Are there envious between siblings in a family?

A crowded family - There is a crowded family
Vietnam
April 7, 2011 11:44pm CST
It's no problem if siblings are children. But when they're grown up, they begin to be envious with other sisters or other brothers. Example: A girl will think that her parents love younger sister more than her. Or parents care this person more than other persons. Do you think this issue is true in a crowded family? Have you had this experience?
7 responses
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
I consider my family to be a big family, I have 6 other siblings, 3 elder ones and 3 younger ones. But I never feel that we envy one form the other. Or have to envy the younger ones for they are more loved and has more attention. My parents treat us equally and they taught us to love each other and be giving and kind to our siblings. So we don't really have this kind of problem in my family.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
9 Apr 11
No I've never had this experience. I would like it if my siblings had more love and care. I can take care of myself. But if my parents loved me more then my other siblings, that would make me feel bad but I'm glad our parents love all of us equally.
• Canada
9 Apr 11
I find the opposite. There are bitter sibling rivalries as children when you are desperate for adult attention, and then as you grow up and mature you should be able to live your life without jealousy or anger. If you have one sibling who is immature and tries to turn situations into battles, it is best to live your own life, and be proud of yourself that you do not still act like a child.
• United States
8 Apr 11
I was not raised in the same home as my siblings so I have not experienced this. Sometimes no matter how much parents equally love their children, some of them feel envy/jealousy. It can break relationships and end up as enemies in life. I have seen this with acquaintances where they despise their sibling and for no tangible reason. For some reason one being the oldest and or youngest seems to be a hard thing to deal with.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I actually think this is true in every family. I don't believe any culture is exempt from this. In our family, the eldest and the youngest seem to get all the attention. We are all adults now and this still seems to be the case. Of course, I like the fact that I'm indepentant and don't rely on my parents to bail me out when I mess up. They have bailed both of them out on numerous occasions. It is really sad if you ask me. 43 and 36-years old is too old to be relying on your parents. When you are quite capable of taking care of themselves. Best Wishes!
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
I think its normal for siblings to feel that way but maybe parents dont have this favoritism thing in with the way they treat their kids. I can say this because there was a time when my sister and bother and I were talking about this thing and we realize that there's no such thing that existed in our family but we felt envious of each other before but it was nothing to our parents.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
That is true, my friend. You cannot avoid that. Because in every family there's a black ship who is hard headed...