"Patience Is A Virtue"- But Is There A Limit To Yours??

@jujunme (2425)
United States
April 5, 2011 12:57pm CST
Long lines at supermarkets,our children,late arrivals of a package, a person,a letter, people asking the same questions over and over again All of these situations and more, can try our patience at any given time and today, it seems people are losing theirs much more frequently and for a lot less reasons than maybe say our parents or grandparents may have reacted in the same situations. So, i'm interested to know,do you consider yourself to be a mostly patient person? take things in stride?or what are some things you have absolutely no patience for? and why? and do you believe all of us should strive to attain the "virtue" of patience as a very necessary commodity?
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15 responses
• United States
6 Apr 11
Gosh in the past I use to loose my temper and my cool if I had to wait just about on anything. I then started to work far from home and no matter how much I wanted to speed there was no way I would make it there before an hour in a half so I think with time I realized I had no choice but to take it and learned how to patiently await, because it was getting to be a bit stressful especially as traffic increased my time. I believe that afforded me to now be as patient as I am and not allow much to irritate me. I find I am quick to remove myself from any stress but either patiently awaiting and or go back another day.
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@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I also have a lot more patience than i used to.i don't know why,but there was a time i found myself rushing everything i did as if the world was going to end if didn't hurry up and get things done. Nowadays i have to make a conscious effort to slow down and realize there's a time and place for everything and it doesn't matter if i'm a little behind in whatever i'm doing. There are still some things i have little or no patience for and one of them is when i need something done by someone else, like a repairman,or when my electricity goes out and they promise to fix it in a certain amount of time and it seems you have to wait forever till it finally gets done, that drives me crazy , especially since these things are important and necessary.
@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Yes, patience is really a virtue. It would be so wonderful if everybody has it, so nobody will get annoyed and be annoyed over a lot of things. I always pray for patience from God. But much as i would like to be patient always, i really can't avoid to be impatient sometimes. I get impatient to my husband for asking me the same question for how many times. Sometimes i would bark at him for being that, but often times i would joke him that he is indeed getting older because he's so forgetful! I also get impatient with my mother-in-law telling the same story over and over. Whenever she is to start a story that i have already heard i would politely tell, "yes i know that, because you have told that story already" . But she would go on, and i feel like screaming !
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
My husband also asks questions over and over again.Sometimes i can laugh it off but, there'is a limit to how often i will be able to do this, or what's worse is, when i do answer him and he doesn't hear me so i find myself yelling my response, but later feel badly that it had to come to that. I also have no patience for repeated stories, how many times can a person hear the same story over and over again and still remain calm?.i have friend that does this and when i tell here "you told me that already" she simply says she forgot and will repeat it anyway, so you can't win and yes, this drives me crazy.
@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
I think part of growing old is being like our husbands. I am just wondering if they forget that they asked about it or they took it nonchalantly when we first answer them. Or maybe they're a bit deaf now, because of aging? My mother-in-law is really like that, going on even if she heard me say " you told me that already". I am boiling deep inside!
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Since my husband is only 44 years old and although many older people do seem to be forgetful,in his case i think at times he just doesn't listen, or, is so preoccupied with other things like his job or the TV,lol, he will insist i didn't answer him the first time, even though i have.
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Patience is a virtue but there is definitely a limit. For me, i'm not the person who can constantly deal with non-sense. Nagging, complaining, especially on the job is the most annoying thing for me. Some people come or go to work with such an attitude. Already ready to go, not happy so they are trying to ruin your day. Things like that I don't have patience for, so i decided that I will no associated myself with people like this. Distance is definitely needed. For one, why complain about a job? People will be happy to have a job in this economy, and they will be quick to take it from you! (speaking in general)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Exactly, I don't understand people who would complain about making money, having a steady income actually being employed. So this is the best way to keep me sane and ignore ungrateful people.
• United States
6 Apr 11
I have it, and there is surly a limit.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
As there is with most people.
• United States
6 Apr 11
true, I find that if I will actually think about whats fully goig on, I can take a breath and give things a little more time. Trying to teach some one though , they need to be a fast learner of I give up way to quick!
• United States
5 Apr 11
I have patience for a late package because they are always on time. I get packages tracked to me as well. I have no time for long lines or traffic jams.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Long lines if i'm n a hurry drive me crazy and never mind when the person right ahead of you has 9000 coupons or wants to pay by check and can't find his or her checkbook or, the person feels the cashier over charged on the bill and wants him or her to point out the item she thought was less than what she was charged for it. Funny thing is i always seem to be right behind people like this and although i don't say a word, i can feel my blood boiling.
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• United States
7 Apr 11
I always get the cashier who is changng shifts and it pisses me off too.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
When it comes to love and your loved one, I can definitely say I am very much patient on those matter. Also, when it comes to my child I definitely have no limit to my patience for him. I think we should all have no limit to it just as how God is with us. We should always exercise patience in everything that we do because He is patient with us at all times. I am definitely no expert on it but every single day I practice to be more patient because it reaps the best among all, good things happen to those who are patient.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Because we love and care for them we do seem to have extra patience with our children and loved ones, even though this may be difficult at times, since we are all human beings who even though taught by God and others to "always" be patient and kind, it's not always possible We need to think about our actions and how they may affect others and if we care enough and try harder to be patient, we will be much more likely to succeed.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Hello jujunme! I admit I have a very short patience. I get mad, annoyed or irritated easily BUT not in all situations. Sometimes, when I can't increase anymore my patience, I keep murmuring to myself in a relaxed way: "Patience is a virtue."
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I still get impatient over certain things but not as much as i used to, there was a time when mostly anything seemed to try my patience, but i learned that this caused me too much stress so,i learned to take some things as they come and try to be calm about it.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I am usually a very patient person. i believe even the most patient of people can be driven beyond extremes. We all have a boiling point to reach before we explode. it takes a lot for me to reach that but we all have the ability to come to that limit.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I agree, no matter how much patience we do have,there will always be situations that will try our patience to the limit.
• Oman
6 Apr 11
As a teacher, I must be patient at all times any where because I strongly do believe that patience has its reward. I also believe that good things come to those who wait... =)
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
IMO,being a teacher would require having a lot more patience and understanding than most people, since you have to deal with a lot of different personalities every single day. Plus, losing your temper or being impatient with your students may very well land you in a bad position with those who have a say as to whether you're fit to teach. I really admire those in the teaching profession since it's far from an easy job to do.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
6 Apr 11
That depends on the mood of the moment. If I am not in the mood, I might lose my patience, or I would shout at somebody. If I am in good mood, I won't mind to wait in line.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
it's true,our mood plays a big part when it comes to patience.if i don't feel well, i notice that very little can make me lost my patience, so i rather stay by myself than inflict my mood on others.
@toniganzon (53205)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
I'm a very impatient person. I'm a spoiled brat and I always want to have my way and to get whatever I want. That's why I'm very impatient. But hone it comes to the person that I love, I am very patient. Ordinarily I hate waiting and it drives me nuts. Any form of waiting at all makes me sick. I always want to do things on a hurry pr finish it immediately. I even tell my son how important time is, it's like a precious gold that once you've lost it you can never bring it back. But sometimes I realize that patience is really a virtue.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Bad girl!, It would be great if we all got everything we ask for, but of course we know that isn't possible and not even good for us, since this can leave us very frequently disappointed and let down and often feeling cheated. We need to learn to be appreciative of what we "do" have and realize others are a lot less fortunate then we may be. As far as waiting though i have no patience with this as well, although i don't rush into things like i used to , i still find it hard waiting for others or even for a task i may be doing to get done. Yes, time is very precious and those of us who realize this, is maybe why we rush most things we do, even though most people say, taking our time to do something, means doing it better.
• Taiwan
6 Apr 11
Well of course patience is a worthly virtue to have, but yes, there is a limit to it. The point that your limit breaks is usually reached by the many things that irritate or annoy you.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
There certainly is a limit to how much we can handle certain situations and remain calm and cool.i just feel that in this day and age, it becomes harder and harder to deal with many things that maybe years ago wouldn't cause so much stress.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
6 Apr 11
We need to think about living like our grandparents. When Grandpa hitched the horse to the buggy to drive 5 miles to town for groceries it took all day to get those groceries. Life was much slower then, and people were just as happy, or even more so than they are today.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I have so much respect for the older generation they knew how to live and how to do it right. This fast paced world of ours has caused more stress than it's worth, very sad!
@naija4real (1293)
5 Apr 11
I am a calm person that is slow to anger. However, I could go crazy if someone delibrate do something that push me to the limit. If for example, a person is owing me some amount of money ask for an extention to enable me raise the money I will approve of it. However, if that person turn to be having a lot of money and I noticed that he played on my intelligience. Then of course, I will not forgive but to apply appropriate sanction to get back my money.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Someone who borrows money and doesn't pay you back and you know they have the funds to do so, is usually taking you for granted and knows you will let it go. The best solution to this problem is to not lend money to anyone you believe has no intentions of paying you back or if you have lent money to the person before and never received it back. Asking for a certain amount of time to pay back a loan is fine, as long as they return the money in the time they say they will and not let you wait forever for it. o do agree this can really make anyone lose patience and not just that, it makes you lose a certain amount of trust as well.
@skydancer (1982)
• United States
5 Apr 11
My patience is tested most in situations that I consider to waste my time, especially if I am trapped in the situation to the extent to where I cannot find something else to occupy myself with in the meantime. Traffic jams are probably the biggest example. My mother tells me I was the same way as an infant whenever my stroller stopped - I would go into total panic mode. Similarly, if I am stuck in the middle of a busy street and cars are stacked up on all sides of me, I feel so trapped and tortured that I actually *fantasize* being waterboarded or being in a prison cell... anything is preferable to being caught in the midst of a traffic jam. Luckily the longest traffic jam I've ever been in didn't last longer than twenty minutes. Still, that twenty minutes of your life where you could have been productive had you not been in traffic. Thunderstorms are another. I am a dancer, so I exercise a great deal, and I can only stand hanging around the house all sweaty for so long. I usually have a set time for a shower everyday, and a thunderstorm will interrupt that. The worst part is, I don't know when it's going to be over or if it's part of one of those clusters which means more thunder will pass through after phase one. It doesn't help that I have an awful phobia of severe weather and when the power goes off (which is seldom, thank goodness!) I just cannot stand it. I used to have a problem with waiting in line, but now as long as the line is moving in an orderly fashion and no one is cutting in front of me just because they see a friend of theirs in front of me (that happened in high school a lot) I am okay with it. If I want something bad enough, waiting in line for it is not so bad. I think being a performer has gotten me a bit used to it as the profession does require a lot of waiting. I believe that patience is a virtue and do get along much better with people who do have patience than those who don't. It does make live easier not to mention make your relations with others easier. As for me, I am not the world's most patient person, however, I would say I am a lot more patient than I used to be.
@jujunme (2425)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Since i don't drive, i can only speak on traffic jams when it comes to my husband.He is more than impatient when it comes to these things. He'll honk the horn, bang on the steering wheel and actually break out in a cold sweat whenever we're stuck n traffic and you don't want to know the language that comes out of his mouth either. As far as thunderstorms, boy, can i sympathize with your phobia of these.i'm petrified of severe storms and i only have to hear there will be one in my area and i start to panic.The dark clouds and that terrible rumble and sometimes explosive sound, to me are so frightening.Sometimes i feel as of they're going to last forever, so of course i have no patience waiting for them to end. Long lines don't bother me, except if i'm in a real hurry and yes,i do believe "patience is a virtue" and as the years go by , i'm learning to have a lot more of it.