relstionship after marriage

Romania
April 11, 2011 4:29pm CST
for the ones who are married: has this step changed your relationship? or the things stayed the same? for the ones who are still engaged: are you afraid of taking this step? why? why not?
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@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Anyone who says that things do not change following getting married is not telling the whole truth. As with any relationship when two people come together as one and live under the same roof you suddenly find everything is not at all like you thought it might be. This is just a fact but it does not mean that it is unbearable. The key to having a successful marriage is to be...first and foremost.....very good friends. If you have become each others best friend it is so much easier to navigate getting to know each other. Whenever a problem comes up you then will have a dear friend that will help you work through it. If you have only been lovers and really do not know each other well before you marry, you may be in trouble. Of course then it comes down to how willing you both are to make the adjustments you must make for the sake of that marriage. If one or both can't or will not then you will have a very big problem on your hands. And the sad part is it makes little difference how good lovers you may have been.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Changes are always there. Every actions change one or many things to you and to other people. However, the strong-founded relationship held each other so whenever your drifted you wont feel strange because you are always drifted as ONE.
@dodo19 (34300)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Apr 11
My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half now, and we really are happy. Sure, we have our share of disagreements, arguments, and such, but every couple have their problems. I don't think that we have a bad relationship. I think that every day our relationship gets a little better, as our love and commitment does grow and we do work more and more every day to be better people and make our relationship a little better. I feel this was the case, whether we're talking about now or when we were engaged or something.
• Philippines
12 Apr 11
when you married the guy you loved. It means a new life with him. It getting more deeper and stronger the relationship because you are building a family. having a family is a new life to lived because of some adjustment. If you love the one you marry no if's and no but's and ready to face the new life ahead. I am married for 14 years now and we are getting stronger in spite of the trials that come our way. I love him and it is reciprocated. No regrets of having him. Afraid and worries are only in the mind. And the experiences of others would not be the same as yours. Just keep on hoping and praying that everything will be all right.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
12 Apr 11
It will never be the same after marriage. There are things that you like before marriage but they dont happen anymore after getting married. its sad actually but before I got married, I already prepared myself for the said changes and I am not surprised about it.
• Philippines
12 Apr 11
I have no previous relationship before my husband, he was my first and I was also his first. Right now, our relationship seems like not of a husband or wife, more like best friends.
@Loner01 (64)
• United States
11 Apr 11
I am happily married, and have been for just about 10 years now. And I have to honestly say that marriage was definitely something that caught me off guard and really hit me hard at first. I think after marriage my relationship with my partner became much more intiment. Though at the same time our relaqtionship became much more relaxed and casual. Becuase while dsting we were always trying to be our best and impress each other as much as we could. And after getting married that pressure was gone. Which made the relationbship much more relaxed and casual as I said before. Which was nice because the pressure was gone, but also at the same time that made more room for possible issues and fights. Though, I have to say, I still love my wife no matter what and getting married was the best thing I've ever dine in my entire life.