I don't appreciate being accused of something that I did not say.

@cream97 (29175)
United States
April 2, 2011 7:05pm CST
My daughter's teacher and I were talking on the telephone on Thursday afternoon. And she told me that she can't believe that I was not happy that my child is doing great in school. I have never told her that I was not happy. In fact, I did not mention that I wasn't. I don't know where her teacher has came up with this information, but she should get her words straight. She knows that I am very happy of my child's accomplishments. I always help my daughter with her homework. I help her with learning how to write. Even if I am unable to attend all of the parent and teacher conferences, I still show my involvement and concern in my child's education daily. She may not see it, but I do play a great role in being proud of my daughter. And this goes for all of my kids too. She has already told my husband that she can tell that we are helping our daughter at home, because when she comes to school, to do her classwork, it shows. My husband then tells her that she should (thank me), the mother, because he can't take any credit for our daughter's progress. So, if I am doing all that I can at home, what makes her think that I am not proud of my daughter's excellent progress that she has made so far in school?
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@much2say (37386)
• United States
4 Apr 11
Hi cream97! Hmmmm. That is strange that the teacher would say something like that. What was your reaction to what she said? I would have asked her right then and there WHAT made her think you weren't happy about your child's progress in school. She probably misheard or misinterpreted "something" that was said previously - but only she can tell you her side of things. I hate misunderstandings and like to resolve things as they come while it's still fresh - otherwise I'd be thinking about it over and over and not get it out of my system. But that's me.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
4 Apr 11
Hi cream.. I think she guessed it without any reason. So, just forget it and show your involvement better. Hope you will make her great citizen. All the best.
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@kenzie45230 (3563)
• United States
3 Apr 11
The more you share about this teacher, the more it appears that she should seek other employment.
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@neenie (344)
• United States
3 Apr 11
Even if that were true, a teacher shouldn't come right out and say that like that. That's just not very professional... Like others have said, maybe it was just a misunderstanding and she didn't mean for it to come out like that. If she continues saying things like this though, I would take it up with administration.
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• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Oh that sad but along the it can be clarified you know can sometimes be too proud about their student's achievement, I'm a Teacher so I know a little bit about it.
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Hmmm.. I'm wondering now why you didn't intervene when you were talking to her? I mean, you could have set things right with her the first time she said that you weren't happy with your daughter's progress.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
3 Apr 11
It's a difficult enough task to bear to live with things we have said. When we are accused of saying something that we didn't, it can be more hurtful than if we really said what we were accused of. I certainly wouldn;t take any pride or appreciation in being told i said something that i know i never did.
@celticeagle (115469)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Apr 11
SHe was just trying to turn it around and make you feel bad and responsible for this whole thing. Instead of taking responsibility for her actions. (And she's a teacher?)I think you need to write her a note. Explain what you have told us and all your feelings. Word it nicely and don't be emotional. State the facts! She obviously is taking things out of context and turning these around to please herself. SOmething to the effect of:" I feel as if there has been some misunderstanding. I want you know I appreciate what you do everyday and I just wanted to clarify afew things...........
• United States
3 Apr 11
Both you and your husband know the absolute truth with regards to you being a great mother. I would do as stowyk in box one says and send a brief letter and or card. You be the bigger person and show her exactly how wonderful you are. Include in the note that you are very pleased with the progress of your daughter and this progress is showing me that my hard efforts are paying off. See by writing that you are telling her I am a good mother, thank you very much. I am even more of a good mother then you think because I am not going to stoop to you level. The fact that all your children are doing well says/screams to the world that you are doing well as a mommy, do not let her make you think twice otherwise. Maybe she misunderstood but I can't see how a teacher could actually call someone with something like anyways. That is something perhaps on a day of a meeting or teacher conference but not to call, it almost is like gossip. Don't allow anyone cream take you out of character and you continue your good nature.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
3 Apr 11
Wow. I can not believe that the teacher would actually say something like this to you!! I would be very offended. I am like you. I am always helping my child with his homework and make sure that I do plenty of activities with him. He is ding great in school and I would not like that type of comment at all .I don't understand why in the world she would say something like this to you at ll!
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@AmbiePam (46875)
• United States
3 Apr 11
Perhaps your daughter said you mentioned something like that and the teacher believed that you indeed had said it. Things like that don't usually come out of nowhere. It is more likely she misunderstood something your daughter said. Or maybe something you said in the past that she took the wrong way. Because I doubt there is a teacher in the world who would think a parent would be displeased with their child doing well.