How do you love the unlovable people?

@masang (295)
Philippines
April 8, 2011 4:30am CST
I met a lot of people who were too strict, with weird character like getting angry without reason, paranoid, judgmental, gossiper. Unfortunately, these kind of people could be your professor, office mate or your boss. How do you deal with these kind of people?
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@owlwings (39218)
• Cambridge, England
8 Apr 11
Loving your neighbour is all about seeing them as a 'child of God'. It is often hard to see anything loveable in some people but it is worthwhile remembering that someone, somewhere loves them or has loved them and that we are assured that God loves them (if we believe in God). In fact, every person is a mixture of things and we are NOT required to love people for what they DO but for what they ARE. Very often, all that we really know about someone is based only on what they DO (and, often, only on what they have done to US!). In order to find something loveable about someone, it is really necessary to get to know more about them, the way they think and work and to try to understand why they think and work the way they do. Only then can we see beyond their behaviour and get a glimpse into their soul.
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@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
I agree!
@Jotomy (6355)
• India
8 Apr 11
@Jotomy (6355)
• India
8 Apr 11
Hi masang, my grandfather is like that very weird character but personally i feel he is good. I like him because he is my grandfather. have a great weekend.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
hello Jo
@digibux (23)
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
For me I would still treat them like normal people because they are also one of us. We have also that kind of attitude like them, I know it’s really hard but the first thing we should do is accept them for who really they are and maybe they have also their own reason why they act like that. If you don’t like them because of their attitude you can tell them in a proper way/manner so that they will not be hurt or can be easily insulted. What’s important is they have also their good side that we should appreciate from them. For me they are also part of our challenge how to become stronger and how to deal with them without avoiding or not to get easily irritated even if it’s really difficult to handle such thing.
• Israel
3 May 11
You are so right, that everyone has a reason for how they are. Most people, with the exception of truly evil people, have a good side.
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
3 May 11
You don't have to love them. Being polite is all that is every expected for non family members. Being polite makes you a better person. It is always the right thing to do.
@ichipink (342)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
When I encounter this kind of people, I first consider if that attitude of his/hers is because he/she have problems with his/her personal life that he/she has not shared. If he/she does have problems, I tend to be more understanding to them. And if it’s possible, I would try to find a way to help him/her. But if it’s really part of him/her to be like that and you can’t do anything to help change him/her, I try to evade or stay away from him/her. If this tends to be my boss or professor, I just do what he/she wants me to do and leave as soon as I accomplish the task. I don’t dare to get more close to them anymore since I know that will only have a negative outcome.
10 Apr 11
i have no idea and we cant help who we fall inlove with.
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
9 Apr 11
I think we have all had an encounter with one or more of these personalities. How do we handle this person who may be a paranoid person, or a professor who is very difficult to approach? We should just ignore their personalities and be the bigger person. You could just not socialize with them, just remain professional and things should be fine. I think things get weird when you try to become more that associates or employee. Never mix business with pleasure.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
I know few people who are strict or very disciplinarian. My grandfather is like one (disciplinarian) not too strict and not too lenient. Judgment ,gossiper or paranoid people,a lot of them around. We can not judge them either. They have reason for acting so. But with the gossiper...i guess it's not good gossiping and creating story about people esp when they never knew well the person that they are making gossips.
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
Wow great job masang, for me your a genius. How do you love the unlovable people? create that topic was so interesting to answer, you attracted me so much. Anyway, my answer to that question is think by showing the unconditional love. If the person you love doesn't love, just try and try, time will come that person will love you also. Best regards to you.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
9 Apr 11
THe answer is simple. MAKE THEM YOUR BEST FRIEND!!! The closer your friendship; the easier it is to point them in the right direction. Show them the view of themselves that others see. Love them unconditionally along the way. It's very hard to leave people who love you unconditionally. Now you have them right where you want them. POINT!!!
• Malaysia
8 Apr 11
I learn this skill when i was in customer service industry. Do you know that human actually always have a repeated character or habit. One of the worlds richest man also practice this.Are you ready......if you are dealing with the same person everyday try to write a note about that person everytime you're in contact or meet. You can actually find that your subject habit on how,why, when or what reacts. You can stop when you know their flow. but dont manipulate after u r good at it, this is just a way for you to get along with anyone.
@Liliac26 (558)
• Romania
8 Apr 11
You don't have to love them. Love is something that comes naturally, out of respect and emotional closeness. You can't force yourself to love people you don't even like. But you should try not to judge them too harshly. Maybe they seem unlovable to you, but others might find them quite worthy of their love.
@whateva (786)
• India
8 Apr 11
No one in this world is unlovable, not even the son of satan unless its satan himself. :p Just know that everyone has some bad habits and no one is perfect, all you can do is whether politely let them know their faults or accept them the way they are. Usually when i find someone rude or really weird kind, someone who you might call ''unacceptable personality'' i tell myself ''damn what a sucky bad habit this person has'' and then i opt on ignoring it like always.
8 Apr 11
Oh,that's really a serious problem.Like one of my neighbours,he always does something that make me feel angry.However,endurance is my way.If we can't change the world,we have to change ourselves.Isn't it?
@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
We often find ourselves irritated to people who are rude, judgmental, paranoid and hot-headed. I mean who doesn't? I admit that sometimes it's hard to be around people who are too bossy, selfish and self-righteous. It's even hard when you have to be with them all the time either at work, school or even at home and it's as if you have no choice but to just deal with it. Do we ever get to think that we too can be annoying and disrespectful sometimes? Nobody is perfect. And the more people who care and take time to understand another person before judging makes it easier to live in a world where nobody is really perfect. We must give chance to those people to be loved even if sometimes we personally think they don't deserve it. I remember my mother always saying, if that person is not nice to you... then be nice to him or her. Maybe in that way or another kind deed will make him/her realize his/her shortcoming. If ever person would just try understand each and love each other... I guess we'd have a better place to live in. It wouldn't be too much to try and love people who are perfect, coz nobody is anyway.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
I think that's one of the most difficult things to do and I its something I would find that's really hard to do but the thing is, we'll have to look for something to love about that person and I guess we will learn later on to love that person.
@allknowing (65059)
• India
8 Apr 11
You don't deal with them but take them in your stride. Often one has to face whatever irritations that result from having to interact with such people but they cannot be all bad. It is up to us to identify the good in them and take advantage of that.