Are you always home alone as a homemaker?

@mermaidivy (15417)
United States
April 4, 2011 5:29pm CST
I am home alone with my son and the dog again tonight... my husband's work team came from other states here for meetings for a week, he's gonna be out every night with them, this morning probably will be the only time I saw him until this Saturday. He is a very busy man with tons of work load and business trips. Next month, he's gonna travel to California. I'm so upset to be alone all the time, I wish my parents and my sister were here with me It feels like it is no difference of not having a husband, he is financially supporting this family only but baby and I don't get to see him enough, he even works at home in the weekends...
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13 responses
• United States
5 Apr 11
It really has to be hard for you being alone and baby without him. I remember those days early on my last marriage. I am glad though that at least you can come on here and discuss, chat and to a sense speak to others. I am sorry you are not having your husband home with you more often and it is okay to vent because you do need to. I am sure if he could he would want to be home too. I hope life can somehow slow down a bit for you and he and finances still allow your family to be together more.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
It is good to have said it, I sometimes get too upset just thinking about it at home all day.
• United States
5 Apr 11
mermaidivy I know your baby keeps you busy but any chance you get come on here and we are happy to discuss just about anything with you. It is always fun and good to chat and discuss on myLot because many of us are willing to help where we can.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Thanks for the hug!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
5 Apr 11
Well, count yourself very lucky. Hes a good father and husband. Takes good care of his family and hard working man. If he was around all the time maybe you would be gettint tired of him. You are still missing him and excited to see him when he comes around. Thats a good thing. I wish you all the best for you and your family.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
I don't think I would be tired to have him around, I would like to go out and play with him all the time hehe.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
6 Apr 11
If he was around all the time there would be the possibility of him being underfoot.
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
once i was in your position. that was when me and my husband are new as a couple. i also feel the same way as you do. as if i have no husband =) he comes home very late at night and goes to work very early in the morning. but that was when he works in the company, no time freedom. but now that he puts his own business, we are always together and takes care of our kids. good thing is that we pass that stage in our life that we almost have no time for each other and talk things out to be a better couple. i hope that someday, everything will be okay for you and your husband for the betterment of your family =)
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
I hope so too. I'm waiting..
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
5 Apr 11
You sound like me mermaidivy. My husband is a workaholic and works even the few hours he is at home. It is more or less like being a single mother. I have to take care of myself, the house, all the other work and my kid who will be four this July. Taking her to school and bringing her back, going to the bank, taking care of all the work which has to be done at home etc. And my husband goes early in the morning and comes late at nights. But there is no specific time which he would come. Somedays, he comes early only to work from home. There have been some months, about more than half a year when I was left alone with my daughter in this city and my husband was working in another. We used to go visit him in the weekends and it was difficult taking care of my daughter alone. But I do have my parents and sister and all my relatives here in this city so that I can talk or visit them whenever I want to. And any help I need is close at hand. I know how you might feel because I have been alone with my kid in some other city where there is no help and no one to talk to.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
We do sound similar but you get your family there so it is better for you. Taking care of the little alone is not easy besides, he is quite a crying baby, makes it even harder.
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
hello ivy, I know how you feels dear. I also married a man who's always busy with work and always go to places and other countries due to work assignments. On our early years,within 2 years i always cry and feels alone and lonely. But later on i get used to it. Just keep yourself busy dear. Maybe you can asks your sister to come during summer,or your mother to stay for a month. Don't keep thinking that he is always away. Just think that,he is doing all those things for your future. Have a good day always
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
very positive, I try to think that and keep myself busy, glad I at least have internet access so I can surf online and read things. Thank you for your comment!
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@toniganzon (37366)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Oh, your husband is missing a lot and i feel sorry that he has to work all the time and spends most of the time with work and colleagues than his family. Someday i hope he won't regret missing his son's first step or those wonderful moments of being a parent. Have you talked to your husband about this? I know the feeling of being alone and lonely not having your husband right beside you when you need him the most. Sometimes to raise a family, the husband has to make a lot of sacrifices. I do hope he will get a vacation soon and spend time with his family.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
I don't know if he knows that how much he is missing, I always tell him that when he comes back next time from his trip, baby will be crawling already.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
5 Apr 11
i stayed home with my kids for 10 years and now i only work part time so i am home with them some of the time (they are now 14 and 17) but i like it when i am home alone because i have lots to kp me busy.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Apr 11
I can do housework to keep me busy but there isonly that much I can do
• United States
4 Apr 11
I understand how you feel. My husband works a night shift so when he is home he is asleep. It's not easy feeling like you are doing everything by yourself. It can be a hard feeling to get used to that is why I spend alot of time online. And sadly feel like a pest to people because you feel like you are stuck in these 4 walls with little interaction outside of your children and pets. I found a part time job and that has helped me feel less lonely and help with the income. However, that means less time with my spouse as well.... but we have to do what we have to do to pay the bills you know?
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
4 Apr 11
I know... it is life. our son is gonna be a year old very soon before he knows it.
@dodo19 (26654)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Mar 12
I can understand that it's not easy for you, but it does sound like he's a good husband and father. It doesn't sound as though he would be away from you, unless he had no choice. But, just because your husband isn't home as much as you want, it doesn't mean that you can't go out and do fun activities with your son, and meet new people and such.
• United States
30 Dec 11
I am a stay at home mom to my daughter. I also work from home. I would like to have another child as my daughter needs a sibling badly, and I want to have another baby as well. Our family does not live too close by, so it is us a lot as well. I don't mind it though. I love being at home, and taking care of my daughter and household. the main things is that there really needs to be another baby here, and I'm trying to reconnect with my friends, and make new ones as well, so it won't feel so alone.
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
2 May 11
wow, no thinking twice i cannot survive with your situation, it is just that is not my type for a husband, i don't mind if we only have a modest house to live and enough food to eat or just enough money for our needs as long as we have a quality time together with my husband and as a family.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
2 May 11
It's a difficult situation. As no family in general. However, you must be patient. Your husband did all the work, for you and your child. If your husband is off and not working, you can take advantage of time with your husband well.
@tink91879 (746)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Beinga stay at home Mom this pretty much seems to sum it up. My husband is in the Navy and is usually gone for months at a time. I think it actually helps our relationship to a point. when he comes home its like a honeymoon all over again. The kids are always excited to see him and I just feel the stress melt away. My kids keep me pretty busy and I have my hobbies. Just cherish the moments you have with him and know hes doing what he can for your fam. Make sure to take time as a family though and get breaks. It can wear on a person doing the same thing day in and day out.