What causes sibling rivalry?

Philippines
April 1, 2011 4:00am CST
As a parents of 5 kids, I got so stress when I saw them fighting for each, it's good thing that i had read an article in a magazine that really helps me, i would like to share it with you mylot friend, maybe it could also help if there is a situation like this.... 1. each child needs to be reassured of his parents love. 2. Avoid comparisons and focus on compassion and cooperation. Don't say "why can't you be like your sister or like your brother. 3. set guidelines for handling disagreements. * don't get angry and upset yourself. * be fair and listen to both sides of the story. don't favor one child * accept your children angry feelings and allow them to tell you how they feel without resorting to name-calling or physical violence. If they are violent, get them away from each other and have them cool down for a while. * set prior agreements on hot issues (such as respect for personal property, sharing, and tv schedule) instead of just reacting to situations that come along. * after setting the ground rules, let your children work out their own problems with each other.
2 responses
@xannex (254)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
You're so right about that #3. Whenever we fought with each other my father would first hear our reasons and say each other's mistake.
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Yes that is right, I've already this suggestion and it really works.. thanks xannex
@maximax8 (27048)
1 Apr 11
When there is an only child he or she tends to jealous when a baby brother or sister is born. His or her parents give the baby boy or girl lots of attention. The younger child in a group of siblings can feel pushed out if another baby is born into that family. It is important that each child is treated equally with it being fair to his or her age and ability. For example in a particular family one child might be disabled. My disabled son has got spina bifida plus hydrocephalus and he is not able to walk. I have to be careful that my daughter is being nice to him. She rushes off with his socks and won't give them back to him when I am busing putting away clothes. I like your suggestions of how to cope with sibling rivalry.