are you anyone's shock absorber?
April 5, 2011 8:09am CST
Have you been a shock absorber lately... Or has it been all he time that smeone comes to you to whine about anything they are annoued about... Hehe i remember that i have an officemate who comes to me... Well we seat right next to each other so therei guess she only as me right now to talk about her issues... I dont mind it at all but sometimes iam worried about her as there are some things she might be taking too personal... If you are in my shoes... What would you tell her? Would you ignore and just pretend you are listening or can i do something to help her?
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6 Apr 11
I would have to say I am quite the shock absorber among our friends especially with my girl friends. I guess, I have practiced that trait of being a good listener as years went on. I listen a lot and I think my friends just rant about a lot of things when I'm with them. I keep it cool though. It's hard at times especially if I felt like I'm losing patience with a particular person because she tries to tell the almost the same story every time she gets in touch with me. So there you go, with being a shock absorber, you really have to be patient enough with your friend. Also, be honest with her with whatever opinion you have got under your sleeve. That way, you have done your part and had told her what you think of her issues. Just tell her though that it's just what you think and not what you want her to do. One thing more you must remember is, you have to patiently listen and only express your opinion when she asks you to.
5 Apr 11
I used to be a shock absorber, but when I was in my most down situation, I tend to ask a few friends to absorb my burden. Although, now, I am fine. I can return to what I used to be. I can now listen to my friends problems or anyone else who needs a shoulder to cry on.
5 Apr 11
there is always something slightly wrong in your mind, we need relief so we chose to find someone and mourning about what what, of course this is just one of the various way people relieve feelings, she or he turn to you whine does that mean s-he trust you somehow, yes there is a potentiality if s-he complain too much that you may be bothered. actually, s-he just want to agree with their point view and showing sympathies all of which would do them good at least they won't keep 'bother' you. being understand is difficult but express agreement to someone being misunderstand is much easier. i don't if it make sense ,generally I m a excellent actor.