Ever think that mylot can be a stress buster and a place to dump our woes?

Oh yeah. I am sure it is for alot of people. I think it really helps alot of people here too. I try not to tell my problems to others in Mylot anymore though. I just try to deal with them myself. I am willing to be there or help others though.

You are totally right.I found a lot of help here and got good friends. But it makes more fun when someone post me back and tells me that i could help him or her

Hi Hatley -- I've posted discussions about personal problems in the past and think of myLot as Therapy 101. Like you said, myLotters responded with advice, suggestions and support. This is probably the biggest group therapy in the world!

Hello Hatley, That is one of the best things about this place. It helps so much. Instead of paying money we get paid. There are so many nice people out here who are going to listen and help. This place works so much like a stress buster, yes. It is so good to have such nice friends here, even feels good to help others.

Hi sweetie. Mylot really is a stress buster. Here we have a lot of different people who go thru the same as we do. We are all the same, so much better to get advice from our friends here. Or just even someone just to hear our rants for a change.

Indeed Miss Hatley - Don't ever forget that I stuck around because of your sweet and endearing words to me. I was at my wits end when you entered my discussion and made me re-think, re-consider and re-live again! I will be eternally grateful for your humble words you placed that day that I find totally priceless. You will be happy to know that since that day you left me those wonderful words I strive on a daily basis here on myLot to pay it forward. Because of you Miss Hatley I have been able to help the many with my own sweet humble words such as the one ones you left for me.

Hi. Hatley. Yes, myLot is a great stress buster. It is a great place to for us to vent about our issues that we may go through in life. We also can heal from any hurt and pain that we are experiencing. It always helps to talk about a problem, instead of holding it in. I am one to know this! I love writing because it relieves my sadness, stress, irritation and frustrations. I get many comments that are relevant to my situation and I feel good afterward too. As we help others with their issues, we help ourselves. Hatley, you have most definitely helped me for three years on myLot. I have been so depressed at times and your words of encouragement and love has helped me through. I may be stubborn about taking your advice, but you can never forget that I always take heed to your advice. I wanted to personally thank you for being a great friend. I don't have as many true friends that I can say are. You are a wonderful person and you have solved many of my dilemmas that I have been dealing with in my life that is outside of myLot. I love you so much for that. I am still dealing with many issues, and I know that I can always find a true and real friend in you!

Cheap counselor I'd say. I like getting different peoples take on my situation. That aspect is always good for me. You are right about each item you listed. I think it is very healthy and I don't know what I ever did with out before I found this site. I wish I could remember how I found out about this site. I have never been the same since. lol

you are right. and i was just reading earlier that socializing with others keeps your mind alert. from aging and all that. that is another thing it does here. i cant socialize with others most of the time except here.

You are so right. Sometimes I wonder if I am the only person feeling this way about something, so I post on Mylot. Just looking at the number of topics here on Mylot, we can see that there is every aspect of people's lives. When something is going bad, write on Mylot, when you are happy, write on Mylot...when you have a concern, write on Mylot. It doesn't matter....come here and find your answers. We are all friends and are here to help.....just like therapy.

Oh I find that it really helps to unload on here. We have so many family issues and I cannot speak about them to people we know, I just feel like if I do I am gossiping because everyone knows them. Here I can vent about what ever it is. Get advice, support and kind words when I need it without the fear of being a gossipy B*tch. I am thankful for this site as I can do this. Also for people like your self who often reply in a way that makes me feel better. I was off of here for a while do to being overly busy but lately I have been coming on more to just to relax.

I believe that you are definitely onto something here. I originally came to mylot as a way of earning some money. However, as I started to spend more time on the site, I found that regardless of the fact that I was earning a little bit of money for the participation that I take part in on the site, being on mylot actually fills a much greater need for me. It is the missing element of adult interaction that I find is fulfilled based on my time on mylot.

Dear Ms. Hatley Of course... This is the beauty of this family. We may have different opinions, our own preferences but yes, when it comes to sharing the problems and finding the solutions, most of us around jump on to help each other. And yes, these problems can range from anything. I had been feeling quite low towards the end of March, and I posted two gloomy discussions... I found a way out and Thanks to the family here... I am back to the better me.

You are absolutely right Miss Hately, being in Mylot is I think in a way therapeutic, it relieves stress cause at least we have a venue to vent out whatever bothers us or what we usually keep inside so long as we do not violate any rules and to top it all you get paid or compensated, imagine getting a free therapy and getting paid , now tell me what site would do that

The internet in general is that for me. I never got into writing in a diary, because I was the only one who would read it. I was not interested in talking to a wall. Blogging is OK, but one has to have followers. MyLot and sites like it offer the best of everything. We can write, and people will read it!

While I agree with you to a certain extent my dear friend there is another side to this aspect of myLot. I think a lot of posts cause the members to be stressed and full of woe or anger. I'm talking of the posts made by members who are constantly negative and moaning about their health, their life, their family or their job. When they attempt to be positive they come of sounding like a martyr. A post like this is fine every now and then but in a place like this there are so many negative people with negative issues. The thing is that many of these problems are self inflicted or caused by themselves and rather than face up to this they come here whining or complaining or ranting, looking for sympathy and they get it. There was one woman here, years ago, a prolific poster who was abusing her children and blaming the children and the majority of responders felt sorry for her!!! This is just another take on things my dear that really brings me down.

You are so right! myLot is a great comfort to me, whether I tell my problems or not. I can read about others and their travails and joys and it makes me feel better. For instance, I recently lost my mother and my friends here helped me so much! I don't have any family close to where I live except my dad who my mom divorced more than 40 years ago, and people here really, truly helped me deal with my grief. People here are great for advice on nearly anything, too! I really like this place!

I tried to post to this discussion last night (early this morning really) when all posting attempts were going nowhere and now I've forgotten what it was that I wanted to say. Anyway, I've seen where myLot members have depended upon advice given within their discussions. They then thank everyone for that advice and do indicate that they have been relieved of stress. We are fortunate that we have such a forum with many varied experiences to draw upon. I've had many life experiences where I can offer my two cents and hope that it helps others. I have also recieved help with my own issues and have had ideas given just by reading of others. I'm glad that I have a myLot membership.

Hi Hatley! Nice to see you! Hope your feeling much better. Yes, it is nice to have a place to come when I feel stressed or just want to "talk" to my friends. It is a place that I have been for a long enough time that I feel comfortable and enjoy the conversations and like to know how the people I care about are doing. And it is definitely a great place to come when advice is needed! There is such a wide variety of people of all types, ages with so many different opionions that you are bound to get the "help" that you need!

Hi hatley, You said it. However tensed or stressed you are if you can dare to log in to mylot and start a discussion about your problem there will be suggestions. And they are more and more. Though they could be different in deliberation but all would tell the same thing which would take your tension off and you are at least for the time being happy now.