obligation to take care of them, i have two daughters to look at all the time and i it seems that i can't handle the job anymore" there, no one would be hurt, everybody will understand that family is our main priority. hope this could help you