child attitude

Philippines
April 8, 2011 10:19pm CST
halu guys, leave!leave me alone my last child saying that while he's pushing me, i tried to hug him after i whipped him,so i decided to sit down beside him and explain why i did that. he is crying but i know he is listening.my heart was crying too,i don't want to hurt him but,sometimes he acted no respect to others,i know that for him it is a joke,but i was ashamed becoz what if that person can't understand my child attitude and says that i didn't decipline my kid.My last child is very happy child and very persistent,he is very affectionate.he thought that he is only talking to a child like him,even that i'm always saying that he is older than you,he is your grandma,grandpa,but in his ways to petting he forgot that he is talking to older ones.that's why i whipped him. then,after a minute,that i talked to him,i just leave him alone,i went to the bedroom and cried,i don't know if i've done wrong or it was wright.then,he came and hug me. i wipe my tears becoz i don't him to see me crying,i kissed him and hug,i talked him heartily,and he answer i will not do that again,even though i know he will do it again (LOL). i loved so much my kids and they both affectionate.what i'm going to do becoz it's my last child behaviour, do im going to explain to the person his attitude or i'm going to whip him again if he will done to much. i need advices guys thanks so much BLESS TO ALL
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5 responses
@gelayagui98 (1337)
• Australia
10 Apr 11
It is common practice among parents to call their child hardheaded or stubborn because he has been disobedient. It has thus become difficult to tell from the parent's statements whether the child's behavior is problematic or not. At around 2 to 3 your child will develop a tendency to say no, along with other negative phrases like I won't, I don't and I Can't. This is most likely to happen at mealtime, bedtime, or bathtime, or whenever you issue a command. some children say no so relentlessly that they say it even when they say yes. This does not mean that your child has become negative or defiant. He is merely asserting his growing independence. By disagreeing with whatever you propose, he forces you to treat him as a person. Our child should be taught positive ways of releasing emotions. Let teach him to be calm when angry, to dance and sing when he is sad, to hum a tune when he is scared and to count 10 when he is frustrated. Do not mete out punishments that inflict pain. You can instead do isolate the child when he willfully hurts someone. This is effective control measure for naturally outgoing children. Remove the child from the play area. Make him sit in a corner. Punish the child only when all the means of control have been exhausted or when the offense is so serious that its repetition will cause greater harm than the punishment.
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
Halu gelayagui98, i was so amazed with your advices,i think it can help me a lot.yes,it's true becoz as a parent,specially as a mother,we are the first teacher and forever teacher of our children,we should be more patience.we should always think of different kinds of motivation,on how to discipline our children,on how to show proper ways to mingle to others,and in his case he is too young but i should not stop explaining until he reach the wright age to understand everything and i do believe that even though in their young ages,all advices are bear in their mind and heart.yes,i was awaken,child must not punish that inflict pain,(it touched my heart so much).and as additional to my statement,approximately i didn't whip my kids,becoz when they know that i was angry already they will behave and obey,but just i feel ashamed at that time becoz he shows a bad deed to the other person,but for now,your advices brighten my mind for that.thank you so much my dear. thanks also for response GOD BLESS t
• Australia
10 Apr 11
You're always welcome my friend. Let us give our thanks to mylot, too, for we are free to share our opinions, beliefs and views which help us a lot to be a better person. God bless us all.
@MsTickle (24804)
• Australia
12 Apr 11
Hello Sydalg, I think your heart and attitude are in the right place. You don't say how old the child is because age can make a difference. The key to discipline is consistency. Also understanding...does the child understand why he is punished? Does he understand why it is wrong to do what he did? If he is able to give you some feedback on the situation you could work with him to fix the problem. What I mean is, don't wait till the child misbehaves again and again needs to be punished...create the situation and show the child the correct behaviour. Then reward him with lots of praise and cuddles (not toys or food lol) Good luck.
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Halu Ms Tickle, he is 6 years old.you know my dear,i really respect and appreciated your response,i really loved older ones,you're look like a mother to me(if you don't mind ma'am), every sentences in your response it means to me,i really need advices from mothers ahead of me,becoz my mother is far away from us,she is working at other country. thanks so much my dear,i really care and love my kids,i want them to grow up like us, disciplined,lovable,hospitable,with a kind heart,i want them to be a good citizen. thanks again GOD BLESS
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
You've most likely been focusing on your child's improper or bad behavior. It's simple to do when it seems it's never ending. Part of your child's enthusiasm is to get a reaction from you! It is essential, tough not by any means easy, to stay cool and patient as your child misbehaves. If your child is not getting a reaction from you, your child isn't getting the interest he or she craves. This is a very complex step in changing your child's behavior to the optimistic. It will take time and practice from you to be successful, but it will be worth the effort.
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
Halu pogi253, hhhmmm my kid is only 6 years of age and he is not always doing it,there is only a time when he act like that.i'm not approximately whip him,becoz first of all i don't want to hurt him,becoz as a parent(mother)we know that whip sometimes it can't help,specially in their ages,they are too young to understand what you've trying to explain,but sometimes we lost our temper,and we know it's not the proper way.and yes my dear i agree with you, it will take a time for me to practice,becoz as i observed children has different behavior,and my last child is more hyper active and more friendly but in a wrong way (treating even old ones like his age),but my relatives love my last child attitude,they miss him,they miss his naughtiness,his petting,and he is very talkative also,he always ask,he is very observative .and yes,as a mother more patience,best of love to discipline him till he will find and change his bad behavior,becoz when it comes to other people,what the attitude of your children they says that they learned from home(but i'm not conform with this,becoz of pretext).and for now as a mother,a full time and forever teacher of my kids,i'll do all my best to mold them and grow up as a good citizen. thanks you so much for your response GOD BLESS
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
hello syd, Every kids differ from each other. Some kids are quiet and reserved and mosts kids are hyper-active. It's good to discipline kid while they're still young. Regarding your son,i think he is just a normal naughty kid for his age. And i am pretty sure you will love the naughtiness in him rather than having a kid who just sit in a corner and don't move or talk too much the whole day...(which do you prefer? happy weekend
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
Halu Jaiho, (LOL) yah you're wright,i don't want a kid like that just sitting in a corner and don't move or talk(haha)..anyway,yes,he is only 6 years of age. thanks so much jaiho (em/hugz) GOD BLESS
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
hello Sydalg, Discipline is really important and of course hitting, spanking or what so ever has limitations for me if you will hit your child you should explain why you need to do that but don't show them that you have regrets of doing it because they will think that it's fine. Happy Mylotting
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
Halu HON, ye,hon,that's why i don't want him to see me crying ,and i'm trying all my best to explain why i whipped him.(hurting him is just i hurt myself,you can feel that HON,if you will become a mother,(when HON,LOL).anyway thanks to your response mzu(em/hugz) GOD BLESS