7years or 2months?

Philippines
April 7, 2011 2:58pm CST
a 7-year relationship is long enough for a person to decide to marry but what if most of those years were painful experiences? will you go back to that relationship or choose to be with a person who can give you a harmonious and peaceful life.
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8 responses
• United States
7 Apr 11
Being with someone for a long time does not mean you should stay with them. A long past is not a good enough reason to stay together. You're staying in a relationship that doesn't work just because it's comfortable and you're afraid of putting yourself out there again. But in the end it is much better to just move on.
@daxta88 (125)
• Romania
8 Apr 11
Leaving is the easy way :) Of course, if they don't love each other and the past 7 years were painful, there is no reason to be together. In fact why did you waited for so long? My idea was that two people can live a nice normal life if they can get past rainy days.
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
i thought those were just part of the rainy days but over 4years of arguements can't be considered rainy days anymore. more of a stupid way of testing life. huh! well, anyway, i'm happy now. just worried bout my ex who's having a hard time coping.
@daxta88 (125)
• Romania
7 Apr 11
Hey guys! My opinion is stolen from a stand up comedian named Chris Rock. When you are single you want to kill yourself, when you are married you want to kill your spouse: Better her than me :)) Nooo, for real now, I would rather be in a peaceful relationship, but I am only saying that because I never had one. Why do you use the word painful, common it can't be that bad? I took the liberty to visit your profile and you are my age. Why are you talking about marriage? Calm down :)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
it was that bad. he's possessive and doesn't want you to mingle even with cousins. we were living together for 7years.
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
i should say it was emotional, physical, psychological and physical abuse.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Hi. emochique0712. Welcome to myLot! I would choose to be with a person that can give me a harmonious and peaceful life. It can be a shorter relationship and I would not care. I want to feel loved and I don't want to have to carry any painful experiences with me as we are together.
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
that's what i'm doing now. i enjoy life with my present boyfiend and we don't discuss getting married yet coz it will just ruin everything like my previous relationship. i'd like to enjoy it first before we talk serious things like settling down. thanks
@ritzz07 (791)
• India
10 Jun 11
hi i will never be with such a person whos presense is not giving me pleasure of happyness,and i will not be happy if i am not satisfy and i will not satisfied if am not happy,so its better to leave such relation. some times it takes years to understand a person however sometimes in a seconds you can say that this is my one.
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
hi emochique0712.. welcome to mylot! let me ask you first, what is your relationship's current status..? you thought that a 7-year relationship is long enough for a person to decide to marry..well in your case, it's obvious that your having a hard time deciding whether you will marry this guy or not. why the rush..? think it over and over until you are really sure with this guy. once you get married, you get 4 rings.. engagement ring, wedding ring, suffer-ring, & endure-ring.. if you think you are ready to have this rings(especially the last 2), then go for it..but make sure your with the right guy..someone who'll take BEST care of you..
• Bahrain
11 Apr 11
Forget the painful experiences. If both of you are decided to get married, then go with it. In every peaceful and harmonious relationship always experience pain. There's no such thing as perfect relationship, it is on the couples on how they deal with it. Problems come and go, and there is always a solution, but the foundation and the love and trust being established remains in your hearts and minds. That's the essence of love in every relationship.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
personally I would try work the marriage out but some things can't be worked out, some people don't want to work things out and sometimes it can get dangerous if any of the 3 above is in my marriage, well I'm out as soon as I can LOL regardless I am with or without a new person
@marufptc (14)
• Bangladesh
7 Apr 11
hi i will not go to this kind of relationship.i prefer the peaceful life thats why i will make a relationship with a person whom give me love