Should I find a job or just stay home, I cant decide yet.

@stormlyt (188)
Philippines
April 4, 2011 9:27am CST
I am a stay at home mom. I have a that needs to be taken care of. I actually left my previous job to take care of my baby. Now, that my baby is 8months old I am planning to return to work. I have prospects to take care of my baby while im away but I am still in doubt. Im really worried leaving my baby with someone else but I also need to get a job. I dont know what to do and I havent decided yet. Any suggestions?
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
I know how you feel...I'm a mom as well, I work though, but sometimes I just wanna quit my job and focus on my baby. But you know, reality speaking I need to earn in order to raise my little boy. So I'm still working, me and my husband are both working. We have a nanny who takes care of our baby when were not around. If you need to earn then might as well find a job again, but make sure to find someone reliable for you to leave your baby to. A family member perhaps? Good luck!
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@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Im on the quest of finding someone reliable to leave my baby with. As for now, im enjoying my time with my baby. thanks
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Thats great to hear stormlyt! Hopefully you'll find someone trustworthy of your little one. Good luck!
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
If ill find one trustworthy to look after my little one, I would have my mom to check up on them once in a while just to super sure. :)
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
4 Apr 11
My view is if your family is not having a hard time in financial problem, you should stay home and take care of your baby, what is better than getting to stay home and spend time with your baby? I have a friend who has to go back to work because what her husband makes is not enough for supporting the family so she has no choice. Then she was sad to tell me that she wish she could stay with her daughter because she is missing so much of her growing up. You know they grow so quick they you won't even notice. I'm a stay home mom, I'm so glad that I don't work and I get to play with him all day. I won't trust anybody to look after him other than my mom or my very close aunts. I hope my comments help.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
It really depends on the job you get. Maybe ill look for jobs that allows me to spend more time with my baby without sacrificing either.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 11
I hope you could find one, I was hoping I could find a babysitter job but I would have to stay at the people's house which I don't prefer so I gave up on that.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
I really do hope. Ill ask some friends or relatives for recommendations. That way I will have an idea and background check.
@padu19 (1441)
• India
4 Apr 11
I f you really do not trust anybody to leave your baby, I would definitely recommend you to stay at home. If at all, your mother-in-law or mother is available to take care of your baby, I believe you can handle your work then. Personally, though we have a few good means of earning money online, all these methods of earning are not permanent or as reliable as working in a company. Also, you will tend to loose the commitment in work from home(online) kind of opportunities and you will stop earning any money! But, if money is never a constraint to you, you can very well keep working from home in online forums like Mylot and take care of your sweet baby. It is indeed a gift to rejoice the smile or cry of your baby!! All the best!!!
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
I know. I miss working in the company and earning something out from it. Anyway, it will be soon that ill get back to that way but it will not be the same. I use to be a workaholic but now I just want to tone down a bit so i will have enough time with my little one as well.
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
10 Apr 11
Basically, even I am workaholic. But I know, I can not be so after my marriage. That is how it is for girls! But, I am determined to work regularly even after I get married!
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
Me too. Im just sticking with the regular work. I dont like overtimes and on calls anymore and also grave shifts. If I go back to work in an office, those I will stay away from so I can take care of my baby.
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
ma'am, i think it would b best for you to stay home, take care of your baby and earn from home you'll be able to appreciate the time you spend with your kid while earning :D http://www.chipesterkhan.com
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
I think so too. Staying would be the best option. Thanks for the link. I might start blogging. Ill have to learn the pointers.
• Indonesia
5 Apr 11
as a husband, i would rather my wife can take care of the family at home. but if my wife wanted to look busy, doing a little business could be an option.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
im thinking of home small business but dont know how to start. Maybe one day I can find my niche so I can just work at home and stay with my baby.
• Portugal
5 Apr 11
Hello there! I know exacly what you mean... My baby is 8 months old too, i left my job to take care of her but, the economic situation in Portugal is bad and, we cant live with my husband's paycheck! So, now i'm like you, i want to make some money and i dont want to leave my baby with someone else... Then, i decided to try some telework, it's not going so well but, here in Portugal telework is not used that much! Maybe you can find a part time job or, do some stuff at home! I make fashion acessoires so i can sell, i dont make much money with that but, is always some extra cash! Have you tried something like that? =) Cheers!
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Ive always planned but have not carried it out. Maybe this time I would. I like making crafts but have not tried selling them. Ill try that
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
If you can just start a new business inside the house, that would be better. If you are going to work outside, just be sure you will have the best nanny you can have. When I become a mom, I do not want my daughter to be out of my sight so I decided to leave my work and stayed home. At first I was really bored but now that my daughter has grown into a good girl, all my sacrifices are worthy. I am just accepting tutorial for different subjects inside our house every afternoon so that I won't be bored also.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Id like home business too. I just need to find my niche. Thanks
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Sometimes we are torn between the urge to work and to leave our child to someone who could take care of her /him. But because there is a need to work, we are left with no choice but to choose the former. However, from my experience while at work, we cannot help but worry if our baby is well taken cared of. Perhaps, nowadays with the proliferation of online job, you could just engage in them. That way, you get to take care of the baby while you do your work at the computer. You also own your time and can do your job at your convenient time.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
Im trying to work something from home but non is still stable. I hope it will work out someday so i can stay home with my baby. Thats what ill worry about, worrying about my baby left at home when im working at a company. I might not be focused.
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Try some home based online job. While at home you can earn online. Just try it for a month but if you failed you can now get into a job outside.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
I might do that. That way, I would know and that will help me reach a decision. Thanks
@stanley777 (7175)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Since your child is still a baby and have to be taken care off most of the time, you have to find someone who is reliable enough to look for your child in case you decided to look for another job.You must also accept a job with a salary sufficient enough to pay for your nanny and have extra for your other needs.You could also try some on line opportunities in case you decided to be a stay home Mom.
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
The salary should also be taken into consideration. Because if the pay will just cover for the nanny then ill just stay home.
@praty77 (63)
• India
4 Apr 11
Yeah you should definitely get a job. I have seen and come accross many women who regret when they discontinue their job after having a baby. I really dont wanna demotivate or discourage you in any way. But really, its a thing that maybe every woman goes through after having a baby. There's one option which my friend has opted and that is getting a job nearby your house. So that if you wanna go home due to any reason, you can do so easily. All the best and congratulations for your baby ! Take care...
@stormlyt (188)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Your right. Thank you. Having a job also boosts my confidence rather than just stay at home. I just hope I can find a job that is flexible so i can manage my time with my little one. Guess what, just got the idea that if ill hire someone to look after my baby, I let them stay at my mom's or mother in law's house. That way they will be supervised and that I will be at ease that someone I trust is looking out for my little one as well.
@demoneko (168)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
If you really need a job, go get one but if you can live and pay all of your expenses without even working, then do so since you can afford it and you just can't trust your baby to anyone.