Some husbands do not know hard for us being pregnant...

@thereza (316)
Philippines
April 13, 2011 8:04am CST
Most pregnant mothers are taking hard time during pregnancy but some are not. But the sad thing there is husband sometimes are unaware of this hardship. They used think that sometimes we are just over reacting or feeling very important. They do not how we really feel and we are doing many adjustment, pains and sacrifices for us to take care of our child in our womb. I hope husband will take care of their wives all the time especially when they are pregnant. It is a very big responsibility.
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14 responses
@jazzglen (20)
14 Apr 11
Of course not every husband feels or act that way, when I was pregnant I was pampered and given attention because he knows about the discomforts I was going through. He doesn't need to be told on what to do because he anticipates my every need. I think it's a case to case basis, letting husbands participate in every phase of the pregnancy makes them aware of their responsibility and will be sensitive towards the needs of a pregnant woman. .
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
you are lucky enough to have a husband like him. Not all wives treated like what your husband did. thank you for your comment. good day!
16 Apr 11
Indeed, I am very lucky to have him. Sometimes it takes a little push to keep a man going to the direction you wanted him to be. Find time to sit down together and discuss the things you need help with especially with the strenuous tasks at home. Treat issues in a matter-of-fact manner so he will not think you are whining and complaining. Have a good day!
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
having some times to sit down and discuss things even the smallest things really helps to make relationship more stronger. Im glad you had your husband. I hope your life will be more better and better.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
If i may add, i think husbands see household work as a piece of cake. When indeed and in fact, it is so difficult.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
yeah sure my dear! It very difficult they must try it first (husbands) before they give their opinions about this households chores. Most husband cannot do multitasking, my husband is a best example only concentrate on one single work.
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
even having a menstruation! sometimes women are not in the mood, suffering from cramps or headaches because of hormonal change. and men thinks that we just using it as an excuse not to work or do household chores. and we have to gone through with it every month!
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
I agree with that, women really supper many different hard conditions that must understand by people around us most especially our husband.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
14 Apr 11
There are people that are very insensitive, thankfully I believe in reincarnation and how those who didn't care about will be women...
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
thank you for your comment. I also do believed on it! ha ha ha! I am hoping in my next life would be better.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
15 Apr 11
really? that's great cause those who believe in reincarnation and karma live more one day at a time and try to evolve and all. I find it so sad not believing in it, cause life seems helpless. Of course we can't forget about those many guys that really care about, take care of the wife, girlfriend like he knows what she's going through...because maybe they do :D
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
20 Apr 11
We can hope for all this but normally this does not happen.THat is why, it is the usual practice in our communities to keep the pregnant girl at her parents' place for childbirth and she comes back only after recuperating.[a minimum of 6 months--3 or 2 before and 3 or 4 later after delivery].
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
that is a sad truth it only shows that many pregnant woman experiencing this kind.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I totally agree with you. I think husbands at times don't understand what a wife may be going through when she is pregnant because he really can't experience it for himself. Still when others are sick we may have never experienced a certain sickness but we can sympathize with the person who is ill. A husband has to do the same with his wife while she is pregnant. It is a lot of work to and adjustments and he should show her love and appreciation for what she is doing and will do in the future.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
During this hardship our husband can do a big things for us. We more appreciate the care of our husband during pregnancies and in my own experienced even I feel a lot of pains and discomfort I can easily handle it when my husband is in my side and always there to comfort me. I hope that many husband will understand our feelings and sufferings during pregnancy. thank you very much for your comment. Have a blessed days!!
• India
14 Apr 11
Yes, I being a husband go with your words. A lot of care has to be given to the mother not only by the husband but by the entire family, after all the child belongs to the complete family. It is a new life for the mother
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
yI agree its a new life for a mother and also for a father. Best days in life.
• India
14 Apr 11
I can understand perfectly well what you are saying. There are many households where a pregnant lady is not given the love and care she deserves. At least some special treatment is given for the first pregnancy, but subsequent pregnancies are treated just as part of life. the lady has to do all household work, caring for family members and also outside work like going to grocers or market. It is never possible for men to feel what we women go thru those nine months but yes, a more helping and compassionate approach is definitely welcome.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
Thank you and I'm glad you get exactly what I mean to say. I just realized this things after I remember my 2 past pregnancy. That I suffered a lot for my two beloved kids., I am very happy because after all those hardship now I have my kids that relieves my sadness, worries and tiredness. I love them very much. thank you for your comment. Have a nice day!!
@watergirl (569)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
When I was pregnant, I had "morning sickness" the whole 24 hours. I couldn't eat nor sleep. Sometimes, I would just sit on the bed and cry. My hubby ,who couldn't sleep because of my sobbing, would ask me what he could do to help. I would answer, "there's nothing that you can do." I guess I'm lucky my husband is considerate and caring but there are some things that he can't help with when I'm pregnant.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
your experience is really different from all I heard before. yes you are really lucky and be thankful for having him in your life. Congratulation! Enjoy your life being with him forever.
@inertia4 (27384)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Well, I remember when my wife was pregnant, I know it's hard for them. I also know that she was not the kind of woman that would just sit and complain all day. She was energetic, even when she was pregnant. I did what I had to do to help. I know I would never want to go through that pain.
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
That is why women needs a total love and care all the time. Especially during pregnancy. I'm glad you help her and took care of them. Only women can go through that pain. that is how much we can do for all we love.
@youless (90272)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Apr 11
I think most men are just careless. Of course they don't understand how difficult when we are pregnant. Such as it is not easy for us to sleep well since the big belly. And we can't walk fast and we will feel tired easily. Sometimes we will be emotional, too. And we have to be very careful to our diet since it will have an effect on our baby. I love China
@thereza (316)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Yeah right! during my first pregnancy my tummy is very big that almost blocked my sights to see my feet. And also my OB gyne told me to stop eating meals just fruits and milk because my baby is getting bigger inside my womb that was my 7th months. My son weighed 7.5 lbs when he came out in this world. My labor last about 23 hours. its started 10pm of dec 15 2006 but I gave birth 9:15 pm dec 16 i am very tired and very hungry because the doctor said do not eat. I just pray and gave my remaining strength to push my child and successfully I done it. Thank you lord. almost 23hours no food i just secretly ate 3 biscuits and a juice to relieved my starving after delivery. Very very hard. goodluck in mylotting thank you for your response!!
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Husbands should be helping hand in hand to raise the family and help his spouse. Same thing with the wife, she should be also a helping hand to husband. I am just thankful to God that my husband is very supportive and helpful during my pregnancy and even if I was not yet pregnant. During his off day he would do household chores such as cleaning the toilet, washing clothes, cooking etc. Even if I don't ask him to do it, he would initiate the cleaning and cooking. I would sometimes be surprise when I wake up, someone is already in the kitchen doing something and when I check he is already reorganizing things or decluttering the kitchen for me. He does take care of me and our soon to be baby. Whenever I feel my back heavy or such, I can ask him a favor easily, even that means he will be the one to cook the food and go to market to buy the ingredients, I don't hear any complaints. I just love my husband for being so understanding and helpful to me.
@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
12 May 11
I am proud to say that when i was pregnant, my husband was so considerate of me. He would wash the dishes and cook when i am not feeling well. He assists me as i get up from bed. We walk in going to our respective offices then and he would really assist me while i walk. He would even accompany me in some of my prenatal visits. I guess, he knows how hard it is to be pregnant.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
This is one of the most precious stage in my life being a wife and a mother. During my pregnancy i can say that my husband is very supportive and never think that i am just over acting. In my first pregnancy he was always there and even leave office to bring me to my ob-gyne for the check up. He's more excited than i am and even more nervous when i had my labor pains. I know some husband are not aware how hard it is for pregnant women to have all those inconvenience during those times. The morning sickness,the foods that we crave for...those things that we hate and even smell that we really throw up when we can not take the odor. But some husband are supportive and even caring
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Husbands will often believe that their wives are just complaining when they tell them how hard it is to be pregnant. Not only does a woman's body go through so many changes, her emotions do as well. If the husband could experience everything from a pregnancy, he may have a different point of view about his wife's feelings.